WWYD? Question about a close friend's FB pic of her DS

A close friend of mine has a DS who is just about 8 months old. She took a picture of him in his 'big boy' carseat in the car and posted it on FB. He is front-facing!

Would you send her a message about how he should NOT be front-facing at 8mo? How could she not know this?! Would you be offended or relieved that someone took the time out to inform you?

Re: WWYD? Question about a close friend's FB pic of her DS

i would actually say MYOB...

i had turned DD around before she was a year old as well....

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Wow, this is a really good question. I'd be so upset and nervous for him if I saw something like this. Can you tell from looking at the seat if it's a convertible that can be installed rear-facing? Maybe you could just share an article with the new AAP recommendations about rear-facing until 2 years and say "not sure if you saw this, but new research is saying it's much safer to have our little ones rear-facing until their bones have become stronger -- your son looks so cute in his seat, though, and he's still such a big boy even if he's facing the back seat still" or something like that... definitely don't post it on her wall in public, though. Just send her a private message about it if you really want to say something. I don't think I could stop myself from at least mentioning it. It's potentially a life and death sort of thing, which I take so seriously I'd be worried about her son if I didn't at least try (also if I did try and still found out he's forward-facing). But it's not a law, so there's nothing beyond gently mentioning it that you can really do, and she is the parent so it's her choice.

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Thank you! I am very hesitant to say anything bc I don't want to be THAT person, that's why I asked.

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i wouldn't say anything.

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If this is close friend, I would wait until you can have a conversation with her, not on FB.

I would just say, that you didn't turn you Dc around until X age, and your dr was adamant about it, then see what she says? It would be great if your DC was the same age? How close in age are your children, and hers? Then you could "ask" out of curiosity. Or, you could say you just heard that they need to be x age, and had she heard that?

I would have a hard time not saying anything. If you word it properly out of sheer concern, it should be fine.

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Posted by MAC222

If this is close friend, I would wait until you can have a conversation with her, not on FB.

I would just say, that you didn't turn you Dc around until X age, and your dr was adamant about it, then see what she says? It would be great if your DC was the same age? How close in age are your children, and hers? Then you could "ask" out of curiosity. Or, you could say you just heard that they need to be x age, and had she heard that?

I would have a hard time not saying anything. If you word it properly out of sheer concern, it should be fine.

That's exactly what DH told me to do. Just ask her the next time I see her and make it sound like I was wondering when I could put DS FF. He is 6 months now, just 2 months younger than hers and I could not imagine putting him FF.

If GOD FORBID something were to happen, I would never forgive myself...

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This exact situation happened to me as well. I wound up mentioning it. Although, the situation may have been different in my case--my friend is here on a 3-year work visa from Jamaica and he had no idea that rear-facing is the expectation here.

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I would mention it. I don't think it is rude at all. I had someone explain to me how to properly place the chest plate on the carseat because I had it too low. I was and still am grateful for her telling me how to do it properly.

I now correct others when I see them do it wrong.

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If it was a good friend I would definitely say something. Personally I like to learn from others and I don't get offended as long as it is said in a nice way.

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My friend did the same with her 8 month old. It's not my place to say anything. I will wait as long as possible with my ds. He is seven months and we leave the carseat in the car and just take him out of it anyway.

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I would.

What if they were in an accident and the boy's neck was injured because he was forward facing? You'd be wracked with guilt.

Do it, over a private message or a phone call. Send her that link to the youtube PSA regarding rear facing until age 2.

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I would for sure say something. You are talking about the safety of her child. I would want someone to tell me.

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I don't see how it could be a problem to mention it, I would.

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I am not sure I would mention it- I assume that all parents make their decision based on their reasoning...

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If you were going to say something on Facebook I would sent a private message .

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I have friends who are first time parents (even who have more than one child), but don't really research things at all. They go by what they see etc. If I saw that myself, I would definitely send a private message letting them know that the old rec was 1 year and the new one is 2 years because of the baby's development etc. They very well might have no idea! And if they do and tell you that they're doing it anyway, well then at least you mentioned it. You could help her protect her child, why not say something.