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JennyPenny
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Re: Cruel things people say
I was taunted ALOT in 7th and 8th grade. For no particular reason. I was nice to everyone and I was quiet.
The most humiliating thing that sticks out in my mind was this girl who didn't like me, was in my foreign language class. On everyone's birthday, our teacher made us all sing 'happy birthday' to the birthday person. On my birthday, instead of the class singing, 'Happy Birthday to you", this particular girl had the entire class singing, 'I haaaate you'. My teacher was smiling obliviously. I was mortified.
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jilliibabii
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
OMG! I'm sorry, but fcuk that person. That's not teasing or taunting... that's vicious.
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| Posted 1/31/12 12:26 PM |
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ModDot
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
WHAT?!
OMG, what a *****
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| Posted 1/31/12 12:26 PM |
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mrsh2010
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by jam11308
Ugh - I feel for her. I guess that I've have a lot of incidents over the years...I just deleted a few but I think this one bothered me the worst. Thankfully it's from 10+ years ago.
While sitting on a ledge taking a smoke break at the grocery store that I was working at an old man came up to me & started screaming what an awful terrible person I was to smoke whilst pregnant & how I was going to both be a really bad mom & that I was going to hell. I wasn't pg at the time...I was just heavy. I was SO stunned that I just sat there speechless & started crying...he was cruel.
The same thing happened to me only I yelled back at the woman who said it and said "Im not pregnant just fat. Next time think before the $h!t pours out of your mouth." She quickly walked away
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| Posted 1/31/12 12:28 PM |
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MrsM-6-7-08
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Re: Cruel things people say
Wow these things are god awful
I've dealt with minor teasing in school but nothing I can vividly remember
I can't imagine dealing with some of these comments as an adult, i think i would be scarred for life
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| Posted 1/31/12 12:32 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
OMG! That'[s HORRIBLE 
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| Posted 1/31/12 12:33 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
I literally gasped and covered my mouth when I read this.
I would've punched the person right in the mouth. I'm so sorry!!!
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| Posted 1/31/12 12:34 PM |
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Peainapod
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Re: Cruel things people say
i dont recall a stranger ever saying something bad to me. its always the people you know.
i was teased alot growing up b/c i was skinny. so it was..are you anorexic? do you eat? flatchested..on and on. I was teased alot in 7th & 8th grade b/c i was the new girl in catholic school, smarter than most of them, and in a class where most kids knew each other from nursery school. This one kid when we were in gym class one day said "you're a wh**re just like your mother." and repeated it over and over while chasing me.
Years later that same kid lost his mother in a terrible home invasion / armed robbery and I always think back to that..
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| Posted 1/31/12 12:39 PM |
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Domino
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Re: Cruel things people say
That I should not procreate because I will produce mentally deficient children.
It should be noted that DS has been diagnosed on the spectrum which is a constant reminder of how terribly cruel this woman is
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| Posted 1/31/12 12:48 PM |
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Kazuri
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by jilliibabii
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
OMG! I'm sorry, but fcuk that person. That's not teasing or taunting... that's vicious.
Seriously! That's beyond cruel..it's evil.
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oneday
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by Domino
That I should not procreate because I will produce mentally deficient children.
It should be noted that DS has been diagnosed on the spectrum which is a constant reminder of how terribly cruel this woman is
Wow!! it was a woman? A grown adult? WTH is wrong with people?!!! I'm so sorry someone would make you feel like that.
I can't believe these stories! The ones about family members being so horrible.....I can't imagine!!!! 
The only ones I can think of specifially were when I was in middle school - which was horrible for me. I was a good student, VERY quiet, a bit chubby and had braces and glasses - and thanks to my mom, the dreaded Dorothy Hammil hair cut.  .
I remember in 6th grade a girl in my class asked me "Do you LIKE your hair like that" in the bitchiest tone. Eventually she was fine with me, and probably doesn't remember it but I do (people tell me maybe it's time to let go...OH, NO - that's just not how I roll. )
And once in 7th grade I remember walking into the luchroom and these boys - probably 8th graders - I heard them saying "Wow!! Look at that homely girl." Part of me wanted to believe the word did not mean what it did, even thought I knew. I can still remember my cheeks burning from embarrassment.
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| Posted 1/31/12 1:10 PM |
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LoveMyHubby605
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
holy crap, what the fluck is wrong with people  That person needs a donkey kick to the face 
I was chubby growing up and I got some fat jokes. I remember distinctly though that a kid in kindergarten said I had elephant legs. Seriously gave me a complex for YEARSSSS and I never wanted to wear shorts or dresses.
irony is my DH says my legs were the first things that caught his attention 
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| Posted 1/31/12 1:12 PM |
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fujamaga
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Re: Cruel things people say
I really can't believe some of these things... 
