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JennyPenny
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Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
If, in the future, your child committed a serious, serious crime and you KNEW they did it- would you hide the truth to protect them?
I was having this conversation with my MIL and I was curious what others think.
I don't even know how the conversation came up, but I asked her if she would turn DH in if she knew he killed me. (I know- i'm deranged )
For those of you wondering- she said she wouldn't turn him in 
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Posted 4/18/10 10:23 PM  |
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ReiRei13
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Depending on the severity of the crime, I would most likely protect him!
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| Posted 4/18/10 10:38 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
I don't honestly know...
I hate to say that if god forbid, he was mentally ill or something and he needed help, then I think I would turn him in...b/c it would be what was best...
I don't know...maybe by protect, I'd get him the best lawyers or something possible?
Wow. And nice of your MIL too  
ETA-I <3 your avatar Jenny!
Message edited 4/18/2010 10:41:25 PM.
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| Posted 4/18/10 10:41 PM |
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Shelleybean11
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
If someone else was greatly harmed by his actions then I think I would have to turn him in. As hard as it would be for me, I believe that he should suffer the consequences for his actions and hopefully I will raise him well enough that he will never need to suffer any.
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| Posted 4/18/10 10:42 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
honestly, I dont think I could.
I wouldnt hide him, pretend he wasnt there if the authorities came looking, not tell them where he is, etc, but I wouldnt personally call the police and turn him in.
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| Posted 4/18/10 10:45 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Posted by eddiesmommy
honestly, I dont think I could.
I wouldnt hide him, pretend he wasnt there if the authorities came looking, not tell them where he is, etc, but I wouldnt personally call the police and turn him in.
same.
i wouldn't turn him in, but I wouldn't hinder any investigation.
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| Posted 4/18/10 11:47 PM |
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BnBdreamin
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
First off, God willing, I'd raise a child who would not commit such a crime. And second, I would hope that should something happen, I'd raised him to turn himself in. I'd be by his side every minute of every day with the best of counsel.
But that's pretty bogus of your MIL to say. Murder?! She'd cover up murder!? Of the mother of her grandchildren?! What, is she watching too much Desperate Housewives?!  
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| Posted 4/19/10 12:28 AM |
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Eireann
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Of course, I know that you can never really know what you would do until you are actually presented with a situation but...
As of right now, I can't imagine a scenario in which I WOULDN'T turn my child in (Actually, I'd probably encourage/force them to turn themselves in before I did it.). Especially in the case of a "serious, serious crime." Killing someone--even accidentally or in self-defense--warrants this type of action, IMO. Rape, kidnapping, vandalism etc etc. It just goes without saying in my mind.
Even if my kid stole a candy bar from the corner store, you can bet I'd march her right down to the store and make her give it back and apologize in person.
ETA...You know what, it actually burns me up to think that there are some parents in the world that wouldn't turn their child in if they murdered my child or anyone else's. I can't even imagine the anguish of the parents whose child was killed, never to find the answers.  Of course, it wouldn't be anyone on this board, all of us are raising upright citizens!!   
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DRMom
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
It is always hard to answer tthese types of hypothetical questions. As others said-I can;t see turning in my own child, but I don;t think I would hamper an investigation. It definitely depends on the crime...self defense, violent etc.
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| Posted 4/19/10 8:38 AM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Anyone watch Brothers & Sisters? (this is currently happening on the show right now)
Posted by Shorty
Posted by eddiesmommy
honestly, I dont think I could.
I wouldnt hide him, pretend he wasnt there if the authorities came looking, not tell them where he is, etc, but I wouldnt personally call the police and turn him in.
same.
i wouldn't turn him in, but I wouldn't hinder any investigation.
But I agree with the above.
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| Posted 4/19/10 8:47 AM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Posted by BnBdreamin
First off, God willing, I'd raise a child who would not commit such a crime. And second, I would hope that should something happen, I'd raised him to turn himself in. I'd be by his side every minute of every day with the best of counsel.
But that's pretty bogus of your MIL to say. Murder?! She'd cover up murder!? Of the mother of her grandchildren?! What, is she watching too much Desperate Housewives?!
i agree.
i could never harbor a criminal, even if it's my child. i love them dearly, but if they commit a crime, they need to take responsibility for it. i do them a disservice by letting them get away with it.
i was raised better than that. i will always love my children with everything i have, but if they murder, rob, rape, etc, they need to do the right thing and i, as their mother, need to do the right thing as well. i couldn't live with myself otherwise.
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| Posted 4/19/10 12:27 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Would I turn them in? Probably not. I cannot imagine doing that, but I PRAY and HOPE I raise children who would either not commit a crime, woudl turn themselves in or would only be as mentally ill as I would expect them to be to do so and in that case, Iw ould seek treatment if a crime were committed yes.
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| Posted 4/19/10 12:34 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
I think as much as it would pain me to see my child go to jail, I need to think there is a lesson learned.
I'm the one that made him donate his favorite toy to Big Brothers/Big Sisters after he stole magic markers from a store & that was tough but jail...that's just heartbreaking.
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| Posted 4/19/10 12:39 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Posted by Shorty
Posted by eddiesmommy
honestly, I dont think I could.
I wouldnt hide him, pretend he wasnt there if the authorities came looking, not tell them where he is, etc, but I wouldnt personally call the police and turn him in.
same.
i wouldn't turn him in, but I wouldn't hinder any investigation.
ITA
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| Posted 4/19/10 12:43 PM |
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MrsSteflily
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
If they lived under my roof, then I would force them to turn themselves in.
If they did not, then I would not hamper the investigation.
I hope that none of us are ever in a position where we have to make this decision.
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| Posted 4/19/10 1:05 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Posted by MrsSteflily
If they lived under my roof, then I would force them to turn themselves in.
If they did not, then I would not hamper the investigation.
I hope that none of us are ever in a position where we have to make this decision.
Same here!
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neener1211
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
I hope this never happens, but I would either encourage them to turn themselves in, or let them know that I am still his/her mother and love them, but will go down with them to turn themselves in.
If they refused to turn themselves in, I would do it. It would be very difficult to do though.
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| Posted 4/19/10 1:11 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
I do not think I would ever turn my child in but I would not help the police find them either
such a tough question
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| Posted 4/19/10 1:12 PM |
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mommyIam
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Re: Just an interesting (hypothetical) question...
Posted by jellybean1420
Posted by MrsSteflily
If they lived under my roof, then I would force them to turn themselves in.
If they did not, then I would not hamper the investigation.
I hope that none of us are ever in a position where we have to make this decision.
Same here!
I agree as well. Up to age of about 18 or until they are on their own, its my problem, and I would encourage and even enforce responsibility.
After that I would probably leave it alone and give as much guidance as possible. But I think I would have a hard time turning them in myself. If they were a danger to themselves or anyone, I think I might be able to.
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