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Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
My best friend just asked me if I would be ok with her throwing a sprinkle for me. This is my second pregnancy and my DC's will only be 2 years apart. I feel funny inviting my friends to a sprinkle when my baby shower was less than 2 years ago. Also, as far as baby gear & stuff there is very little I need this time around.
I think it's really sweet that she wants to do this for me but I am not really comfortable with the idea.
Opinions please........?
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I'm not really a fan of them, but since she was sweet enough to offer maybe you can ask her to just do a small luncheon or something with a few friends & have her tell them that you really don't need anything & that you'd just like to see them?
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| Posted 4/19/12 8:41 AM |
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shiv
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
We do these in my neighborhood all the time- for every pregnancy! It's a fun way for the mom to get together and we all just chip in for a gift card.
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| Posted 4/19/12 8:54 AM |
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Shop24-7
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
Posted by shiv
We do these in my neighborhood all the time- for every pregnancy! It's a fun way for the mom to get together and we all just chip in for a gift card.
That's so sweet!
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| Posted 4/19/12 8:58 AM |
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Cheeks24
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
Just tell her exactly how you feel.
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| Posted 4/19/12 9:23 AM |
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MrsScott
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I would allow her to do it for me if she wants to there is never enough diapers and wipes and the little things that add up my friends are throwing me a shower and I am very greatful and my girls will be exactly 2 years apart.
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| Posted 4/19/12 9:35 AM |
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mooshyboo
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I think they are sweet and love the idea of a sprinkle ~ I would just tell her how you feel. A nice get together with friends will be fun! 
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| Posted 4/19/12 10:14 AM |
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
Posted by jam11308
I'm not really a fan of them, but since she was sweet enough to offer maybe you can ask her to just do a small luncheon or something with a few friends & have her tell them that you really don't need anything & that you'd just like to see them?
I don't mind sprinkles if children are further apart, but I agree with this, do a brunch or something informally, so no one feels pressured to bring something....very nice of your friend though!!
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| Posted 4/19/12 10:23 AM |
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readyornot2
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I would let her do it. I think it's perfectly fine to celebrate every baby. It's not just about gifts, it's about celebrating this moment.
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| Posted 4/19/12 11:40 AM |
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cds58019
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
Posted by readyornot2
I would let her do it. I think it's perfectly fine to celebrate every baby. It's not just about gifts, it's about celebrating this moment.
This is exactly how I feel! My mom had one for me just recently and my twins are only 19 months. I really didnt need much of anything for this baby but it was nice to have my family and close friends together before the baby comes. Why doesn't this baby deserve the same celebration that it's brother and sister got?
Im totally for them, whether it's your 2nd or 5th child.
But if you honestly aren't comfortable at all with the idea then you should tell her that. Or maybe make it very clear to her that if she does do something, you would want it to be very low key.
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| Posted 4/19/12 11:50 AM |
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Shop24-7
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
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Why doesn't this baby deserve the same celebration that it's brother and sister got?
I never thought of it like this. You are so right!
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maybebaby
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
Posted by Shop24-7
Posted by cds58019
Why doesn't this baby deserve the same celebration that it's brother and sister got?
I never thought of it like this. You are so right!
See.....I don't really understand when people say that. I mean, I am a big believer in a one shot deal in terms of a big shower. That is where you receive all your big baby items to start your life off as new parents...
I am NOT saying there is anything wrong with someone wanting to celebrate with a small get together for consecutive babies. Whatever people want to do is cool. But i am against all out "showers" for each baby. I was just invited to a baby shower for a someones third baby. She has had a large shower for each child, and I'm sorry, its ridiculous to register every single time for new things (and yes, they are big things).
I think its great to go to lunch or someones home for a small brunch to celebrate. I ALWAYS celebrate a close friends baby in my own way regardless of a sprinkle or not (I buy a case of diapers and wipes) but everyone that received the third shower invite felt the same way...tacky. Its hard financially for a lot of people to keep buying for big events.
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| Posted 4/19/12 1:55 PM |
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Shop24-7
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
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Posted by cds58019
Why doesn't this baby deserve the same celebration that it's brother and sister got?
I never thought of it like this. You are so right!
See.....I don't really understand when people say that. I mean, I am a big believer in a one shot deal in terms of a big shower. That is where you receive all your big baby items to start your life off as new parents...
I am NOT saying there is anything wrong with someone wanting to celebrate with a small get together for consecutive babies. Whatever people want to do is cool. But i am against all out "showers" for each baby. I was just invited to a baby shower for a someones third baby. She has had a large shower for each child, and I'm sorry, its ridiculous to register every single time for new things (and yes, they are big things).
I think its great to go to lunch or someones home for a small brunch to celebrate. I ALWAYS celebrate a close friends baby in my own way regardless of a sprinkle or not (I buy a case of diapers and wipes) but everyone that received the third shower invite felt the same way...tacky. Its hard financially for a lot of people to keep buying for big events.
I agree with what you are saying about a big party. That I would definitely not allow my friend to do. If I do anything, it will be small and intimate....
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| Posted 4/19/12 2:22 PM |
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
Let her do it. I love sprinkles. I think every baby should be celebrated and the way I see it I plan on buying a gift anyway...may as well be at a party with good food and company.