The one I remember was when I was a teenager - I was wearing one my mom's sandals (with heels) and short shorts. An older man came up to me and started yelling at me and saying I was dressing like a whore. He then pointed to another girl and was like you need to dress more like her. I was so embarrassed. If someone said that to me now, they'd be running for their lives 
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| Posted 1/31/12 1:16 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Cruel things people say
This was not said to me personally, but I will never, ever forget it.
I was in 5th grade and we were watching the news in my social studies class - current events lesson, I guess. This was around the time of the Gulf War.
They were showing a piece on the bombings in Israel. People wearing gas masks, clamoring to get into bomb shelters, etc.
There was a girl in my class who was born and raised in Israel. Her family had moved to NY about a year ago at that point, so she was still kinda considered the new kid, didn't really have a lot of friends, but a nice enough girl.
The class "mean girl" turned to her in the middle of watching all that and said in just the nastiest tone, "How do you feel now? All your little friends are going to die." She just sat there at her desk and cried.
All these years later and I've never forgotten that... can't believe how cruel CHILDREN can be. We were what, only 10 or 11 years old?
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by Domino
That I should not procreate because I will produce mentally deficient children.
It should be noted that DS has been diagnosed on the spectrum which is a constant reminder of how terribly cruel this woman is
OMG!
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maybesoon
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by Peainapod
i dont recall a stranger ever saying something bad to me. its always the people you know.
i was teased alot growing up b/c i was skinny. so it was..are you anorexic? do you eat? flatchested..on and on. I was teased alot in 7th & 8th grade b/c i was the new girl in catholic school, smarter than most of them, and in a class where most kids knew each other from nursery school.
This was me in catholic school in 7 and 8 too. Several boys were left back and really picked on me for the same readons. (I was almost 2 years younger then them) . It was a bad time for me and I wanted to leave my school
Once I got to high school I had the best time and realized it wasn't me it was them. Before they were left back, i went t school with the same kids since 4 so I did not know how to handle things.
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w8andsee
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
I literally gasped and covered my mouth when I read this.
I would've punched the person right in the mouth. I'm so sorry!!!
My husband wanted to punch him too! I had to leave because I could feel my eyes welling up with tears.
Thinking back on it now, this person is miserable and so is his entire family. My life will always be better/happier with or without kids. He is an a $ $ hole.
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skinny
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Re: Cruel things people say
I was in Macy's buying a pair of jeans. Got to the register and the sales guy asked if they were a gift. I said no. He said, "These can't be for you." He then held them up and looked me up and down. I said that they were and he said, "These will NEVER fit YOU." He just kept saying it over and over. I complained to the manager and they fired him immediately. I went home crying. (Ironically, I just posted the jeans on the buy/ sell FB group this weekend. They are still new with tags. I can't bring myself to wear them.)
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| Posted 1/31/12 1:40 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Cruel things people say
While walking down the street in Brooklyn with my (then) 5 year old niece, holding her hand, a man was riding past us on a bike and decided to stop and shout at us. He stood there and said "Why don't you f**king people go back to where you came from!?" and then proceeded to spit in our direction, then rode away.
My niece looked up at me and said "What did he mean Titi??" and I had to play it off like he must've mistaken us for someone else, instead of having to explain to a FIVE YEAR OLD about racism.
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by w8andsee
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
My husband wanted to punch him too! I had to leave because I could feel my eyes welling up with tears.
Thinking back on it now, this person is miserable and so is his entire family. My life will always be better/happier with or without kids. He is an a $ $ hole.
I'm so sorry that someone would even say such a horribly cruel thing to you. That is just plain wrong. But you're right, someone that miserable is always going to be miserable and they are sad & pathetic.
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| Posted 1/31/12 1:49 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by Xelindrya
From NON-relatives:
OMG look !!! Its so freaky.. It looks like an alien
(Said while pointing at me)
*SCREAM* *HIDE* and/or *RUN*
(while pointing at me)
I don’t want to sit next to that, it’s freaky and scares me
(while at school)
Stop looking at me you freak!
(just in general)
OMG you look JUST like my friend’s dog.
