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I was raised by a mentally ill mother who said horrible things to me. As if that wasn't bad enough, I walked around with no confidence and was overweight since I ate my feelings.

I was teased mercilessly because of my weight, my lack of confidence, and worst of all....because of my crazy mother who would come to my school and humiliate me in front of my peers. This went on for years.

Because my mom also was horrible to my teachers, they hated me and were in turn very cruel to me.

My dad also had my stepmother who also was cruel and loved making fun of my weight. I also had a large chest and had a reduction when I was 20. Strangers on the street were also horrible.

It took me a long time to recover from the cruelty of people around me. I have to say, the ones who loved me and cared about me were just saints in my life, and I remember them all

What's amazing is, I see how cruel people still can be. Grown women. Some who are mothers. It makes me so sad.

I am so sorry what you guys have been through, but really, it makes you realize how strong you are! And, you realize you never want to be that kind of person. Everything happens for a reason!

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Growing up, I had horrible acne, stringy hair, and was 6 feet tall by the time I hit seventh grade.

Kids are ridiculously cruel and I remember crying and begging my parents every night and every morning to let me stay home from school. Boys, girls, it didn't matter. They were equally cruel. The names I was called are etched into my memory.

I will say, though, that karma is a *****. My face cleared up, my hair dried out, I grew into my body. Seeinig some of these people either in person or on Facebook, looks like they got what was coming to them.

eta - the Taylor Swift song "Mean" always comes to mind when I think back to my childhood.

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It's awful how cruel people can be. I hope that by the time my DS is on his own in school (he has therapists with him all day right now) that kids are tolerant of difference and don't pick him out because of his quirks.

Bullying/ cruelty/ even one nasty comment are burned forever into our memory.

My 8th grade math class was 42 minutes of constant taunting for the entire year. It was a small class and the teacher wanted us all to sit up close to one another. Two kids who sat behind and next to me would "sniff" the air together and giggle and make nasty remarks like, "It's called 'Teen Spirit'. Use it. Is that wet stains I see? Geez, smell that? Someone call the dog pound"

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oh gosh i had so many mean things said to me....

in grade school they "popular" kids use to call me IT. Saying i was neither a boy or girl.

My gym teacher called me thunder thighes and 4 eyes. My mother took care of that that one when I finally told her.

In Jr. High the "popular" kids signed a petition to not let me sit at thier table during lunch.

In high school my AP Physics teacher told me that i should drop the class because I was a girl and wasn't smart enough to pass the class. I went to the principal and he got in trouble for that one and I passed with flying colors.

One time in Vegas...I was about 22 and with a bf. We were walking up the strip and a cab pulled over and said that even though he was off duty he couldn't let a pregnant woman walk in this heat. I was SOOO not pregnant. I went straight back tothe room, cried and threw out that shirt i was wearing.

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Posted by maymama

this should be a lesson to every person on this board ....

teach your children right from wrong. teach them to help those who are bullied and to never be the bully themselves. make sure they understand the impact of their words and actions.

i swear, my son will never say/do these hurtful things to people. i will NOT allow it

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shortly after my mother suddenly died my "BF" at the time said "i hope you die alone like your mother" 15 years later I still remember everything about that moment, down to the cologne he was wearing. i will never forget the pain those 7 words caused.

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I went to a bar with a good friend from college. A guy walked up to my friend and goes "Is your name Lisa?". She goes "no, sorry, its not". He goes "Oh ok then, i have you confused because you look JUST like this big fat f***** girl i knew in HS named Lisa".

he walked away and laughed while his friends sat there laughing at it.

I will never, ever understand why people can be so cruel. I was always nice to everyone. I watched classmates get tortured for being fat, awkward etc...I kept to myself and didn't really get made fun of but occasionally i was teased b/c my ears stuck out.

Like a PP said..I will be damned if my children EVER make fun of/tease another child. I have drilled into my 5 year olds head that you NEVER make fun of someone or go along with bullying. He says to me "I would never do that mom".

