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I was Team Green with DD and wish I had found out earlier.

When I delivered DD She got stuck and everybody went into panic mode to get her out. They broke her collar bone and everyone was focused on her (understandably) so no one ever made the announcement.

In fact, I was convinced I was having a boy that I kept saying- is it a boy? Is it a boy?

The doc told me yes..not sure if he was trying to shut me up, was speaking to someone else or what, but for the first 5 minutes of dd's life I thought I had a son.

My mom and DH were seriously confused, because she obviously didn't have the boy goods. DH thought his son was really unfortunate in that department.

Now that I think of it...my whole delivery was effed up. My mom was backed in a corner panicking. I had a whole wall full of students staring at me open mouthed (I had approved ONE student). DH thought his child was born without a face because of all the goop babies come out with. Then we thought she was a boy.

You'd think I would find out this time and stop this series of unfortunate events...but I wont.

Staying Team Green again!

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I did both. Team with DS and the anticipation was a lot of fun! Everyone guessing and waiting for the big announcement from the delivery room.

This time around, I wanted to find out. My 20 week appointment was a week before my birthday so we had the tech write the gender down on a piece of paper and seal it in an envelope. We had a bakery make me a cake with either pink or blue filling and I had a gender reveal birthday cake that I cut on my birthday with family. I thought it was a cute and more special way of finding out than just in the doctors office.

I do not regret either decision. Being Team green was great and having the doctor announce "it's a boy!" in the delivery room was amazing. I also really like knowing this time around though so I can plan the baby's nursery, refer to her with the name we have chosen instead of just 'the baby', etc.

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team green and so glad we were. I ended up with a c-section after many hours in labor. As someone else said, having the natural birth experience taken away was upsetting for me so still having the experience of hearing "its a boy" was great

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Team green for both and I wouldn't change it for anything. Even with the circumstances surrounding both girls, I'm still glad we didn't find out first.

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I was Team Green for my first and it was awesome. For my second we decided to find out so we could prepare our son. But I always regretted that decision. I really missed the surprise when he was delivered. For our third, I knew I HAD to stay Team Green and was so happy I did! Nothing beats that surprise when the doctor tells you what it is!

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I wanted that surprise in the delivery room, not several months earlier in the doctor's office. It was the biggest and best surprise of my life and if I could go back in time, I would still wait to find out.

But *I* knew he was going to be a boy, anyway.

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for us too and we're so glad we did that. I ended up with a c-section as well, so it was amazing to hear the doctor say It's a boy!

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C&P from another post:


I am not sure if I did this already, if I did - I am sorry!

But, for those who are Team Green, with their first. Stay STRONG!

Every time a new nurse or doctor came into the room, they would look at their charts and say "oh what are you having?" barely looking up. When we would respond that we didn't know - they would suddenly look up and say "OMG! How exciting!" After a while, when people walked in the room (yes THAT many people walk in and out all day long) the nurses would tell them "This is the couple who doesn't know what they are having!"

They were taking guesses, asking names - it was SUCH a fun experience. And then, when she was born . . . .

EVERYONE in the room screamed out ITS A GIRL!!!!!!!!!!! It was so exciting, they were just as excited as we were!!

When we were in the hallway for the next two days, people who weren't there for the birth remembered us and asked what we ended up having.

It really added to the experience, we are so glad that we waited to be surprised. There are so few surprises in life, so definitely hold out for this one!

Happy and Healthy pregnancies and births for you all!

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I really appreciate all of the responses! I think we may decide to stay team Green, since that is what I had always planned before becoming pregnant. It is just very tempting knowing I could find out soon... I will keep these responses so I can read them again before my appointment and stay strong!

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I stayed on the green team with my twins.
Its the best moment when you're in the L&D room and you're pushing and so excited to find out!
This is how I looked at it, what other surprise is there? Also, I found people kept tabs on me b/c they didnt know so I found would often ask more questions! SO much fun!!!!!!!!!

BTW, no one guessed, but I had .

If I get preganat again, I'm NOT finding out! No regrets!

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Posted by JennyPenny

I was Team Green with DD and wish I had found out earlier.

When I delivered DD She got stuck and everybody went into panic mode to get her out. They broke her collar bone and everyone was focused on her (understandably) so no one ever made the announcement.

In fact, I was convinced I was having a boy that I kept saying- is it a boy? Is it a boy?

The doc told me yes..not sure if he was trying to shut me up, was speaking to someone else or what, but for the first 5 minutes of dd's life I thought I had a son.

My mom and DH were seriously confused, because she obviously didn't have the boy goods. DH thought his son was really unfortunate in that department.