- when I was younger this usually ended up with me being called dog face for awhile
- when I was older it was generally followed up with an explanation and apology (Alaskan Husky)
Not looks related:
But the cruelest thing I think had to be the church. I asked why my friend had to die (she died of cancer) and why god would punish her and her parents. I was told essentially not to question the work of God. I didn’t buy it. I kept asking (I was really young). They put me on the church steps and called me Devil’s Spawn. They said they hoped that by the time church was over that S@tan would come back and collect me for his own. They left me there through services. I sat and cried. Every now and then some kid could come out poke me with a stick, laugh and run back to Sunday School. Worst day ever.
ETA: how do I respond?
What can I say when I was a kid.. I just became a recluse. When I got a little older it became a badge of honor LOL. My comments were usually “really that’s the best you got?” Now I wear contacts which don’t hide my eyes at all. People ask why I don’t just pick a color because why not? I say I earned the right to these eyes. I’ve paid the price, now its time to enjoy them. And I do.
Church I had no response. However, it could be why I’m not much of church goer these days, huh?
So sorry u dealt with all that
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| Posted 1/31/12 1:56 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Jennifer
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Re: Cruel things people say
Oh, I can add one more.
I'll try to keep it short, but it made me SO angry.
We met up with this Chasidic Rabbi at the hospice when FIL was dying. At first he didn't come into the room bc we "didn't look Jewish"...I wasn't even there at the time, so you can't even blame me for that (I look very much like my irish/italian background), but even so, why not come in and offer to pray anyway? It's a Jewish hospice, how do you know someone is Jewish by looking at them?
Then he came in. When I wasn't there he got into a debate with my SIL (who is also intermarried) and DH's aunt aunt and he said that he believes Jesus is in a place lower than hell because he was an impostor of God. I would have let him have it had I been there. Instead my SIL joked about it to try to provoke me, but that's another story.
This Rabbi came to Shiva one day and was there for hours. I'm sitting talking to some of MIL's friend and not paying attention to him at all when I suddenly hear him telling DH (who was FH at the time) that it would be a "travesty" to marry me. He was going on and on saying it's a travesty and a shame, and it's one thing for SIL to intermarry since at least the kids will be Jewish, but that by marrying me, DH is comitting an "abomination". I understand that this man has different views on intermarriage than I have, but the way he was saying those things in front of everyone, with me sitting right there. it was so hurtful. I was fuming mad. When I finally heard what he was saying I just said "sorry, go cry about" and I went into the kitchen and poured myself wine. People were SO unfcomfortable with what he was saying that they all left, but not withoug stopping in the kitchen to comfort me and tell me what an a-hole he was.
It was really hurtful, and again I understand he has different views, but the whole point of shiva is to comfort the family, not to cause conflict and we did NOT ask for his opinion.
I'd already been through a lot with DH's family, including people telling me there's no way an interfaith marriage could last, and I had really had enough.
The worst part was that it took a HUGE screaming tear filled confrontation for them to finally ask him to leave hours later.
I felt so betrayed by my MIL for allowing it to go on in her house. I really won't ever forget it.
ETA: I also endured a lot in college. i took a lot of Jewish studies classes since I am really interested in religion and finally I took a class on jewish culture and customs. it was led by a Rabbi. It was interesting because the whole class was jewish except for me and one other person. Most of the people in the class were in Hillel and knew the Rabbi from there, and really didn't need the course but came in thinking they knew everything. On the first day of class, we did the usual go around the room, tell us what year you are what your major is, and why you took the class. I mentioned that my FH was Jewish and I'm not and I actually got comments from a few people in the class along with dirty looks from just about everyone. No one in the class liked me after that. They'd make really disparaging remarks, and the professor had a habit of giving back the tests in order from highest grade to lowest, and I was often the highest grade (I guess bc I didn't have years of misinformation from hebrew school, which many of them had), so they would always comment and they were very resentful
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: Cruel things people say
3 years ago i went to an OOS wedding with my STBX. we were outside sitting down when some trashy girl came and sat down next to me. she took out a cigarette and started smoking. half way through her cigarette she turns to me and says "whats wrong with me! i shouldn't be smoking around a pregnant woman!" i looked at her like she was already dead and i said..."why would you think im pregnant??" her face went white and shes like..."oh...not because you look it, but i thought someone told me you were". i told her to just stop talking.
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: Cruel things people say
i cant believe all these stories im reading. who raises these people!?
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| Posted 1/31/12 2:15 PM |
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Linda1003
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Re: Cruel things people say
Posted by w8andsee
I have issues with infertility.
Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .
I HOPE YOU PUNCHED HER IN THE FACE!!
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