Re: What does DH do after work?

what does he do?

One thing and one thing only..



EVERYTHING!




If I'm lucky I try to pick up AJ, but generally he gets there first so he does the pick up from school which could be walking her home if its a nice day, then they go get the mail.

If I'm home by then and its bath night I give her a bath but a lot of the times I'm not home and so he gives her a bath.

After bath he starts her on her homework while he starts on dinner.

I get home around then if not earlier and hammer down the homework with her while he cooks dinner.

She eats and he finishes our dinner, we all eat and then he cleans up, does the dishes and takes out the trash while AJ and I watch TV, read, laptop or finish homework.

I put her to bed if I'm home (if I'm away, he's the man for the job) around 8:30. By 9pm he's done with all the other stuff and at 930 the cats are fed and he clears out their litter. By 10pm we both sit on the couch.

Um I serve him dessert and keep her out of his hair when I'm home, does that count? LOL I also wash clothes (tho he will end up folding them).

I keep the cars in check
I keep the bills paid
I make and keep everyone's appts
I plan out any upcoming events and keep the calendar
I plan vacations and budgets
I keep her room clean and the table
I keep the house supplied in every manner possible
I am keep the house maintenance (repairs, updates or fixing small things).

We both work full time. He is closer to home than me.

What does DH do after work?

Hoestly I feel like men in general need guidance. While my husband does more then I would have expected, I still need to give him direction. But this is not a test, why set him up to fail if I can help? He never says no, but I don't expect him to be detail oriented because thats not who he is, but I am. Its all about teamwork

What does DH do after work?

DH does nothing. He leaves for work at 9:30 am and gets home about 8 pm. He doesn't get out of bed until she leaves for school at 9 am. I have basically given up as after all these years it's as much my fault as his as I never said anything. But now that she is a little older I do plan "girls nights out" and activities so he needs to take over the night time routines when I am not there.

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Hmmm, I might be more like you. Are you a SAHM? My dh also works crazy hours. When he is home he is either exhausted or screaming on the phone with clients. Yes, screaming. He is very loud. In no way does he "take over." It is more like carrying ds around for a little bit and giving some hugs and kisses. He is very loving, but I would def not say that he takes over, like my job is done. I am basically responsible for ds's welfare 97 percent of the time. If I weren't a SAHM, my ds would not see my husband at all during the week. Overall, there is not much that can be changed.

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My DH used to do this and sometimes still does(his thing is watching PTI) BUT I get into it with him. I say-ok I will cook them dinner, you can do bath and brush teeth. I always give him an option which involves him doing something! Its gotten a LOT better.

In your case, on the days he's home, I would say-ok I am hopping in the shower. She can have oatmeal for breakfast-her clothes are on the table. I know she would love it if you read her a book too! I am going to lock the door so she doesnt come looking for me.

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My DH leaves for work at 530am and gets home around 4pm. Many days he picks up our DS from preschool on hisau home. At least three days a week he stops at supermarket to get food. He mainly does the shopping. He gets home, changes clothes and makes coffee. He will either sit and relax with me and kids or start cooking dinner. He is the cook as well. Two days a week he likes to go to crossfit after he gets home.
I'm home with kids all day and do most of the cleaning, laundry, appointments, running to pre school, etc...

After dinner I usually clean up and DH has been doing bath time since I'm pregnant. Get the kids dressed and rady for bed. DH takes shower then me. Kids in bed by 8pm. Then we sit and relax.

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My husband works the afternoon shift, and I'm out of the house at 4:45am. My husband has the girls solo in the morning before nursery school. He gets them ready, etc. and on days there's no school he has them solo til babysitter or grandma takes over at 1:30pm. He's amazing with the girls.

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DH spends a lot of time with DD but I wouldn't call a lot of it quality time. It's more supervising than spending time. He gets her up in the morning and changes her diaper. Then, he brings her into the living room and puts her in front of the TV until I am showered and ready. I don't love that he puts her in front of the TV, but I need to get things done and I can only ask him to spend time with her so many times. Once and a while he will empty the dishwasher also which is very helpful!! He also gives her breakfast which us helpful as well.

After work he sometimes helps with dinner. I am not a good cook (bad Italian ). He also helps with baths.

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After work he eats and then falls asleep in an upright position on the couch while I badger the shit out of him, lol. I know he's exhausted though. If I really need something from him, he'll do it though. He gives the kids a bath about a third of the times.

DH does a lot more in the morning to help me, when we're all sleeping. Walks dog, does dishes if there's time, feeds animals and cleans litter, takes out trash.

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What does DH do after work?

DH does a lot, I am lucky. He often picks them up from daycare. When we are home we are both taking care of them. One of us will do dinner and the other entertains the kids. When its nice we all go for a walk in the neighborhood or play in the backyard. He would definitely prefer not to do bath time, I always give DD bath and he or I will give DS...then we all do the nighttime routine together - my DS would not let him get away with not participating lol he is VERY attached to his daddy!

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My DH gets out of work before I do, so he picks up the kids, gets dinner ready, and feeds the kids.

Sometimes he eats with them, sometimes he waits for me to get home. It depends on what's for dinner and if he has to run out after I get home.

If he's eaten, my dinner is ready for me on the table by the time I change out of my work clothes.

He does a LOT after work. I am not organized, disciplined and fast enough to get all that accomplished in an hour and a half. Sometimes I swear he's testing himself to see how much he can get done in as little time possible.

When I get home a whole other routine starts up with cleaning, bath time, etc.

What does DH do after work?

When it comes to child care I do 99% my husband is the 1%. But, he will cook, wash dishes and do laundry .

What does DH do after work?

I do everything.

DH works on the house.

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I am a ftwm and before dd2 was born I did/do about 95% but dh is up and out before 7am and home around 8pm. So I wind up doing most. He does jump in and cook and does give dd1 a shower. At night I do need to hand over one of the kids because being on maternity leave it gets a bit crazy at home some days. (Hands up to all you SAHM) He did step it up when I was pregnant and that helped a lot.
The best advice I got before I had kids was" don't do everything or you will own everything while hubby lets you do them. " it's so true.

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DH is a very hands on dad. He usually plays with the boys outside after school - riding bikes, kicking soccer ball, hitting tennis balls, etc. The kids also like cleaning up the yard with him (rake leaves, pull weeds).

DH does not like taking the kids to bday parties or classes so I do all that.

DH does baths 90% of the time. He has been doing baths for the boys since both boys were born.

We try to outsource as much housework as possible so we can spend more quality time with the kids. Before we had paid help, it was stressful dealing with clean up, laundry, errands, cooking, etc. We fight a lot less since we started outsourcing. Cleaning once every two weeks the way we used to have before we had kids just wasn't enough.

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DH doesn't have wacky hours so that makes things a little easier I guess. He's home around 6 every night, we have dinner as a family then we play with the kids for a little while after dinner. I put the baby to bed at 6:30-6:45 then we spend some time with our DD. He gets her ready for bed around 7:45 and then she's in bed at 8. After that we spend the rest of the night together relaxing.

ETA - I do most everything during the week because I'm a SAHM. On weekends I get the kids dressed and bathed but otherwise we are both dealing with them all day.

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DH works from 4:30am to 1pm, sometimes longer, and I am a SAHM so everything is on me, by the time he gets home he can barely keep his eyes open. He takes a nap on the couch or upstairs for a couple of hours so that when it's dinner time he can keep an eye on the kids while I cook. He had more "work" to do when they were little but they are 4 and 5.5 now so they can play by themselves and he can get more rest. On his days off he does just as much as I do. I can't ask for more than that!