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jambalady
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DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
but my SIL (brother's wife) is planning one for me.
I don't know why, but they have mentioned previously that they feel like baby showers are dumb and that people have some nerve to register and ask for specific things for their shower. DH has 4 sisters.
SIL was planning on inviting them as well as close aunts, cousins of DH, but I feel badly that they think baby showers are self-serving.
I get along with them very well otherwise, and they all got me beautiful things for the baby for christmas, but I think that's just it. Their attitude is that people who want to wish you well on the birth of their baby will do so on their own and that they do not want to feel "forced" to buy you something off a registry for a shower.
It's so bizarre. I know they are all generous and mean well, but should I tell SIL not to bother inviting them?
If it's just my side of the family, I think my mom and relatives will feel slighted by DH's, which is truly not the case, since I know they would love to and will get me gifts on their own.
It just makes me feel bad that they would think that baby showers are self-serving.
what would you do?
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Preguntas
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
I would ask them outright if they want to be invited. If your MIL, for example, is one of the haters- ask her. Say, I understand you don't like them- do you think we should not invite your family?
I love when people have such stubborn opinions on things like showers.
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| Posted 1/9/08 5:22 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
I would invite them and let them make their own decision on whether or not they want to come.
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| Posted 1/9/08 5:43 PM |
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Chica
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
Posted by Preguntas
I would ask them outright if they want to be invited. If your MIL, for example, is one of the haters- ask her. Say, I understand you don't like them- do you think we should not invite your family?
I love when people have such stubborn opinions on things like showers.
I agree with this approach. That way she is at least aware you're having a shower and it's her call whether or not her side of the family will be invited. Less stress off your shoulders.
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| Posted 1/9/08 5:46 PM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
def. invite them, if they don't come it's thier loss. If they don't show they would look bad to your parents
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08BabySurprise
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
Posted by krissy888
def. invite them, if they don't come it's thier loss. If they don't show they would look bad to your parents
I agree. I would invite them and they can decide if they want to come or not. You at least will be doing the right thing by including them.
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| Posted 1/9/08 7:31 PM |
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beaviss80
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
Posted by 08BabySurprise
Posted by krissy888
def. invite them, if they don't come it's thier loss. If they don't show they would look bad to your parents
I agree. I would invite them and they can decide if they want to come or not. You at least will be doing the right thing by including them.
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| Posted 1/9/08 7:33 PM |
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
No matter what I would invite mil and sils.
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| Posted 1/9/08 7:45 PM |
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CalendarGirl16
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
same here.. DH's family doens't believe in baby showers at all.. they feel its bad luck to buy anything for the baby until after he/she is born, meanwhile my mom and grandmother are super into it.. so they will invite and whoever wishes to come comes simple as that.
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| Posted 1/10/08 12:49 AM |
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dapnkap
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Re: DH's family not keen on the idea of baby showers
I would invite them and if they don't come, they don't come...
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