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MichiS101207
LIF Infant
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Michelle
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One of my worst nightmares came true
I found out saturday that my husband cheated on me. He's so not the type at all, but since his brother died, he went downhill. He really was a loyal goodhearted person. I am seperating from him for now. We've been ttc for 10 months now and we were having sex every day for two weeks straight up until saturday hours before i found out. i o'd anywhere from 11/13 to 11/19. i dont know what ill do if im pregnant this month. I am so shocked and devastated and hurt and angry. I cant describe this feeling. I dont have any tears left. I hope none of you ever have to feel this way because its awful.
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kristin597
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I am so sorry! What an awful thing to go through. I don't really know what to say. My thoughts are with you 
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| Posted 11/23/09 7:17 PM |
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wanttobeamom
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I am so sorry you are going through this. We are here for you
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| Posted 11/23/09 7:24 PM |
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8ternity
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
omg...I'm so sorry you are going through this...what a jerk!!!
Many Prayers for you...
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| Posted 11/23/09 7:35 PM |
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MichiS101207
LIF Infant
Member since 4/08 175 total posts
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Michelle
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I dont know what to do. Does anyone have any advice? My mind is telling me to work it out for our son and my heart is telling me i just cant
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| Posted 11/23/09 7:53 PM |
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DiamondGirl
You are my I love you
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
Sorry to crash. I was lurking and just saw this post.
As far as you asking for advice, only you know how to proceed.
You say you found out saturday he cheated, did he come home and confess?
You say this is out of character and may have something to do with the loss of his brother. Would you consider counseling together, maybe him alone to work out issues with the loss of his brother.
I am so sorry. Good luck to you and many hugs and prayers
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| Posted 11/23/09 8:01 PM |
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
Posted by MichiS101207
I dont know what to do. Does anyone have any advice? My mind is telling me to work it out for our son and my heart is telling me i just cant
Crashing-first I am so sorry. Second, would you consider couples therapy?
Good luck with whatever you choose.
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| Posted 11/23/09 8:34 PM |
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MichiS101207
LIF Infant
Member since 4/08 175 total posts
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Michelle
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
Posted by DiamondGirl
Sorry to crash. I was lurking and just saw this post.
As far as you asking for advice, only you know how to proceed.
You say you found out saturday he cheated, did he come home and confess?
You say this is out of character and may have something to do with the loss of his brother. Would you consider counseling together, maybe him alone to work out issues with the loss of his brother.
I am so sorry. Good luck to you and many hugs and prayers
He was on the phone w her and I walked in. He lied and lied and I had to trick him into telling me. He only had sex once and was talking to her about a month. The worst part is he works with her. Hes at work with her now. He went to work last night and told her he wanted nothing to do w her. I checked his phone records and hes telling the truth. He first told me hes confused and didnt know what he wanted which made me real angry. Then he begged last night. When I say this is not my husband, its really not. People told me yesterday, sorry michelle, id expect u to cheat before him. Everyone is in shock. I dont know what got into him. but he kept lying and i dont know how i can ever trust him again or how i wont want to check his phone every day or follow him around. is it really worth it?
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| Posted 11/23/09 8:40 PM |
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JavaJunkie
Someday, Somehow
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Lois
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I'm sorry,
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| Posted 11/23/09 8:43 PM |
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MichiS101207
LIF Infant
Member since 4/08 175 total posts
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Michelle
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I was thinking about that. its just going to be so hard to get over. I keep thinking about him with her and its killing me so bad. i never thought id go thru this
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| Posted 11/23/09 8:44 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
Hun,I am so sorry.
I really can't answer this for you. I think that you will determine what is best for you and your relationship as you two spend some time apart.
Right now this is too fresh of a wound to make any decisions imo.
Sometimes time apart can clear your head... I am so sorry you are going through this...It is good that he told her he wants nothing to do with her...but it is hard to regain trust
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| Posted 11/23/09 8:44 PM |
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babylove628
mommy of two!
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I have no words of wisdom just some hugs and prayers
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| Posted 11/23/09 8:46 PM |
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mlny
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I'm so sorry you are going through this.
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| Posted 11/23/09 9:01 PM |
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I am so sorry your going through this. Honestly I say you should try couples therapy and see where you are from there. I HTH. We are all here for you!
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| Posted 11/23/09 9:09 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I'm so sorry!!!
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| Posted 11/23/09 9:15 PM |
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BriBri2u
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I'm so sorry 
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| Posted 11/23/09 9:20 PM |
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wants2bamom
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
Im so sorry!!
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| Posted 11/23/09 9:33 PM |
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FlowerWife
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
soo sorry
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So sorry to hear this.
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| Posted 11/23/09 10:18 PM |
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TnJ2007
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Tricia
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
i'm soo sorry!! good luck with whatever you chose to do.
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| Posted 11/24/09 5:40 AM |
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BabysMomma29
Due with Baby #2!
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I'm so sorry
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| Posted 11/24/09 6:19 AM |
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MrsC614
My little angel is here <3
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Gina
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I am so sorry to hear this. no one should have to deal with stuff like this, and whatever you decide to do should be your decision. Everyone is different. Counseling is a good option, especially if you do end up being pregnant. I totally hear you with the trust thing: i had an ex cheat on me for a LONG time, i had no clue until I caught him, and then he continued to lie about it. I had to leave him. And I think that if you can't trust someone, it;s not worth it, but that's me. You do what's right for you. Take time for yourself and think. Don't let him call you every 5 minutes and beg. Start going to counseling without him. It's going to be a long processm but we're here if you need us hun!
again, so sorry!
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ARIELSMOM
Love my Babes
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
Im so sorry, take a little time for yourself to decide what you want to do. its your decision that you have to live comforatbly with for the rest of your life & you dont have to make it over night. its a very hard situation to be in, especially b/c he will still see her every day at work. id talk to a therapist, alone and together, whatever decision you make, you still have a child together and will have to deal wiht him forever, so therapy is a good place to start.
hang in there 
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| Posted 11/24/09 9:30 AM |
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MamaB17
Back for baby #3
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I am so sorry that you are going through this.
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MrsFein09
We are so in Love with you!!!
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Re: One of my worst nightmares came true
I am so sorry!!!!!!!! I agree with the other ladies regarding couseling. It is a decision only you can make. I want to give you and best wishes with whatever your decisions turns out to be.
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