getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

if you're getting "older," would you ever consider being a surrogate for another woman and/or couple?

the thread about the friend who is 39 and wants a baby got me thinking.

all the women in my life who i would, hands down, carry a baby for... well, they all have more kids than i do. but back when we were in our 20s and not everyone was a mom, yet... i would not have hesitated a single second if any of those four women asked me to carry their baby(s) for them.

is there anyone you would carry a baby for?
how old do you think might be too old to be a surrogate for a family member or friend?



the four women in my life were (past tense only because they all have babies): my sister and my three cousins (who are like sisters to me).

i'm 42. i think i'm over the hill to be a surrogate.

Message edited 2/23/2016 11:11:19 AM.

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I would love to be a surrogate and have offered to a few people in my life. I am early 30's and done having kids for myself.
I have offered and would be a surrogate for my sister or sister in law and my bff. Two of those three had trouble conceiving and if needed I would have been more then happy to do it for them.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

Yes, I would consider it but only for someone I could guarantee I would be a part of their life like my best friend or a family member.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

I could not do it.

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I couldn't do it but applaud those who do.

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My best friend growing up and his husband if they wanted a biological child of their own. My sister and my best girlfriend had they needed me too (they didn't, but if they did, would have in a heartbeat). Thats it though.

Message edited 2/22/2016 6:42:41 PM.

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I would have done it if it was for my sister. Other then her, no. I admire woman you do it for others. The most generous, loving, incredible gift in the world.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

If I was younger, I would do it in a second.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

My brother and his wife struggled with infertility. I offered to do it for them, but they decided to adopt instead

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

I wish I knew someone who would carry for me, as that is what the DRs want.

If I could I would consider it for someone in need.

I don't think it would need to be someone close because I don't know if I could handle seeing the baby, child, adult..as they grow

Message edited 2/22/2016 7:28:24 PM.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

I don't think I'd be able to do that.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

Yes, I would. I've considered it for a friend but it's a complicated decision and I think a lot more goes into it than most people realize.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

If I was going to do it for anyone, it'd be for my sisters. I have some issues after having my DS so at this point, I probably wouldn't.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

Only for my sister, SIL . I feel the best when I'm pregnant!

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

I've never had kids (don't plan on it) but I would be open to the idea for a family member or friend.

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I love being pregnant and I have had uncomplicated pregnancies. However, I would only carry a baby for my SILs or one of my cousins. I don't have any sisters.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

I could not. Pregnancy and I do not agree. It's unlikely I will ever get pregnant again with my own child so I couldn't do it for someone else.

I think it's an incredibly selfless thing to do and all you ladies who said you would do it are truly wonderful women!

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I couldn't do it. Maybe if I had a sister but even then I don't know.

You are definitely not too old at 42 to have a kid. I have a couple of cousins that had kids at 41/42. I also want a third and will be around 40 if that happens.

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No, I couldn't do it.

1. I have rough pregnancies and I don't think that I would want to sacrifice my career and time with my own kids if I had another high risk pregnancy. It was bad enough when it was my own.

2. I think I would have a hard time detaching.

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I would totally do it and I've thought about it when people close to me were having trouble. I have rough pregnancies too, but there's something about being able to give someone that kind of gift that would make me want to gladly deal with 9 months of torture.

getting older and baby... spinoff SURROGATE

I offered to do it for my sister when she was struggling - she wound up having twins though <3 - I would also do it for my BFF if she needed it.

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it would be for my brother if he had a spouse and they couldnt for whatever reason. but im 37 and he's going on 33 with no prospects of being married anytime soon.

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I give credit to those who can do it but I honestly don't think I could. Especially now having kids of my own, if I'm going to go though the VERY long 9 months of pregnancy it's going to be to add to my family, not someone else's. And at almost, 41........I feel too old to be a surrogate for someone else.

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MAYBE for my sister. Otherwise, nope. Never.

ETA: I'm actually enjoying being pregnant- I've had a very easy pregnancy and I'm 31 weeks along. But even if it's someone else's egg/sperm, I'd still be a little possessive. I think my sister is the only person who this would fly with and who I would feel comfortable giving a baby up to. Not even my brother and his hypothetical future wife.

Message edited 2/23/2016 12:55:11 PM.

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No way. I barely wanted to carry one for myself.
I swore I would NEVER be pregnant again. I hated being pregnant with a passion.
No way could i go through that helll for anyone other than my own baby.