And god help anyone that teases my children. Lol. I have NO tolerance for it.

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This thread absolutely makes my blood BOIL ! I"m not a violent person, but the people who made these comments should have gotten the S.h.i.t beaten out of them !
I am SO sorry to all those people who had to hear such vile, terrible things.

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Honestly I can't think of one thing.
But I just read all the responses and my heart broke, what horrible things people have said to some of you, I can't believe how cruel people can be sometimes

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I think the most hurtful comments have come from my mother. She is overweigth and always has been. I know her comments are out of love and she doesn't mean to be hurtful, but......

In high school I was VERY skinny, 5'7" 110lbs, now I am slightly overweight. She always asks me about my diets and even though I know it's a trigger for me I still let her get away with it and I quit EVERY time!!

The worst was when she was in the hospital for double knee replacement. I took off work for two weeks and flew to Alaska to be with her through recovery. I was sitting in her room with the recreational therapist who kept asking her what hobbies she enjoyed. She couldn't think of things so I suggested, "what about shopping mom? you used to love going to mall with me, we had so much fun." Without even thinking she looks at the therapist and says, "that was when she was skinny, everything looked good on her then. Now it's a struggle!" I walked out and held my anger in, I cried to myself. She still doesn't know how much that hurt me.


ETA: Meanest thing ever said to me....

MIL (FMIL at the time):
"You ruined my son's life, you are nothing but evil, you put him in debt, you are the devil!" She was screaming this while lunging towards me and I honestly thought she was going to hit me. DH and I were not engaged yet and took a break right after this for two weeks. I had to make sure I wanted to marry into this family. Needless to say it took a very long time for me to ever talk to her again. I may have forgiven her but I will never forget those words, it was the most demeaning and inappropriate tyrate I have ever experienced!

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This does not pertain to me, but it does to someone I consider more important than me - my brother.
He is physically handicapped in the lower extremities (his legs and feet specifically). He was always made fun of because of the way he walked. He had to wear braces for a long long time. He had over 15 surgeries on his legs and feet. I am younger but always felt like his protector. I have punched and chased people, people called him penguin and imitated him. One of the worst things I remember was when my mother told me that he was cornered by 4 boys during recess in junior high and thrown to the floor. They held him down and shoved leaves in his mouth. My mom just told me this about 2 years ago. I had no idea it happened because if I had, I would probably be in jail right now for killing those bullies. I have learned that children are cruel. Some do not know any better. Some do. My brother never even reacted...never screamed back, never responded. He said he never cared. I truly admire him for that. He is my hero. <3

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Oh. That MIL story reminds me of my MIL. We didn't talk to the in laws for an entire year over this. My dad had recently walked out on us a few months earlier. It was devastating to all.

Dh (FH at the time) was trying to buy a car and I had done a lot of the research since I knew more about it (I had sold cards for a year or so). He was at my house and he was on the phone with his parents talking to them about the cars we were looking at, etc, since we were going to borrow the DP from them. Well they're asking him questions and I'm answering them even though DH is on the phone, I'm telling him the answers, or correcting him when he's wrong, not in a bad way, just I had done the research.

So then his mother said something like "tell her to shut up. I don't know why she has to answer for you," and DH was trying to explain about how I had done the reserch and his mom was like "I hate how she has you so henpecked". I was FUMING mad DH didn't say anything to his mom. I said if you don't hang up on her, I will. I grabbed the phone from him and I think I told her to show some respect or something and I hung up on her.

Then she called back on MY phone, of course and went off on Dh about how I'm a b---h and I'm controlling and I'm this and I'm that, all kinds of horrible things, "just like her mother and that's why her father left"

I was so crushed by that and SO angry. We didn't talk to them for an entire year. We were at a family wedding and didn't say 2 words to them, but they kept trying to get at DH alone. Through that experience they at least learned they weren't going to get away with disrespecting me and that they would lose their son over it,

That has to be the meanest most hurtul thing