I don't know why people get all huffy over sprinkles or more than one baby shower.
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| Posted 4/19/12 2:26 PM |
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cds58019
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
Posted by Shop24-7
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Shop24-7
Posted by cds58019
Why doesn't this baby deserve the same celebration that it's brother and sister got?
I never thought of it like this. You are so right!
See.....I don't really understand when people say that. I mean, I am a big believer in a one shot deal in terms of a big shower. That is where you receive all your big baby items to start your life off as new parents...
I am NOT saying there is anything wrong with someone wanting to celebrate with a small get together for consecutive babies. Whatever people want to do is cool. But i am against all out "showers" for each baby. I was just invited to a baby shower for a someones third baby. She has had a large shower for each child, and I'm sorry, its ridiculous to register every single time for new things (and yes, they are big things).
I think its great to go to lunch or someones home for a small brunch to celebrate. I ALWAYS celebrate a close friends baby in my own way regardless of a sprinkle or not (I buy a case of diapers and wipes) but everyone that received the third shower invite felt the same way...tacky. Its hard financially for a lot of people to keep buying for big events.
I agree with what you are saying about a big party. That I would definitely not allow my friend to do. If I do anything, it will be small and intimate....
Oh no, I defnitely agree about the size. My first shower for the twins was a big to-do with about 40 people or so. My sprinkle a couple of weeks ago was 14 people for lunch at a favorite resturaunt of mine. Very low key, which is exactly what I wanted.
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I can see having one if your children are 4-6 years apart but, personally just 2 I would feel uncomfortable having one.
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I didn't have a huge shower for #1 -- I had a wonderful shower at my home, though. We didn't receive tons and tons of crazy expensive presents. The majority of what we needed for #1, we bought ourselves.
I still feel weird about having a second shower. Especially since they'll only be 21 months apart. #2 will be here less than 2 years after my shower was, actually lol! But I *do* want to get together with friends and celebrate #2. I have some new friends I am close to now who weren't in my life 2 years ago.
I'm still debating options. I'd love to do something out at a restaurant this time and maybe pay for it myself. Or have a co-ed sort of bbq and just invite all our friends over. More like a party for the baby than a shower.
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| Posted 4/19/12 3:57 PM |
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Posted by springsandra
Or have a co-ed sort of bbq and just invite all our friends over. More like a party for the baby than a shower.
I like this idea!
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| Posted 4/19/12 6:52 PM |
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JenandMikey
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I'm not a fan of sprinkles especially when the second child is the same gender as the first and the children are very close together in age like my two were....hence why I didn't have one...but hey if she's kind enough to offer then take her up on it and just make sure to tell her that you don't want anyone to feel they have to bring anything for you that you just want it to be more like a lunch out together as friends or something like that
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| Posted 4/19/12 7:39 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I would tell her you aren't comfortable with the idea of a sprinkle, if that's how you feel. I happen to agree and I made very clear to people that I did not want or need another shower or sprinkle.
Whenever I have been invited to a sprinkle, I have gone but felt obliged to bring a significnant gift. Honestly, I resented being put in that position. To me, showers are to give the parents-to-be gifts, obviously to care for the baby, but not for the baby him/herself. I always send a gift after the baby is born regardless of birth order, which I see as celebrating each baby. JMHO.
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gabbie83
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
my sisters and mom wanted to throw me one. i felt the same way as you.
my sisters told me to shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhush. lol.
i had a small cute sprinkle for my cloeset friends and family (i had about 20 ladies at my sprinkle) vs 55 at my shower.
my daughters will be 33 months apart so i didnt really need anything big....
but i got a 6month supply of diapers and other stuff that i wanted (but never got with DD#1 bc i thought it was a waste) lol
:) enjoy it!
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| Posted 4/19/12 9:49 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I think its really sweet.......
and a sprinkle isn't as large, so I don't think it looks greedy or anything...
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| Posted 4/19/12 10:35 PM |
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
My friends threw me a small brunch sprinkle shower for my 2nd. I was not sure if it was "too much" as my kids are 3 years apart but in the end I was so glad that we did have it. It was something special for DD and I think my friends wanted to to it out of excitement for both of us, not for anything material. I also had friends there who werent in our lives when i had my first shower,so it was nice to share that with them. Now I am pg with #3 and friends have already asked about doing a brunch or something. I figure if they want to do it, why not. If people don't like it I would assume they just would not come lol.
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| Posted 4/19/12 11:14 PM |
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sj-girl
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
I personally am not a fan of them. I have a 2.5 yr old son and have everything. My sister insists that if we have a girl this time she is doing it no matter what i say.
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labonnevie
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Re: Sprinkle for baby #2 - WWYD?
i personally don't think they are necessary. we had a small sprinkle for a friend in our playgroup (there are 7 of us) and that was it. it was small and simple. my children will be 26months apart and i don't believe in asking people who just bought me gifts for my first baby 2 years ago, celebrated my wedding a year before that, and gave a gift at my wedding shower a year before that. it's not their job to supply me with anything.
no one has asked to throw me one nor would i ever ask, or expect someone to throw one for me. so if you're not comfortable, tell her so.
but i do think there is nothing wrong with a celebration of the baby- which you can do with your friends, have a brunch or a luncheon or whatever, but stress, all is needed is their presence- not PRESENTS!!
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