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Bxgell2
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Beth
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I am SO proud of myself
I just told off my brother. This is the one in VA. He just emailed me to complain about how I'm changing everything and he can't keep up, and can't help out now.
So, I emailed him back and told him exactly what I think of him and my other brother.
Anyone wanna see? It's pretty good. I'm patting myself on the back. If this destroys whatever little relationship we had, so be it.
 <---- some claps for myself 
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MikesWife
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Good for you.
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:48 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Good for you! I'm sure it felt good!
If you're asking if we want to see your email. Of course I do
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:48 PM |
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Good for you
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:48 PM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Ok, but be forewarned, it's LONG!
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Well, unfortunately that's just how it is. I'm trying as best I can these last two weeks to set something in stone, but things happen, and we just have to work around them. The fact is the furniture cannot be delivered on the day we set, and having it delivered on Tuesday instead is just cutting it too close, that's why I have to push it back to the prior Friday. I'm doing the best I can with coordinating everything but it's not easy.
I know it's inconvenient, and a pain, but if you think it's difficult for you, try to step back for a moment and imagine how difficult is has been for me and (DH)? We have Dad living in our house for 10 months, making his meals, doing his laundry, transporting him to and from dialysis, driving him to apartments to pick a place, taking him furniture shopping, etc. We are both making sacrifices left and right, not just for personal committments, but for work as well. I didn't see my daughter yesterday at all because I spent 6 hours of my day taking Dad furniture shopping.
Keep in mind, too, (DH) is doing this out of the goodness of his heart. He has taken countless days off from his work to help YOUR father. And, at this point, because I spent so much time visiting Dad at the hospital, and taking care of other stuff related to him, I have NO paid time off for the rest of the year.
I'll tell you this, I'm starting to feel very frustrated and angry at everyone in this family for letting this burden fall on my shoulders entirely, and spill over onto my husband. It really shouldn't have to come to the point where I have to *ask* for help, and then get slack from EVERYONE about how I'm doing things wrong. I'm disappointed and ****** off. This has been the most difficult year of my life, and I've just about had it, I really have.
If you can help, great. If you can't, we'll manage on our own.
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:50 PM |
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TeddyBear922
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Good for you.....even if you lose people in the end...it feels great to stand up for yourself. And Yes I want to see!
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:50 PM |
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Phyl
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Both your bros deserve this.. Image Attachment(s):
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:51 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Posted by Bxgell2
Ok, but be forewarned, it's LONG!
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Well, unfortunately that's just how it is. I'm trying as best I can these last two weeks to set something in stone, but things happen, and we just have to work around them. The fact is the furniture cannot be delivered on the day we set, and having it delivered on Tuesday instead is just cutting it too close, that's why I have to push it back to the prior Friday. I'm doing the best I can with coordinating everything but it's not easy.
I know it's inconvenient, and a pain, but if you think it's difficult for you, try to step back for a moment and imagine how difficult is has been for me and (DH)? We have Dad living in our house for 10 months, making his meals, doing his laundry, transporting him to and from dialysis, driving him to apartments to pick a place, taking him furniture shopping, etc. We are both making sacrifices left and right, not just for personal committments, but for work as well. I didn't see my daughter yesterday at all because I spent 6 hours of my day taking Dad furniture shopping.
Keep in mind, too, (DH) is doing this out of the goodness of his heart. He has taken countless days off from his work to help YOUR father. And, at this point, because I spent so much time visiting Dad at the hospital, and taking care of other stuff related to him, I have NO paid time off for the rest of the year.
I'll tell you this, I'm starting to feel very frustrated and angry at everyone in this family for letting this burden fall on my shoulders entirely, and spill over onto my husband. It really shouldn't have to come to the point where I have to *ask* for help, and then get slack from EVERYONE about how I'm doing things wrong. I'm disappointed and ****** off. This has been the most difficult year of my life, and I've just about had it, I really have.
If you can help, great. If you can't, we'll manage on our own.
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:52 PM |
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MrsT
Enjoying wedded bliss.....
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Katrina
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Posted by Bxgell2
I just told off my brother. This is the one in VA. He just emailed me to complain about how I'm changing everything and he can't keep up, and can't help out now.
So, I emailed him back and told him exactly what I think of him and my other brother.
Anyone wanna see? It's pretty good. I'm patting myself on the back. If this destroys whatever little relationship we had, so be it.
<---- some claps for myself
 I told my brother off last week and I'm He is similar to your brothers and I refuse to deal with it anymore.
I hope he shapes up or just stays out of your life!!!
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:54 PM |
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MrsT
Enjoying wedded bliss.....
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Katrina
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Posted by Bxgell2
Ok, but be forewarned, it's LONG!
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Well, unfortunately that's just how it is. I'm trying as best I can these last two weeks to set something in stone, but things happen, and we just have to work around them. The fact is the furniture cannot be delivered on the day we set, and having it delivered on Tuesday instead is just cutting it too close, that's why I have to push it back to the prior Friday. I'm doing the best I can with coordinating everything but it's not easy.
