Man had to choose to save wife or child

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This story broke my heart...I mean, its the ultimate of a Catch 22....It could have been prevented if the wife didn't try to chase down a bunch of kids who broke their mailbox

I for their family.

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ugh this is awful

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How horrible. I will keep them in my prayers.

I will be honest.. I love my husband dearly.. but I would die trying to save my child. And my husband would have it no other way.

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I read this yesterday, so sad. The article I read didn't say she was chasing after some kids. Just goes to show you, sometimes, you should just let things go.

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I hope they get counseling

the guilt they both must feel. i would never be able to manage it.

OMG these poor people!

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That's a really sad story, but I'm sorry, she has forgiven the kids??? I don't think I'd be blaming the kids, but myself for getting in the car with my kid and chasing after them. Not saying it's entirely her fault or she should blame herself, but I know I would if it were me.

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Posted by timanda

Posted by JenMarie

That's a really sad story, but I'm sorry, she has forgiven the kids??? I don't think I'd be blaming the kids, but myself for getting in the car with my kid and chasing after them. Not saying it's entirely her fault or she should blame herself, but I know I would if it were me.

I agree. And I don't have kids yet, but I honestly can't imagine saving my husband over my drowning child. Nor would LET him save me knowing my child was still in that car!!

Just a sad story....

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I cannot even imagine

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Posted by heathergirl


Now, what I am going to say I truly am not meaning to come across as rude/uncaring or anything of that sort because I would never wish harm/sadness to ANYONE...BUT...had the husband not saved his wife, he may or may not have have found love again after grieving etc...but the child could NEVER be replaced...not saying the wife CAN, but it's different, KWIM? It's heartbreaking to ever even BE in that situation and I couldn't even imagine what they must be feeling like. Again, I didn't mean to offend, maybe it makes more sense in my head

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Posted by pinkandblue

Posted by heathergirl


Now, what I am going to say I truly am not meaning to come across as rude/uncaring or anything of that sort because I would never wish harm/sadness to ANYONE...BUT...had the husband not saved his wife, he may or may not have have found love again after grieving etc...but the child could NEVER be replaced...not saying the wife CAN, but it's different, KWIM? It's heartbreaking to ever even BE in that situation and I couldn't even imagine what they must be feeling like. Again, I didn't mean to offend, maybe it makes more sense in my head

I understand exactly what you mean....your child is 1/2 YOU...I would give my life for my children in a heartbeat

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how heartbreaking

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its hearbreaking but why this people got themself in this situation?? was it necessary to chase those kids?

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I hope.....no pray this never happens to my family but if so I would be yelling to DH to save our daughter! I couldn't bear to live without her anyway.

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I don't even have kids but know I would instinctively save my child (or die trying) over anyone else, any day!

It's like when you read about a fire where the parents are outside while the kids die in the fire...no way, no how!! They'd be tossed out a window before I'd let that happen!

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There is not a chance I'd want my husband to save me over my child. We are both on the same page about that.

Such a tragedy. If I was that mom the only thing that would keep me going was if there were surviving siblings.

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I have to say that I would have made the same choice he made. They have other children to consider also and if he felt that he son was not reachable then I think he made the right choice. If both were able to be saved then I would save my kids, no question. But in the circumstance it looks like he was in I think I would have made the same choice. As hard as it would be I also couldn't imagine leaving my other kids with no parents and a loss of sibling.

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I think my instinct would be to save my child first HOWEVER, had he gone after his child, his OTHER children could have been left with no parents at all. Perhaps that is what he was thinking. I don't know, I just don't think it is fair for any one of them.

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I don't know if it's fair to judge this guy or the mom. I'm sure the dad made the best decision he could in a split second. Maybe the mom was more reachable and he thought he could save both at first, but then realized he couldn't? And I wouldn't do it, but I'm sure the mom had NO idea that chasing those kids would end up with her son dying! I just feel bad for the family. It really does sound like a freak accident.