Who would rather not give birth in NY??

I’m Texan
I mean TEXAN go so far back as Indian Reservations and Mexico/AZ still being Texas, Texan!

Every single person in my father’s family without a single exception has been born in Texas. Regardless of where they live now or close after birth, they have been born in Texas. I was born outside Houston and three weeks later was living in Cuba to be followed up by moving all over the place with my dad (who as Navy).

I would be the ONLY woman to not have her child in Texas if I gave birth here. And I know it sounds trivial but it’s heartbreaking for me. I am not religious (haha not even close) but my Texan Pride is my faith. I can travel the world and always I am American but Texan gives me a different standing (those who are Texan here understand). We stand apart, we are automatically assumed to have a drawl, be southern, polite, patient and just plain different!

I don’t want to give birth here. I don’t want have a New Yorker baby!! Am I nuts????

(PS: Hubby isn’t a New Yorker either. He was born in Hong Kong under British rule)

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I don't think it's "nuts"

but just keep in mind that you can't fly toward the end of pregnancy, so you'd have to be in Texas for probably over a month if that really what you want to do!

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You're not nuts, bc I feel the same about a NY baby..I want my baby born in NY, bc I want him/her to be known as a New Yorker.

I hope you get your Texas baby!!

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Posted by neener1211

You're not nuts, bc I feel the same about a NY baby..I want my baby born in NY, bc I want him/her to be known as a New Yorker.

I hope you get your Texas baby!!

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Honestly, yes, I think this is a little nuts. You live in NY. I am assuming once you get pregnant, your ob will be in NY. Or are you planning to travel to TX every time you go for a prenatal visit? What are you planning to do? Get a new doctor a few weeks before your delivery? What if you have complications? What if you deliver early?
And even if you do give birth in Texas, you still live in new york. Your baby will be raised in NY and will be a New Yorker. Your baby won't have the Texan drawl, or be southern. And what are you saying, that New Yorkers are not polite or patient.
I don't want to sound mean, but I really don't understand what you are saying except that you seem to be putting down New Yorkers.

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I took no offense and I don’t think you meant any.

I don’t have a drawl. I can be downright rude and stubborn. All people can. When I wrote those things I said ‘other people assume’ and it’s true. Often people are disappointed I don’t have drawl!!!

Actually I don’t want my children raised here either. My five year plan is to re-locate to our Dallas office. I have already begun to drop the hint to my department manager. At my annual review which may not be in 2008 since I started mid year 2007, I will again provide my career plan.

There are indeed cultural differences in New York or any state compared to any other state of the union as is the same for America and other countries. It’s hard to describe why I feel the way I do, I just know I do.

I’m homesick and find very little here in New York that makes me happy other than my husband. I have no family here (not even a distant cousin). So far my job is the only reason I’m still here.

As far as complications and early labor.. these things happen. OBs are educated in Texas too. I have no connection to any hospitals or doctors here. I’m sorta private about that part of my body that I never want to see that doctor more than I have to .. EVER. To me, they are all machines with a heartbeat. They do not register in my mind as humans. I can’t let them or I’d die of embarrassment. I am a job to them. A task that needs to be completed and they’re the tools and expertise to get it done.

I just wanted to share to see if anyone else has had this experience.

I have tossed around the idea of leaving two weeks before birth and slowly driving back home. Set up and have a baby there. This can be worked out with doctors in advance I am sure. Just wanted to know how others felt. Believe it or not, my husband supports me!

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Sorry to invade the TTC board, but I just wanted to say my great-aunt felt the same way in the late 1940s. She and her DH lived on Long Island at the time, but she drove to her mother's house in Pennsylvania a month before the baby was due, and stayed there so she could have her son born in her hometown in PA. It was just that important to her.

After that she went on to have two more children in NY, so either her priorities changed or the logistics got too challenging!

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your baby is your baby regardless of where he is born

honestly, if i were you, i (personally) would wait until i moved back to texas to get pregnant so i could have a texas baby. too many people have complications to chance driving to texas to go to obgyn appts.

i was born in queens, so technically i am a queens girl. but i am as suburban long island as they come. where you're born has nothing to do (IMO) with how you're raised. if you raise your child with your texas values, it wouldn't matter if you lived in russia

and BTW...i lived in the south for 4 years so i do understand how different areas of the country are different.

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I think it is home pride, and most people here love NY and take pride in their town. Just as Texas is your home. I know my family in Florida thinks the sun rises and sets there and will go to any length to state how wonderful their state is. I wish you the best of luck and raise your baby where you are comfortable and happy...If it means that much to you I would try and look for work in Texas, what are the options of quitting your job and moving back?

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I would plan your move before you get pregnant.

It seems that you want to be there anyway. Why don't you move your time frame up?

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Posted by Xelindrya

I’m Texan
I mean TEXAN go so far back as Indian Reservations and Mexico/AZ still being Texas, Texan!

I am the exact opposite. My husband is a New Yorker and I am from Maine. We are currently living in Dallas and can't imagine our child will be a "Texan". We are such Yankees that the idea is just foreign to us. By the way, my husband was born in Hong Kong and we joke that our baby will be the first Chinese Texan. Our goal is to move back to the NorthEast one day since all of our family is there.