Why do people think this is acceptable!?

Why do people think its okay to give negative feedback about a name we already picked?

Before I was even pregnant, if we had a son I wanted to name him after DH.

I've heard from a couple people that "I shouldn't have a jr." and then they cite their reasons whether it be the kid will hate it or its confusing...

I want to be like "Oh wow, you're right- I'm going to change my mind about the name I picked out just because YOU think its a bad idea"

I didn't ask for an opinion!! People ask what we're naming the baby and I tell them. Not because I want their opinion- because they asked a question!!!

Whatever happened to: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all?


Ok- vent over.

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You know what they say opinions are like rt... LOL Just ignore them it's not anyones concern what you and your DH choose to name YOUR child. If you wanted input i'm sure you guys would have asked before making your choice, right? (wow, I feel like I just did my own venting for a sec... sorrry)

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There is one name I have liked for a while (even before being pregnant) and whenever name discussions would come up people would have something to say about it. Ummm I don't care if your ex had an ex with that name or you associate it with someone from TV or if you have some horror story about why you think it's horrible... I would NEVER tell someone I didn't like a name they picked... I'd probably tell DH afterwards but never to their face!

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That's why we aren't telling anyone the names before LO is born - not even our parents.

Everyone has an opinion, and I just don't care. Hopefully, once the name is actually assigned to the baby after birth, they will keep opinions to themselves!

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I feel your pain mama.
We went through the same crap but with my ILs.

Sometimes being an assholeeee can help. It worked for DH

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We have gotten so many rolling eyes and nasty comments from MIL and my mom about the names we like... to the point that when people ask now I just say "we're not really sure yet". And I am only 7 weeks.... we got a long way to go. Its so friggin annoying.

I am still bitter that the name we both loved for years for a girl... DH's friend used (they had like 5 they liked, so I kinds hoped they would leave Abigail for us). Now we can't use it.... i mean we could, but I won't.

Why do people think this is acceptable!?

We did only tell anyone even parents the names we picked until after the babies were born for this reason!

We just announced skylar and jayden were born at such and such time

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Didnt*

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When we were just a few wks along I opened up about a few names I liked, when asked, at a dinner at DH's Aunts house. Well, as you ladies already know, the opinions started flying. I shut my trap really quick and on the ride home told DH that I didnt want to discuss names to anyone else. He agreed....... but it didnt last long. Long story short DH has been very vocal about our name.

My MIL hates the name, its actually her father's name. Its very ethnic, Italian and I actually dont know of another person w/the name. She told DH that his grandmother was rolling in her grave that we were going to name our child that name (I almost reached across the table and slapped her). DH's Grandparents were his heros and she knows that, such a ridiculously insensitive thing to say. Even my father was in on the act. She predicts that our child will be miserable if hes a boy b/c of the name.

So, long story short, do your best to brush them off. Its hurtful and mean when ppl make these comments but aside from fight over it, there isnt much more you can do.

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bleh - i feel your pain! some people are just jerks. There's nothing wrong with using your DH's name!

We weren't going to tell anyone our name options (we haven't chosen one yet) but my family kept bugging us like crazy about it. Finally we told them our favorite name and they totally ruined it and told us it was very nerdy and he'd be beaten up all the time. We still like that name, but much much less than we did before. Not sure what we'll do yet but i do know that all future name ideas are being kept secret!

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I know, Right like peoples opinions count for anything.

I told my friend that I liked the name Celeste when we were coming up with names. Her response " Like the Pizza?" I didnt even know there was a pizza with that name. So that was the last time I shelled out name ideas to anyone.

I dont/didnt care what people thought. Up to the actual birth I told people the name was btwn lambchop and baby lambchop.
They stopped asking.

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We decided to keep our baby's name and any names we're considering to ourselves. Our families constantly bug us about it but we know theyd be quick to share their opinions, good or bad, so until the baby is born its our secret.

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Why do people think this is acceptable!?

Omg, seriously!!!!!!!! If we have a boy, our son's name will be Carmelo (after my father in law, they're Dominican) Well, my Old school Irish Grandfathers says, "whats your next one's name gonna be, Taco"?? I cant.

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sorry!! Agree with the other posters-just ignore what they say. It's your son and you name him what you want. I have a friend that had a baby in June. The entire pregnancy she didn't tell anyone what she was naming her daughter. She wanted to just enjoy picking the name she loved. As far as I know no one commented on the name once the baby was born. But why deal with any sort of negativity around such a miracle?

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Next time tell them "We think the name Adolf is making a comeback."

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I went through this with DS1. I cried so many nights thinking how mean people were being to me and how mean kids would be to DS. I really reluctantly agreed with DH on the name only because it's such a tradition to name the first baby after the father's parents. I was so hysterical for the longest time. Now, he looks exactly like his name and it is what it is. No one said anything after he was born.

This time, even though it was the hardest thing EVER for me, I'm team at 37 weeks and NO ONE knows the names we picked out. We gave them ideas of what we liked and what we were considering but never said what it will be. Plus I think its really weird when people called my stomach DS's name before he was born. Even though its killing me to keep a secret I would much rather that than to listen to my family and friends be rude to us.

Why do people think this is acceptable!?

When my mom pulls this sh**, I just say "ok, I will forever remember how you hated your grandson's name -- or you can THINK before you speak and not be grandma b*tch."

Maybe not in exactly those words, but my mom always has a nasty word to say about everything and I'm TRYING to make her think before she speaks. It's kinda pointless. Anyway, screw em.

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I love jr's.....

Why do people think this is acceptable!?

Next time someone says that say "good idea, I think I'll name him asshole after you instead"

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I am feeling you big time ~ I have a bunch of names picked out (we really can't decide) and one name we like is Charli (for a girl) and I have had negative feedback. So now we are not saying anything until after our baby is born to really pick out her name.

Why do people think this is acceptable!?

After hearing so many stories of name bashing and unwanted comments, DH and I decided not to tell anyone DD's name until she was born. Well, ok, I told my mom and BFF but I kinda did want my mom's opinion and my BFF would never bash a name that I like. If people were really pressing me towards the end "HOW are you 36 weeks and still have no name???" I'd toss out a few names just to shut them up, but we weren't actually considering any of them. I never heard one negative thing about DD's name and it's very uncommon. I'm sure had we said it before she was born we would have gotten an ear full.

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