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J9-13
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Hmmm...typically I wouldn't ask someone to make something unless they offered first BUT if I really liked something that my close friend or family made and I wanted them to bring it to my party, I would have said this:
"Hey, would you be able to make deviled eggs for my party? I'll reimburse you for the cost of everything needed"
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by stinger
Are they having money issues that you don't know about?
No, not really. They are very open and tell us many things about their finances.
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| Posted 11/11/13 3:22 PM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Could it be that she didn't feel like going to the store and picking them up?
Are they bringing the eggs? How did you leave off?
I need to know all of this before I decide how weird it is. Lol
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| Posted 11/11/13 3:32 PM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by greenybeans
Could it be that she didn't feel like going to the store and picking them up?
Are they bringing the eggs? How did you leave off?
I need to know all of this before I decide how weird it is. Lol
lol. Well it is not for a few weeks. She said she would do it though but just thought it was odd not to just say why you can't and not just ask me to buy the ingredients. She is very open and honest with us all the time so I was surprised she wouldn't just tell me if she could not afford them or did not have the time.
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| Posted 11/11/13 3:50 PM |
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lynnd126
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Home Party-Food and Drink Related
I only have a handful of friends close enough for me to be like, hey you are bringing your deviled eggs. I am so close with those friends that if they asked me to the supply the eggs, I'd be like, are u insane- they're $3. So, I guess my thought is that you are not close enough with the neighbor to dole out a request and perhaps her comeback was more bc she was annoyed at you for doing so. The whole thing is bizarre.
Eta I'd very much like to hear how you replied no, you won't supply the eggs, and then what she said next.
Message edited 11/11/2013 5:36:06 PM.
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| Posted 11/11/13 5:34 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by ThePinkGoose
That is really strange. I guess i'm going to go out on a limb here and say that because they didn't offer to bring anything and you went ahead with the request for them to make eggs, they saw it as you asking for a favor (not the alternate view of you asking them to just contribute) if any of that makes sense? Still weird though........
This is exactly how I felt about it.
Which is why I asked the question if they offered or you asked.
But I agree...Still weird! Very weird.
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| Posted 11/11/13 5:42 PM |
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KarenK122
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Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Definitely weird and I can't believe they would ask for the eggs. I also though unless they were my sister ask them to make anything if they did not ask. When is/was the party. Maybe they didn't have a chance to get to the store and figured you had them?
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| Posted 11/11/13 6:31 PM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by greenybeans
Could it be that she didn't feel like going to the store and picking them up?
Are they bringing the eggs? How did you leave off?
I need to know all of this before I decide how weird it is. Lol
lol. Well it is not for a few weeks. She said she would do it though but just thought it was odd not to just say why you can't and not just ask me to buy the ingredients. She is very open and honest with us all the time so I was surprised she wouldn't just tell me if she could not afford them or did not have the time.
Well I think that you have to buy the eggs for her if she is still making them. It would be rude not to.
I would just let her off the hook though. It doesn't seem like she wants to make them, or maybe she thinks it was ballsy for you to ask. I would apologize and tell her to just come and enjoy the party.
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| Posted 11/11/13 6:53 PM |
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by PearlJamChick
This whole thing is weird. I think it's presumptuous to tell someone to bring something to a party without them asking "what can I bring?" I also think that by them asking you to buy the eggs, they are either on really tough times financially or they just don't want to make them, so that was their way of saying they didn't want to.
ITA. I'm sorry, but I find this whole situation very strange.
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| Posted 11/11/13 7:28 PM |
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alli3131
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Home Party-Food and Drink Related
I find the fact you asked them to bring something without them offering to be more bizarre than the asking for the eggs.
I have friends and family that give us food all the time but if I was hosting a party I would never out of the blue ask them to cook.
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| Posted 11/11/13 9:34 PM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by stinger
Are they having money issues that you don't know about?
This is the only thing I can think of.....except a dozen eggs is $3.69. If you asked them to make 100 it could add up a bit.
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| Posted 11/12/13 8:55 AM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by KarenK122
Definitely weird and I can't believe they would ask for the eggs. I also though unless they were my sister ask them to make anything if they did not ask. When is/was the party. Maybe they didn't have a chance to get to the store and figured you had them?
It is not for another couple weeks so they have time to get them. It wasn't something asked last minute.
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| Posted 11/12/13 10:48 AM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by lynnd126
I only have a handful of friends close enough for me to be like, hey you are bringing your deviled eggs. I am so close with those friends that if they asked me to the supply the eggs, I'd be like, are u insane- they're $3. So, I guess my thought is that you are not close enough with the neighbor to dole out a request and perhaps her comeback was more bc she was annoyed at you for doing so. The whole thing is bizarre.
Eta I'd very much like to hear how you replied no, you won't supply the eggs, and then what she said next.
She just said ok, I will bring them.
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| Posted 11/12/13 10:49 AM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by greenybeans
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Posted by greenybeans
Could it be that she didn't feel like going to the store and picking them up?
Are they bringing the eggs? How did you leave off?
I need to know all of this before I decide how weird it is. Lol
lol. Well it is not for a few weeks. She said she would do it though but just thought it was odd not to just say why you can't and not just ask me to buy the ingredients. She is very open and honest with us all the time so I was surprised she wouldn't just tell me if she could not afford them or did not have the time.
Well I think that you have to buy the eggs for her if she is still making them. It would be rude not to.