I know it's inconvenient, and a pain, but if you think it's difficult for you, try to step back for a moment and imagine how difficult is has been for me and (DH)? We have Dad living in our house for 10 months, making his meals, doing his laundry, transporting him to and from dialysis, driving him to apartments to pick a place, taking him furniture shopping, etc. We are both making sacrifices left and right, not just for personal committments, but for work as well. I didn't see my daughter yesterday at all because I spent 6 hours of my day taking Dad furniture shopping.
Keep in mind, too, (DH) is doing this out of the goodness of his heart. He has taken countless days off from his work to help YOUR father. And, at this point, because I spent so much time visiting Dad at the hospital, and taking care of other stuff related to him, I have NO paid time off for the rest of the year.
I'll tell you this, I'm starting to feel very frustrated and angry at everyone in this family for letting this burden fall on my shoulders entirely, and spill over onto my husband. It really shouldn't have to come to the point where I have to *ask* for help, and then get slack from EVERYONE about how I'm doing things wrong. I'm disappointed and ****** off. This has been the most difficult year of my life, and I've just about had it, I really have.
If you can help, great. If you can't, we'll manage on our own.
I love this!!!!! You were far nicer than I would have been. Kudos!!!!
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:55 PM |
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Shelly
She's 7!!!
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
That is telling off your brother?? Man he got off easy.
But good for you!! IT must feel so good to be able to finally tell your brothers how you are feeling. What you wrote was so honest and great. You should be so proud of yourself!!
Please keep us posted with his response.
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| Posted 8/31/07 1:58 PM |
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TreAnt427
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Tracy
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Good for you!!
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:05 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Good for you!
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:07 PM |
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NewYawkah
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
I thought it was very well written and he definitely deserved it!! Good for you!!!
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:15 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
Member since 7/05 32475 total posts
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Susan
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
too nice.
I still want to kick him in the shins.
Nobody knows what a caregiver really does until they become one.
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:18 PM |
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Waste06
Waste not, want not
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Lois Mom Mommy Mama Ma
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Good job!!
Although I'm sorry it had to get to the point where you had to put him in his place. Considering all the stress you've been under, I'd say you were easy on him!
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:22 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
Member since 6/07 42079 total posts
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LB
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
good for you! i have to say, you were quite reserved compared to what i would have said... but i'm willing to bet you have a cooler head than me  i hope things work out and you get your dad settled in soon!
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:22 PM |
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Bluepixie
Mamarazzi
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Laura
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
I'm glad you got to say what you've wanted to say for a while but have been skirting the issue a bit
I'll bet they won't even reply!
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:26 PM |
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itkocak
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Message edited 11/10/2011 10:36:10 PM.
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:33 PM |
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pugmama
April already?
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Erica
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
good job!
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:36 PM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Posted by Shelly
That is telling off your brother?? Man he got off easy.
But good for you!! IT must feel so good to be able to finally tell your brothers how you are feeling. What you wrote was so honest and great. You should be so proud of yourself!!
Please keep us posted with his response.
I don't want to give anyone ammo to turn it around and say I was mean, or hit low. I want to maintain my grace, tell it like it is without being immature, and then it's totally on them.
I guarantee there won't be a response.
Would you believe he told me that he can't come help me out because he's helping his girlfriend move her dad? PRIORITIES!!!
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:51 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
Member since 7/05 32475 total posts
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Susan
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by Shelly
That is telling off your brother?? Man he got off easy.
But good for you!! IT must feel so good to be able to finally tell your brothers how you are feeling. What you wrote was so honest and great. You should be so proud of yourself!!
Please keep us posted with his response.
I don't want to give anyone ammo to turn it around and say I was mean, or hit low. I want to maintain my grace, tell it like it is without being immature, and then it's totally on them.
I guarantee there won't be a response.
Would you believe he told me that he can't come help me out because he's helping his girlfriend move her dad? PRIORITIES!!!
what!!!!!!!!??????!!!!! Her dad is more important that his own?
You need to have the wills changed.
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:52 PM |
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sunflowerjesss
Mommy to 3!
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Jesss, duh.
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
All I can say is wow, good for you! That was perfectly written and you brother(s) better feel pretty crappy about the way they've been acting now.
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:55 PM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Posted by Blu-ize
what!!!!!!!!??????!!!!! Her dad is more important that his own?
You need to have the wills changed.
Never gonna happen. And they stand to inherit quite a lot of money. When they DO inherit it, I'm going to tell both of them that if they had a conscious, they would donate at least half to the American Diabetes Association.
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| Posted 8/31/07 2:56 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Susan
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Re: I am SO proud of myself
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by Blu-ize
what!!!!!!!!??????!!!!! Her dad is more important that his own?
You need to have the wills changed.
Never gonna happen. And they stand to inherit quite a lot of money. When they DO inherit it, I'm going to tell both of them that if they had a conscious, they would donate at least half to the American Diabetes Association.
Your dad won't change the wills?
Maybe it's time you told him how his sons are behaving.
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