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ThreeforTea
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
"Full House" star Candace Cameron Bure has written a book that is sure to get women talking -- though perhaps not in the way she anticipated.
"Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose," is all about her life as a working wife and mom. But she also includes some information about her marriage to professional hockey player Val Bure. The couple have been married for 17 years and have three children.
"I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work," the actress writes in her book.
During a recent interview with The Huffington Post, Cameron Bure explained what she meant.
"The definition I'm using with the word 'submissive' is the biblical definition of that," she said. "So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength."
"And, listen, I love that my man is a leader," she said. "I want him to lead and be the head of our family. And those major decisions do fall on him. ... It doesn't mean I don't voice my opinion. It doesn't mean I don't have an opinion. I absolutely do, but it is very difficult to have two heads of authority."
"In my marriage we are equal ... in our importance, but we are just different in our performances within our marriage," she said.
The actress/author is still remembered for her role as playing D.J. Tanner on "Full House" and continues to work, most recently on the Hallmark Channel's movie "Let It Snow."
Her family is no stranger to controversy. Her brother, "Growing Pains" star Kirk Cameron was criticized in 2012 for comments he made about gay marriage to CNN's Piers Morgan. Cameron Bure sought to explain that she does not consider her role as a wife to be less than that of her husband's in their relationship.
As for a possible "Full House" reunion Cameron Bure told The Huffington Post that fans of the show "would love to see that happen, so who knows?"
http://www.cnn.com/2014/01/07/showbiz/celebrity-news-gossip/candace-cameron-book/index.html?hpt=hp_c3
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I really like her. I follow her on Instagram and she has a beautiful family and they all look fun-loving and happy.
I get what she's saying. It is how her marriage works... they've been married 17yrs... they are doing something right.
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MsSissy
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Married 17 yrs. So it seems to work for them. I see nothing wrong with it.
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| Posted 1/9/14 10:15 AM |
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Ayne11
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Seems to be working for them!
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ThreeforTea
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I agree that it works for them so I don't see nothing wrong either!
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| Posted 1/9/14 10:18 AM |
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ThreeforTea
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I want to read her book!
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| Posted 1/9/14 10:19 AM |
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MarathonKnitter
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
i'm another vote for: i can see where she's coming from and after 17 years, she knows what she's doing in her marriage.
in a world where 50% of marriages end in divorce... *cough* 100% for me... they're doing something right.
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sometimesmommy
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Whatever works. I am learning that marraige is work. People just want others to believe in a fairy tale. But sometimes what works is a set up like this.
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| Posted 1/9/14 10:48 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: 'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Posted by MsSissy
Married 17 yrs. So it seems to work for them. I see nothing wrong with it.
i agree~!
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Good for her! Glad she found what works!
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
If it aint broke don't fix it! Good fo them!
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| Posted 1/9/14 11:00 AM |
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Samira0407
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
Seems to work for her! And I like when she said "but we are just different in our performances within our marriage," she said"
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That's what works for them - and 17 years is inspiring. Good for them!
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I understand her point. My mother I believe is sort of like this and had this view, however, over years, I DO believe there is a good chance of resentment building up. I know I can see it with my mom, after all these years of being "submissive".
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As others have said, if it works for her, go for it! I really, really like her.
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BlessedMomma
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I get it and I get what shes saying. There are times my dh takes the lead and makes the decision on something WE DISCUSS first he hears me out, listens to my opinion but I ultimately let him make the decision.
There are times he lets me make the ultimate decision. It is how a marriage works. sometimes you take the lead for different things. I dont see anything wrong with what shes saying. I think the word submissive is the issue, that word I dont like LOL
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Posted by BlessedMomma
I think the word submissive is the issue, that word I dont like LOL
I bristle at "submissive" and "meek", too. What you describe is compromise, not submission, and that I can get on board with.
ETA: But whatever floats their boat. I'm not married to 'em!
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DaniJude
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It's just lack of a better word, I think. I think it really is a matter of "give and take" and that's what truly makes relationships work. And no matter what, if it works for them - great.
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Posted by DaniRella
It's just lack of a better word, I think. I think it really is a matter of "give and take" and that's what truly makes relationships work. And no matter what, if it works for them - great.
Yeah, I think it was poorly worded. But "submission" is just about the opposite of "give and take". The better word WOULD be compromise, but everyone knows (or at least has heard) that compromise is the key to any successful relationship so she wanted to be different and hey, it got us all to read an article about DJ Tanner when her name hasn't passed my lips since I was about 10 years old.
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Pumpkin1
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
IMO, she is using the word "submissive" correctly and she does not mean "compromise." In their marriage, her husband has the final word and, in return, he provides and protects her. I think it takes a special kind of relationship for this to work which is groundly firmly in mutual respect. It sounds like they found that balance and I'm sure that balance was easy given they are both moderatly wealthy. However, for the everyday man, I'm not sure how this arrangement would work for everyday people are struggle financially, emotionally, etc.
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StaceyWill
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Posted by Pumpkin1
IMO, she is using the word "submissive" correctly and she does not mean "compromise." In their marriage, her husband has the final word and, in return, he provides and protects her. I think it takes a special kind of relationship for this to work which is groundly firmly in mutual respect. It sounds like they found that balance and I'm sure that balance was easy given they are both moderatly wealthy. However, for the everyday man, I'm not sure how this arrangement would work for everyday people are struggle financially, emotionally, etc.
I was going to say something similar. I think she means "submissive" in the true sense.
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Posted by Pumpkin1
IMO, she is using the word "submissive" correctly and she does not mean "compromise." In their marriage, her husband has the final word and, in return, he provides and protects her. I think it takes a special kind of relationship for this to work which is groundly firmly in mutual respect. It sounds like they found that balance and I'm sure that balance was easy given they are both moderatly wealthy. However, for the everyday man, I'm not sure how this arrangement would work for everyday people are struggle financially, emotionally, etc.
I was going to say something similar. I think she means "submissive" in the true sense.
If that's the way she meant it.. then... like I said- whatever floats their boat, I'm not married to 'em. This would NOT work in my marriage, that's for sure.
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Posted by Pumpkin1
IMO, she is using the word "submissive" correctly and she does not mean "compromise." In their marriage, her husband has the final word and, in return, he provides and protects her. I think it takes a special kind of relationship for this to work which is groundly firmly in mutual respect. It sounds like they found that balance and I'm sure that balance was easy given they are both moderatly wealthy. However, for the everyday man, I'm not sure how this arrangement would work for everyday people are struggle financially, emotionally, etc.
I got that impression too. She was only 20 when she married him. If she'd been out on her own and independent- say if she'd been 25 or so- it would have been a lot harder for her to be submissive. I'd also imagine her family was very Christian and that may be what her parents modeled for her. But I hope it works out because I bet she would have a very hard time should she ever find herself divorced or widowed- to have to make decisions for yourself after deferring to someone else always would be very challenging IMO.
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she explained it beautifully and I think she makes perfect sense.
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'Full House' star says she's 'submissive' to her husband
I understand what she means.
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