maybe this is just not meant to be.

hi there. fake name, regular poster here. dh and i have been ttc for a while now with no luck. right now things seem to be looking like they may be on the right track and this week i am supposed to O. well of course dh and i are fighting and i feel like i do not even want to be with him anymore, let alone procreate with him. perfect timing, right? things are finally going to happen i think and now i am thinking i dont want them to. dont know what to do. do i go ahead and ttc while i am angry and upset with him in hopes that things cool off and we are ok, or do i skip the month in case things get even worse between us? why does this have to happen during my O week????????

Re: maybe this is just not meant to be.

First off,

I'm sorry you are going through this. I think that you are the only one that can answer that question. How long have you been fighting? What are you fighting over? If it is something that you think will pass and just needs some working through then I would say definitely. But it seems to me that it is probably more serious than that if you are considering not TTC this month because of your fighting. I hope that you and your DH can work everything out so you will be comfortable TTC again.

Re: maybe this is just not meant to be.

I'm sorry hon. But I would say if you feel that seriously...maybe you should wait until you get your relationship back on track before adding a baby to the mix. Baby could add even more stress and if you guys are on each others last nerve now...a baby could be the straw that breaks the camels back.

Take some time to focus on your relationship and try to go back to the reasons why you two married in the first place. maybe that will get you both back on track. but you don't want to bring a baby into an environment where there is any hostility.

I wish you the best of luck!

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I agree with all the PP. TTC is stressful on a marriage. Take the month off and focus on your relationship for a little bit. Good luck to both of you.

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I agree with the other ladies. TTC is stressful enough all on its own; adding other issues to the mix is going to make things worse. I know you said you've been at this for awhile, so the idea of "missing a chance" is frustrating, but everyone will be ultimately be better off if you take some time and reevaluate.

I hope it all works out for you!!!

Re: maybe this is just not meant to be.

I just have huggies for you.

Only you know what your relationship is like... and thus only you know what is the right thing to do. All I shall say is "do the right thing".

Re: maybe this is just not meant to be.