Now that I think of it...my whole delivery was effed up. My mom was backed in a corner panicking. I had a whole wall full of students staring at me open mouthed (I had approved ONE student). DH thought his child was born without a face because of all the goop babies come out with. Then we thought she was a boy.

You'd think I would find out this time and stop this series of unfortunate events...but I wont.

Staying Team Green again!

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We found out the first time and I wish that we would have stayed team for the surprise, because we ended up getting a lot of gender neutral stuff anyway...For my next, I would like to stay team green but I don't know if I'd be able to!

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I found out with both my kids and never regretted it for a second. Seeing your baby's face for the first time trumps finding out the sex, but I only say that because that's all I've ever experienced I do plan on trying to stay Team if we have any more kids though.

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Stay Team Green!! You can do it!!! That moment when the doctor held her up and said It's a Girl! was AMAZING! Then my DH running into the waiting room for our whole family and telling them, it was priceless (so the tell me, haha)- I heard them screaming from outside!

Yes, it is hard, and yes, people will always say, oh you should find out...but there are so few suprises in life, this is the ultimate one!!

Also-since DD slept in our room for 2 months we were able to get her nursery done they way we wanted for a little girl!

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We were Team Green with my DD and are Team Green now 6 years later as we are pregnant with our 2nd.

I do feel like it is one of the greatest surprises that you could ever get in life. And I normally hate surprises! I am the kind of person who bugs my husband weeks leading up to birthdays/christmas in order to find out what he got me and I'm a total peeker. I even peeked through my folder at the OB one day when they handed it to me to give to the counter, but didn't find anything But overall I am so glad I was surprised. When my DD was born they said "It's a beautiful baby girl" and my whole life changed right there. It was an amazing moment and I can still recal the way it felt right then and there.

We are now pregnant with our 2nd and it has been so long between children. People are pressuring us to find out. But the way I figure it, all of our gear that we will re-use is neutral. We have neutral infant clothing. We waited til DD was 3 months to buy her bedding, so we will do the same this time.

My Dad also is at the end stages of cancer and has specifically asked us not to find out what we are having --- because he wants something to fight until March for --- so I have to respect his wishes!!

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Found out and wouldn't have it any other way. I didn't want a ton of neutrals as gifts or in the room. i wanted to decorate, plan and shop.

And as far as the surprise being ruined- trust me when I tell you DH and I were shocked as shyt when the nurse told me the amnio results said it was a girl!
So either we were suprised at 5 months pregnant or surprised 4 months later when she popped out.
I dont' see the difference in the surprise!

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For me, finding out at 20 weeks is part of the fun of being pregnant. Then the excitement the day of delivery is more about just actually getting to meet LO. The whole process is exciting. I didn't feel the need to wait til the very end to find out if I was having a boy or a girl.

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We were team green both times and we were so glad that we held out.

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we found out as soon as we could....and i still remember sitting there getting the sonogram and the tear my husband had in his eye when they said 'its a girl'.

it was a very special moment for us that i will never forget!

plus i had to know so i could decorate the nursery and have a name and all that stuff!

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I normally hate surprises, but being team green was honestly the best decision ever. It was so much fun guessing. In the beginning I would have fainted if they told me I was having a girl because I was so sure DD was a boy. But at the end of my pregnancy I was so sure she was a girl that I was calling her by her name. The anticipation and excitement on the day of delivering was insane! It was just so special and I wouldn't trade that feeling for anything in the world.

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If and when we have a third, I will be team green i think...I found out with both boys...and honestly, the first time was exciting but the second time the ultrasound tech was such a cold b**** that i was so upset during it. I was happy to hear it was a boy, that wasn't it..it was the way she said it ..

I really want to experience being handed my baby and hearing "Its a ___!". I think that feeling would be so cool to experience just once.

My friend was team green for her third baby (she found out with her first two) and said it was no different than finding out at 20 weeks...she's the first person i ever heard say that....she said the excitement was the same, no better or worse, just nice. Who knows?!

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there is nothing better than your child being born and being born healthy. the fact that i knew she was a already did not detract from the happiness one single bit!!! i just HAD to know and i am so glad i did..for her room, for the items i registered for, for her clothes and for my own preparedness. honestly, i cant conceive of NOT knowing.

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I wanted to find out but DH didn't so for his sake, I went and it annoyed me my entire pregnancy. I was soooo convinced it was a girl that, in my head, I knew the sex anyway.

The surprise and joy I felt when the doctor said "It's a boy!" is indescribable. I can't even relate it to any other feeling I have ever experienced. It annoyed the ever living sh!t out of me my entire pregnancy that I didn't know but in the end, I was so glad I didn't and we will be next time too.