How do I discreetly tell DH.....

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jxnoscar
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Re: How do I discreetly tell DH.....

Posted by curliegirl

We do see her all the time.
She couldn't come to 4th of July at my parents because it's a yearly tradition with our friends to go to my parents house, and this year my brother and SIL and newborn son came too.
It would have been too crazy for her to come as well, and there would be no where to sleep.
We go back since my engagement, it's a long and twisted story, but to be brief, it's always about her. You know the type of person that can always make anything abut them? Well, this is a prime example.

I never say no all the time, it's just that he wants to ask her to come along for this Hershey weekend when I already said to invite her to Labor Day.

That's 2 weeks apart, I don't think I could deal.
It may sound harsh and I DO compromise, but there is only so much I can take.
And while married, we were never included or asked to go anywhere for anything. We get asked to watch their dog!!!

ETA
you might remember, this is the same person, who, on a cruise together 4 days after my miscarriage, said to my face "wait till you have kids, you'll see what it's like".

Um....Can't you do somethign separate with her? I would try to come up with some sort of compromise. How close is he to her? Your parents house??? No way. If you get enough peeps together I would do the Hershey Park, bc it's big and you aren't forced to be on top of her the whole time, but make SURE she gets her own room.

Posted 7/26/07 9:40 AM

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Re: How do I discreetly tell DH.....

Posted by curliegirl

It may sound harsh and I DO compromise, but there is only so much I can take.
And while married, we were never included or asked to go anywhere for anything. We get asked to watch their dog!!!

ETA
you might remember, this is the same person, who, on a cruise together 4 days after my miscarriage, said to my face "wait till you have kids, you'll see what it's like".

I dont know---
unless she is a total spiteful monster,I doubt she didnt say this on purpose-sometimes people say stupid things without realizing it.
I know for sure that its more difficult NOT getting along w/DH's family....& only noticing the bad doesnt do any good.

and for the sake of your marriage & respecting your DH I would try to let a little more roll off your back...
like others say, your inlaws are going to be around for a long time!
And from what you are saying-your SIL doesnt sound totally impossible, it could be a LOT worse! (take it from someone who has years of experience with problems in the in-law dept!)

Posted 7/26/07 9:55 AM

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curliegirl
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Re: How do I discreetly tell DH.....

You're all right, she isn't a total monster. And I do let a lot of things roll off my back for the sake of DH and my own personal sanity.

We get along fine when we are together, because I just suck it up and deal. I don't mind one weekend or the other, but not both. And I am not going to have DH ask to invite her every time we make plans to go somewhere, it's been everything lately, and he knows she rubs me the wrong way a little.

For the record, it's not just me, my friends aren't too fond of her either. Should be a fun weekend!
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