I would just let her off the hook though. It doesn't seem like she wants to make them, or maybe she thinks it was ballsy for you to ask. I would apologize and tell her to just come and enjoy the party.
No, she did say she would.
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| Posted 11/12/13 10:49 AM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by alli3131
I find the fact you asked them to bring something without them offering to be more bizarre than the asking for the eggs.
I have friends and family that give us food all the time but if I was hosting a party I would never out of the blue ask them to cook.
It is not really out of the blue as I have explained they bring us stuff all the time and it is not for another couple weeks. Not a last minute thing.
Maybe I am just used to doing this with friends and family (and them asking back) that I didn't think it was odd and actually take it as a compliment when someone asks me to make something for their party.
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| Posted 11/12/13 10:50 AM |
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Paramount
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by alli3131
I find the fact you asked them to bring something without them offering to be more bizarre than the asking for the eggs.
I have friends and family that give us food all the time but if I was hosting a party I would never out of the blue ask them to cook.
It is not really out of the blue as I have explained they bring us stuff all the time and it is not for another couple weeks. Not a last minute thing.
Maybe I am just used to doing this with friends and family (and them asking back) that I didn't think it was odd and actually take it as a compliment when someone asks me to make something for their party.
It's not odd of you to ask by the way. I have one dish all my friends like. When there is a party I a, asked "hey can you bring that dish". I am happy to do so. It's not a problem asking people you know to do something like that. Most friends are happy to.
It's just weird they asked you to buy the eggs. I don't get it.
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| Posted 11/12/13 11:49 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
That is ridiculous. Just say no.
I make a dessert that's awesome but it's very time consuming and somewhat costly to make. DH's friend's wife always asks me to make it for their parties. I find it flattering quite frankly. Sometimes I will make it but sometimes I just tell her I don't have the time to do it. That's that. She understands. I would never say "Okay well if you go buy .... I'll find the time to make it". Just say no!
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| Posted 11/12/13 11:52 AM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by Paramount
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by alli3131
I find the fact you asked them to bring something without them offering to be more bizarre than the asking for the eggs.
I have friends and family that give us food all the time but if I was hosting a party I would never out of the blue ask them to cook.
It is not really out of the blue as I have explained they bring us stuff all the time and it is not for another couple weeks. Not a last minute thing.
Maybe I am just used to doing this with friends and family (and them asking back) that I didn't think it was odd and actually take it as a compliment when someone asks me to make something for their party.
It's not odd of you to ask by the way. I have one dish all my friends like. When there is a party I a, asked "hey can you bring that dish". I am happy to do so. It's not a problem asking people you know to do something like that. Most friends are happy to.
It's just weird they asked you to buy the eggs. I don't get it.
Yeah, that is the weird part, IMO also. If there was a reason behind it, I would have rather have gotten a no, I can't, sorry.
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| Posted 11/12/13 11:52 AM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by FirstMate
That is ridiculous. Just say no.
I make a dessert that's awesome but it's very time consuming and somewhat costly to make. DH's friend's wife always asks me to make it for their parties. I find it flattering quite frankly. Sometimes I will make it but sometimes I just tell her I don't have the time to do it. That's that. She understands. I would never say "Okay well if you go buy .... I'll find the time to make it". Just say no!
Exactly.
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| Posted 11/12/13 11:53 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by alli3131
I find the fact you asked them to bring something without them offering to be more bizarre than the asking for the eggs.
I don't think so. Sometimes people make some real crowd-pleasing dishes so what's the harm in asking? Especially something simple like deviled eggs? I've been asked to make things and I think it's flattering.
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| Posted 11/12/13 11:56 AM |
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JAPH23
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
I feel like, because she didn't offer to bring anything, she thought you were asking as a favor to help out and make them.Therefore I don't think it's that weird that she asked if you could supply the eggs. I mean personally, If I were her I wouldn't have asked that, but still I think its semi justified.. especially if you asked her to make something for a party where she may not know how many people are attending.
On the other hand, I think it is a bit weird that you said no. If you are saying that the eggs are $3 and why can't she just buy them, then I think the same goes for you. JMO. I would have said sure and picked them up the next time I was at the store. Otherwise I would just feel so awkward asking someone to bring something and then saying no to supplying the ingredients if they asked.
This is why I never ask anyone to bring anything 
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| Posted 11/12/13 12:23 PM |
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angnick
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
OMG i would never ask someone to provide supplies to a party hA
If i ask someone what I can make, I make it with my own supplies
wow that takes some nerve!!!!!
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| Posted 11/12/13 12:29 PM |
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Re: Home Party-Food and Drink Related
Posted by JAPH23
I feel like, because she didn't offer to bring anything, she thought you were asking as a favor to help out and make them.Therefore I don't think it's that weird that she asked if you could supply the eggs. I mean personally, If I were her I wouldn't have asked that, but still I think its semi justified.. especially if you asked her to make something for a party where she may not know how many people are attending.
On the other hand, I think it is a bit weird that you said no. If you are saying that the eggs are $3 and why can't she just buy them, then I think the same goes for you. JMO. I would have said sure and picked them up the next time I was at the store. Otherwise I would just feel so awkward asking someone to bring something and then saying no to supplying the ingredients if they asked.
This is why I never ask anyone to bring anything
Thanks 
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| Posted 11/12/13 12:47 PM |
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Blazesyth
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Home Party-Food and Drink Related
I would have hinted at it, saying how good they are and you want to make them for the party, ask for the recipe.. all just hoping that the person would say "I'll just make them!"
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