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Absolutely, in a second. I would do everything I possibley could to save my child. And, having another child would also be a blessing and I would love that child just as much :)

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I actually talked about this topic with DH. I did not read this book but saw several documentaries on the topic.

I DO understand that people want to safe their children.

I am actually looking on advocate programs are available for those children born to be organ donors. What are THEIR rights? They have no say since they are under 18 whether they agree or not to give up a kidney. While saving a child is wonderful, we need to thing about those children who become body parts machines.

I know it sounds harsh but I feel terrible for those children both physically and emotionally. How would anyone feel knowing your parents had you so they can save your older sibling? That you were born to give your kidney up. What is their life and how they feel about themselves? No children deserve this.

On a similar topic, since our son was diagnosted with austism, the topic of children born afterwards is also a topic of discussion. It's interesting to read, found out how THEY felt as the other children. How they felt sometimes that they were born to take care of their older sibling after the parents were gone? How they hated that everything was always focused on the child with autism? Of course, not all children will feel this way on this particular topic but it's interesting to know their point of view.

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as long as the 2nd baby would not be hurt or harmed by saving baby #1, I would definitely do it

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that's the issue...baby #2 would be undergoing surgeries...medical treatments. What if something went wrong? Baby #2 was never sick to begin with...but poked and proded. Put out for surgery. Missing days of school.

Very interesting info sophie.

Its hard, I would do anything for Josh, but #2 would be catered to in a completely different way. And its easy to say #2 would feel loved...but after my hospital stays in pediatrics wing of hospital this year, its VERY hard on the non sick siblings. All there time afterschool is spent in hospital room so that they are not home alone. While, rightfully so, all parents attention is on sick child. Sucking it all out of parents emotionally anyway.

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Being a parent who watched their son die, I wish I would have had the chance to have another baby to help save his life. I know DH and I went to every extreme possible on earth to save his life when we could.

I don't think you can truly say no unless you are truly faced with that decision which I hope and pray none of you ever have to actually face. Knowing that you have the power to help save your child's life and bring another baby into your family (and not jeopardize the future life of the second child) - I don't know how I could not try with every fiber of my being.

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I don't know WHAT we would do.

I do know that when I read that book, it stirred up a myriad of emotions in me. The main one was true anger at the parents for what they were putting their "donor" child through. To me, I felt it was incredibly selfish to consistently take from one child to help another.

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Without a doubt! There is NOTHING I wouldnt do to save my dd's life. Since shes my first, I dont even know if it would be in question why I had a second but regardless, I dont really care about the drama involved or what people would say in re: to doing this. I know for sure I would save my daughter.

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I'd do it in a heartbeat. We'd like another child and if we could use technology so that this child could save our first child, then yes - we'd do it.

This is why we banked our daughter's cord blood - hopefully we'll never need to use it, but we wanted to have the stem cells preserved.

I read the book - and I guess I'm the odd man out - but I hated it. I thought the story was interesting, but I really didnt like the way it was written at all.

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Without a doubt. I would do whatever it takes to save my child...anything!!


OK...I just read through these responses...i've never read or heard of the book. If it was a once or twice thing I would have no problem with it. If it was a continuing battle and putting the 2nd child through hell with painfull surgeries then I don't know what I would do. I don't know...I would have to be put in the situation to make that decision.

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Posted by hbugal

Posted by Summersalwaysinseason

Something very similar to this happened in Suffolk. A child was born with a deadly disease and another child was conceived in the hopes of saving her (cord blood). They followed the story in Newsday for a while. It was very touching and it made me think about it.

I would do it. I would do everything in my power to save my child, even conceiving the perfect match, as long as I knew that the my newest child would also be conceived out of love and pure want for the child. And also knowing that the newest child's life would not be in any risk healthwise....

You know she goes to school with the twins right?... Although she is younger than them...

I cant see doing everything possible to save my child....

When DH and were debating back and forth whether or not to have DS we didnt know what the right answer was...But what we did know was that if we didnt have another child we might wake up someday and think that we should have had another one. We knew though we would never question once he was here...KWIM?

A child is a gift...no matter what...

I do know ( I used to work there )...I just didn't want to say too much, not sure why. I was worried about local "drama" starting, which I wouldn't wish upon that family....I'm sure I was just being paranoid. I truly hope she is doing well...I taught her brother and was lucky enough to meet her when she was young (prior to school age) when they had a fundraiser for her at the school.

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I can't say what I will do until I am facing the situation (hopefully I will never have to make this decision!)... but one thing I know for sure is that I will do absolutely anything to save my child, including giving up my own life.

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I loved that book!

Yes, I certainly would. We always planned on having two anyway, so for us it would be a no-brainer. Now, if I had two and this would be my third, then I would see it as it was planned for us to have more.

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Seeing as I probably would love to have another child, I am sure I would. It would be really hard to make a choice like that though.

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One word answer - YES.

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Re: having another baby to save one you already have

Posted by hbugal

Posted by Summersalwaysinseason

Posted by hbugal

Posted by Summersalwaysinseason

Something very similar to this happened in Suffolk. A child was born with a deadly disease and another child was conceived in the hopes of saving her (cord blood). They followed the story in Newsday for a while. It was very touching and it made me think about it.

I would do it. I would do everything in my power to save my child, even conceiving the perfect match, as long as I knew that the my newest child would also be conceived out of love and pure want for the child. And also knowing that the newest child's life would not be in any risk healthwise....

You know she goes to school with the twins right?... Although she is younger than them...

I cant see doing everything possible to save my child....

When DH and were debating back and forth whether or not to have DS we didnt know what the right answer was...But what we did know was that if we didnt have another child we might wake up someday and think that we should have had another one. We knew though we would never question once he was here...KWIM?

A child is a gift...no matter what...

I do know ( I used to work there )...I just didn't want to say too much, not sure why. I was worried about local "drama" starting, which I wouldn't wish upon that family....I'm sure I was just being paranoid. I truly hope she is doing well...I taught her brother and was lucky enough to meet her when she was young (prior to school age) when they had a fundraiser for her at the school.

I figured you did....

I think it hits home a little bit closer for us b/c we've "seen" it...or rather the good of it...Does that make sense?

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Newsday story


After reading this, I know I would do it to save one of my children.

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