VENT about DD and famiy

My sister lives in nj. She has 3 boys ( 9, 7, 3). I am having a spinal fusion (back surgery) next Wednesday and I wont be able to do alot for a while. I have dd who is 3 in September & ds who is 2.5 months old. My mom is here staying with us from Florida. My dh works Monday Thursday Friday Saturday and Sunday. I feel bad bc between having a baby and my bad back I can't do too much with my dd so she is in the house alot. My dh tries to do stuff with her but its hard bc of me needing help too and the baby. Anyway Monday my mom was going to NJ to visit my sis and her family. My sister told my mom to bring my dd up because my mom was sleeping over till Tuesday (yesterday ) coming back to my house last night. They were going to the pool Monday and Tuesday. They thought it would be fun for dd to be with her cousins ...the pool and out of the house. So i was all happy n excited for my dd to go and then my sister called my mom saying how much she had these 2 days and it may be too much for my dd to be there. (My sis had 1 dr appt mon at 530 and 1 tue morn). Monday my mom and brother in law and kids would go to dinner while my sister was at the dr and then Tuesday morning my mom was watching kids while sis was at dr. My mom said she wouldn't bring my dd then bc it sounded like it was too much for her to b there. I was very upset. I felt that my sister should never have offered for my dd to go if it wasnt good. But give me a break.....ur family....why wouldn't u just help out n take her knowing she is not doing much at home and loves her cousins. I am an aunt who always goes out of the way for my nephews. I feel hurt that she didnt have my dd go. Thanks for reading if u got this far.

VENT about DD and famiy

That stinks, I really hate when people do things like that, especially when kids are involved and will be disapointed. It does sound like your DD wouldn't have been been a problem, especially since your mom would be there to look after her.

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I don't blame you for being upset. Could you maybe mention it to her? Maybe you could just say, "DD was really upset that she wasn't able to go to your house. She was talking about it all weekend." Sometimes getting it off your chest might make you feel better.

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Actually dd never knew she was going. I purposely didn't say anything yet because sometimes this is what my sister does.... Meaning she changes plans back and forth a lot. I'm just really upset that she couldn't have just worked it out knowing my situation. I did yesterday ask her so in the end would have been too much to really have my daughter And she got mad at me For asking. I'm over it now in a sense that I'm not to bring it up again but now I am not going to be jumping out of my way in the future. Also I'm pretty depressed about not being able to do much because my back and having a third back surgery and not going to be able to do much for the next few months And my sister knows this.