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OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I noticed that some of you ladies actually had a plan - I will be married by (whatever age) - and you accomplished that!!!
How many of you actually had a plan and accomplished it - and how many of you are like me - had plans early on in life and realized you were never going to meet them, so just let everything happen regardless of plans?
I realized somewhere in my life that these 2 sayings were very very true:
"Life is what happens when you are busy making plans"
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"Man plans and God laughs."
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Posted 6/29/07 2:04 PM  |
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Snozberry
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
Funny - I discussed this in depth with a friend of mine over the weekend. She's the true planner - for everythign. I never made plans for my life. Especially in terms of relationships.
The only true plans that I have are to become an author, to dance and to travel a lot. The rest - I just fly by the seat of my pants. It works out well for me.
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:06 PM |
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BobBsWife
No more school= too much time!
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I am an over planner. Everything that i have set out to do I have done. I would now like to relax and not plan everything else but i think its in my blood!
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:06 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
Posted by lipglossjunky73
How many of you actually had a plan and accomplished it - and how many of you are like me - had plans early on in life and realized you were never going to meet them, so just let everything happen regardless of plans?
This is me, I always thought that I would be married by 25, have kids soon after
Well....I was dating an azzhole at 25 and am SO glad that I did not marry him....it's bad enough I wasted 5 years of my life with him....
you cannot plan life.....I try to go with the flow now 
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:06 PM |
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J9-13
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I never had a plan until I was dating Dh for a couple of years. We started dating when I was 17 so I certainly wasn't thinking about marriage. We always knew we would get married but didn't make plans. When I was about 19-20, I thought about how my ideal age to be married would be 25. We got engaged when I was 21 and had been together for 4 years already.
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:08 PM |
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Phyl
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
Nothing I thought I would be doing now I am doing! I think my life turned out better by making sure I had a back up plan in case my original plans fell thru. I totally agree with the two statements you wrote at the bottom of your post Liza! I am self sufficient because you never know what life has in store for you.
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KrisT
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I never had a an actual "plan." I am very career oriented and just always pictured myself getting married and having kids later on. Instead, I got married at 26 and will probably TTC MUCH sooner than I "planned" 
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:10 PM |
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baghag
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
When I was younger, I planned a lot and none of those materialized. But I'm pretty happy where I am and what I am doing, and my only plans for the future are to get through school and travel whenever possible. 
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:10 PM |
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antoinette
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I plan to the max - my life with dh is practically the way I planned as far as getting married, having a baby, owning a house etc.
I never would have imagined doing this without my mom though- she was always in my plans- life tossed a major curve ball when she passed 
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:11 PM |
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
Posted by stephanief
Posted by lipglossjunky73
How many of you actually had a plan and accomplished it - and how many of you are like me - had plans early on in life and realized you were never going to meet them, so just let everything happen regardless of plans?
This is me, I always thought that I would be married by 25, have kids soon after
Well....I was dating an azzhole at 25 and am SO glad that I did not marry him....it's bad enough I wasted 5 years of my life with him....
you cannot plan life.....I try to go with the flow now
Me too - I didn't date an a s s hole, but I was with a very unambitious guy for 6 and a half years. I think thats when I realized no matter what my plans were, he wasn't going to go along with them anyway. I never planned on leaving him, but I had to. After that, my life was so uprooted that I had to start from scratch. And things happened in such unusual and surprising ways, I realized it was a joke thinking I had any part in any of this...
I met DH by accident, the relationship took off at breakneck speed, and getting pregnant was completely unplanned as well.... So, I am thru planning! Not to say i don';t strive for things to happen - I am very ambitious in my career and had to make things happen in that department, but I also firmly believe in God helping those who help themselves
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dpli
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
When I was graduating college, I thought I had a general plan of what my life would be like. Now, 18 years later, the path I have taken looks very little like what I thought I would do.
