Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"

Does your dh work overtime or 2 jobs to make that amount?

I just see that alot of men nowadays don't just work a normal 9-5 job anymore making this amount of money.
I personally could not let my dh work 2 or 3 jobs or tons of hours JUST so I could stay home.
I'm not here to insult anyone, but just stating how that would not work for my family. Thanks.

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I'm not a SAHM, but DH does make over $100k and yes, he has two jobs, but even with two jobs, he works no more than about 5-6 hours per day. His main job is to manage and run a mutual fund, but on the side, he does all the computer work for a firm that he shares space with. He started doing it as a favor to them in exchange for free space and support, but after a while, he figured he'd ask for some money, and they (amazingly enough) agreed and put him on their payroll...

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DH works 1 job - A lot of hours (not overtime), but I don't think it's any more than anyone else works.

I'm not a SAHM.

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one job only- management position in a corporate office. but he works very very hard- long commute, somewhat long hours (leaves at 7:30 am, gets home at 7:30-8 pm), and works on the weekends/at night sometimes from home to get projects finished. and i will NOT be a SAHM- i'm going back to work after 6 months of maternity leave.

i'm very proud of DH- this is a new job, a big step up (position-wise, not salary-wise), a huge challenge, a great opportunity, and he's committed to being successful in this position, for himself and for our family. he works hard because he wants to, not because i am pushing to stay at home with the baby.

amongst DH's friends, he makes one of the lower salaries- some of his friends are VPs at financial firms in the city & run hedge funds- they make more than ten times what we do. my friends, on the other hand, mostly have regular office jobs and probably make a little bit less than we do (i have no way of knowing for sure- we don't discuss money with friends).

so, to answer your question/post- it really depends on the position, and whether you work in the city or the suburbs.

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no, one job, long hard hours.

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I'm a SAHM, but my DH has his own business with his dad and he works a lot of hours.

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DH works two jobs, but he makes close to 100K at each one. He was working both of those jobs way before he met me, I would never have him work those hours just so I could stay home with the baby. Both of them are his passions so it makes him happy. Happy DH=Happy family.

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I am a SAHM and DH only has 1 job. But we live in Texas, that is why we can manage with just his income of close to $100K. I am thinking of going back to work less than part time, just for my sanity.

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My DH has just one job but works OT. He is usually home 2-4 days thou. He also works nights.
I will be a SAHM for a year or so when I get pg. I'll prob go back pt & work not because I have too but because I want to but who knows

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Whoa nellie, those are some fighting words! Look, how many hours a parent will work is entirely up the family, taking a whole variety of factors into account - who is anyone to judge that family decision? DH and I work particularly lax hours so we can spend time with our daughter, but as you can see from prior posts, I'm definitely hurting in the career department because of this. On the other hand, I grew up in a family where my father worked excruciating hours to provide for his family, and I never, not even ONCE, felt like he didn't give me enough time and never held it against him. I grew up just fine and have an absolutely wonderful relationship with my father, so really, I don't think its your place at all to make these kind of judgments...

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Posted by JRG71

Posted by Bxgell2

Whoa nellie, those are some fighting words! Look, how many hours a parent will work is entirely up the family, taking a whole variety of factors into account - who is anyone to judge that family decision? DH and I work particularly lax hours so we can spend time with our daughter, but as you can see from prior posts, I'm definitely hurting in the career department because of this. On the other hand, I grew up in a family where my father worked excruciating hours to provide for his family, and I never, not even ONCE, felt like he didn't give me enough time and never held it against him. I grew up just fine and have an absolutely wonderful relationship with my father, so really, I don't think its your place at all to make these kind of judgments...

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Posted by anna

Posted by JRG71

Posted by Bxgell2

Whoa nellie, those are some fighting words! Look, how many hours a parent will work is entirely up the family, taking a whole variety of factors into account - who is anyone to judge that family decision? DH and I work particularly lax hours so we can spend time with our daughter, but as you can see from prior posts, I'm definitely hurting in the career department because of this. On the other hand, I grew up in a family where my father worked excruciating hours to provide for his family, and I never, not even ONCE, felt like he didn't give me enough time and never held it against him. I grew up just fine and have an absolutely wonderful relationship with my father, so really, I don't think its your place at all to make these kind of judgments...

BRAVAAA

Re: Spinoff of "DH's making over $100,000"

DH puts in a lot of hours and works 6 days a week. It's been that way since I met him 10 years ago. It's a family business and to keep it running, he needs to devote his time to it.

However, that does not mean that DH is not completely involved in his children's lives. He makes the time and has a great relationship with them. It's just a matter of how much your willing to sacrifice and make changes to make it all work.

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I personally could not let my dh work 2 or 3 jobs or tons of hours JUST so I could stay home.
I'm not here to insult anyone, but just stating how that would not work for my family. Thanks.

I think for every couple it is different. DH I agreed well before we had our son that we both grew up in homes with SAHMs and that it was very important for us to do the same.

We rather sacrafice - either by him working lots of hours, or us having to cut back on our lifestyle then have someone else raising our son.

I don't get this though because why is it ok for you to stay home with your child and your dh not be able to spend time with that child because he is working all the time? I hope you don't take this personally because I am not really directing it to you but all the families who think it is better for the woman to stay home while the man kills himself to pay the bills while she is having fun with the kids??
I personally think this is the reason why so many men are having heart attacks at such young ages, like 40. They believe that their wife at home is much better than daycare and are so stressed out to provide for them.
I personally have used daycare for almost 8 yrs and NEVER felt like they were raising my children. I work because I have to and both my dh and I get to spend lots of time with them because we work normal hours.

I'm not sure if "these family's" think it's better that the mom stay home but rather a lot of times the dad makes more . I know that in my home my DH pays in taxes almost what I make in a year

If i made more he would stay home. Unfortunately I believe there is still a stereotype in this country where the men get paid more then the women.

My DH will not be able to be around for every holiday and birthday as his profession will not allow it but he loves his job and in my case chooses to work the hours he dose. I think it's unfair to say that SAHM's are slave driving the DH's to work for a lifestyle they want. In my case my DH wants this lifestyle not me.

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"Sometimes it is not easy enough just to say to sacrifice things. I am not going to feel deprived just to stay home."

I am not trying to gang up on you, just trying to understand, what is so difficult to scarfice or "deprive" oneself of that can't be done for family?

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I don't have kids yet but I most of the moms I know are more stressed out then I am from taking care of there 2 & 3 kids all day. I get lunch breaks, I get to go to the bathroom alone it's the little things really. I don't think your trying to insult but I do think there is a side your not seeing and perhaps each family's situation is different. I'm sure there certainly are SAHM's that demand a certain lifestyle and that's a shame!