Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I wouldn't say bitter but I am still pretty upset with my doctor. She only showed up as my DD was coming out of the birth canal.

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I think bitter is a really weird word to use.

I had a high risk pregnancy and c-section and a doctor who seemed not too attentive and at the end of it all and I have two healthy children. I am not bitter, but I don't think i would be bitter in any way unless something happened to my children.

The pregnancy, the birth, the first few months, and even sometimes now, I question why I decided to have kids, but I am never, ever bitter. Overwhelmed, frustrated...sure. Never bitter. I would never think that in a million years.

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Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I just wanted to send to all you moms!

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

i'm okay with it all, even the c-section after 2 hours of pushing. i'm just SOOO scared to do it again AND have josh at the same time.

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I'm definitely not bitter, but there are moments that I'm incredibly sad. At 37 weeks I developed complications and had to have an emergency c-section. I had to be totally put under and my family and friends saw my child before I did. I stilll cry (and I'm crying now) when I see a baby on tv just being born. I will never experience my DS in the first instant he was born.
I'm incredibly thankful that everyone was ok. I know that if I didn't have him then, that I could have died, but its hard for me to not be sad.

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

Everyone has their own feelings and use their own words to describe them. Bitter, sad, depressed, disappointed..in my case, its more disappointment for me. And yes..I still hold on to that.

Its no ones fault but my pregnancy, mentally, was awful! I have no idea why it happened to me or if it was all the stress that went along with the pregnancy..i.e. problems at work, having the house worked on big time, fights with my dh, etc. but my pregnancy was just horrible. Physically, I felt great until the last month. But mentally I was a mess and wasnt able to enjoy any aspect of it. I feel so bad now for feeling that way when I look at my daughter but it was something out of my control and I now know that. But I do feel like an experience was somehow ripped from me and I am afraid a second pregnancy may bring along the same feelings.


As far as my delivery goes. Disappointment and anger go with that. I had an awful experience when it came to pushing. My doctor let me go for WAY TOO LONG and it resulted in a c section for me and my baby had to go to the nicu. I wasnt able to see or hold her until the next day. It has truly hurt me forever. It wasnt the experience I had wanted or expected and I think a lot of the way it went down could have been avoided. When I look back now, I just see the happiness I have been fortunate enough to have since the day I brought her home. My life is now complete and I try so hard not to focus on that other stuff. BUt when its such a major part of your life..something you have looked forward to forever...it really sticks with you. The outcome of everything is literally my entire life now...but I just wish some things could have been different.

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

Posted by Gatsbygirl

I had the WORST morning sickness, but when I look at my baby boy I forget it all! So not at all.

I am ready to do it all over again

I DO, however, miss my old figure

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I dont think im bitter about anything, but i truely did not enjoy being preg. I also had a fairley uneventful preg. I had some back issues where at times i couldnt move...I think maybe sometimes if I hadnt been laid off from my job at 3 months preg. when we were just starting to tell ppl...then having to find another job right away and just took what i could find and hiding my preg. again there until i had my waiting period in (hid it until i was 7 months preg) maybe i would have enjoyed it more...i had to spend most of my preg. hiding the fact that i was preg. from my job in fear of getting let go before my 90 days where in to be able to get my mat leave.
I LOVED my doc. and will def. be going back to her for my next, my labour and delivery were great I would do that part all over again...the feelings after she was born for about 3 wks I never want to feel again...my hormones were so far out of wack it was awful hot and cold flashes, crying all the time, no milk supply trying to take meds and pump to get it going but still barely getting 3oz from both bb's combined...i got over that though and now get to enjoy my beautful little girl so i guess in the end it was worth all of it, but it was hard emtionally

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

This is so interesting!

I would say I'm a little bitter. The morning sickeness was awful, but I am still so scarred from labor and delivery. I REALLY WANTED a C section, I can't even explain why. I find it so interesting that so many C section moms want a vaginal birth - I think labor and delivery just s*cks!!!!

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

Not bitter per se, but I wish I had been able to chose a natural birth. I knew from week 26 or so that I was going to have a c-section & it kind of changed how I felt about the birth.

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I loved being pregnant after the first trimester, and my labor and delivery went pretty well, even considering the fact that a nurse exploded a vein in my arm trying to start the IV, and they couldn't find the anesthesiologist for an hour and a half while i was in HARD LABOR without an epidural.

My problems came after deliver. there were no rooms available in the maternity ward so i had to stay in recovery for 14 hours with 7 others in the room. during that time i asked to see a lactation consultant, and i was refused access to one. i was then put into a room with a woman who had all sorts of issues with social services, so people were in and out of the room all day and night. When I finally was able to see the lactation consultant, she stayed with me for a total of about 5 minutes, and her last words were "I hope you have a breast pump at home because you're going to need a way to feed this baby". I asked for her to come back for the next feeding, she never showed.

Most of the nurses absolutely s*cked. I HATE NSUH. it's a dump and more than half of the staff was unfriendly or downright mean in my opinion. There were a few nice nurses but other than that I thought most of them need a lecture on bedside manner.

I think that my next delivery will be better because i wont be as afraid and insecure, so i wont need their help, but if my doctors delivered anywhere else i would rather never go back there again.

I would say I am definitely still bitter about my hospital experience. I hear about others who had full access to lactation consultants, friendly nurses, private rooms, etc. and it makes me sad that my first few days with DS were horrid.

ETA: Thanks, I feel a lot better after getting all of this out!

Message edited 4/19/2008 9:08:52 AM.

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I don't think I will ever not be bitter about the events surrounding my first c-section. I just don't think about it as much.

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

Honestly, not bitter, but in SHOCK!
From water breaking to delivery took 9 hours, and major labor was only about 4 with 20 min of true pushing.
I was 2 1/2 weeks early.....it took about a week to really realize that I did it......

Re: Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I feel very lucky that things went well for me, but I have talked to lots of women that were not happy with their situations. You are not alone. When you have an image in your head of how something should go, it can be disappointing.