Life throws you curveballs, good and bad and for me, it has been great to figure it out as I go along. 
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:14 PM |
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jxnoscar
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
Posted by lipglossjunky73
"Man plans and God laughs."
I could not agree more with this. I had no plan. No idea when, if, who I was marrying. I use to have a friend in high school who HAD to be married by 24. There went that
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:16 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I had a plan, but I should call it more a "dream life."  I would never have married an inappropriate person just to get married at the age I envisioned, however it turned out that it was the perfect age for me and DH. To be honest, he isn't the type of man I envisioned myself with, yet we are perfect together (polar opposites in many ways though!).
I think my plan has pushed me to succeed in many areas though. I have an age of when I hope to have kids, but that is somewhat out of my hands if we have trouble TTC, but I always wanted to finish my doctorate by 30 while working full time, and I will graduate before 30 and will be the youngest to ever graduate from my program. So in the job world or academic world, having plans and aspirations can make you push harder for these things, and accomplish them by a certain date.
I am also kind of controlling...I knew where I wanted to go to college when I was 6, and I never wavered from that decision. I KNEW I was going there, and there was no doubt in my mind.
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TreAnt427
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Tracy
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I never had an actual plan that I WOULD be married by a certain age. I just had an idea in my head around what ages I wanted to do things and it just happened to work out that way.
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:17 PM |
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steph4777
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I wouldn't say I had a plan.... I always hoped would start having kids before I was 30. It ended up happening that way.... I had my 2nd baby 2 weeks shy of my 30th.
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rojerono
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I was soooo depressed when I turned 29 because I had all of these "I will do by 30" things on my list. And suddenly - 30 was looming large and I hadn't accomplished half of what I wanted to do.
So I stopped caring. And that's when life got REALLY good.
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:37 PM |
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Tracey
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
When I was younger I had dreams/plans that I would be married by 25 and blah, blah blah!
God had another plan - and now - the only thing I will plan is what I am eating for dinner.
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| Posted 6/29/07 2:46 PM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
my plan was to get engaged during college and get married the summer after college at 22.
Instead, we got engaged AFTER college and we will be engaged for two years when we get married so I will be 25.
i always knew it would be him though - since I was 15
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megsm3
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M
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
not necessarily a plan but dh and I were together almost six years when we got married and we knew we wanted kids soon after getting married, because we want a couple of kids and we want to be youngish parents
We also waited for me to get tenure - which goes into effect in september, plus I wanted my masters to be close to done and I will finish it this summer!!
So we had more of a path that we wanted to follow but we would have been okay for verging off it a little, which is why we are having a baby without having the house first
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| Posted 6/29/07 3:15 PM |
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GenLCSW
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
my "plan" just happened to have worked out
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| Posted 6/29/07 3:44 PM |
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CaMacho
Sisters :)
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Jess
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I never had a plan. DH and I started dating at 19... and there was definitely no talk of marriage till about 23/24. We got engaged soon after and married at 26.
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| Posted 6/29/07 3:49 PM |
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KGools
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I knew I would be marrying my FH, I just didn't know when and "when" didn't really concern me just as long as I knew I was going to be with him.
I will be 26 on our wedding day.
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| Posted 6/29/07 3:56 PM |
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
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Tania
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
nothing that has happened to me has ever been planned.
I surely had other plans.
My life is a mess right now, because it's not where I want to be at.
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| Posted 6/29/07 3:58 PM |
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MichelleR
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
I had a plan to be married by 25, and at least one kid by 30.
I was engaged at 25, but we broke it off (thank god!!).
Ended up married at 28, and will have first child at 32. So I've pretty much given up trying to plan things beyond my control.
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| Posted 6/29/07 4:10 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: OK - spinoff to the age and married....
DH and I met when we were 16, got engaged at 24 and married at 25 (I'm 26 now.) By the time I was in my early 20s, we both talked about wanting to marry each other but we never set a specific timeline for it.
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