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Bxgell2
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Please, someone explain something to me about men
Ok, for the gazillionth time in the last 18 months, DH and I are sick, from our daughter. She had a cough and the sniffles, now we do.
Same cold. Same sniffles. Same sore throat.
And yet, DH is totally and completely out of commission. Moping around, napped half the day, told me there's NO way he's going to work tomorrow, yadda yadda yadda, the whole nine yards.
Meanwhile, I have the same cold, and I took care of Alex, tended to some work issues from home, would have worked today but for my complaining husband who said he couldn't handle the sick baby on his own, and plan on going to work tomorrow.
Yeah, yeah a cold s!cks, and I feel under the weather, but IT'S A COLD. Life goes on!
So, here's the question:
Is the difference here, and with most men with regard to this specific issue, that they have no tolerance for discomfort? That they complain more than women? Or, do you think there is really a difference in how women and men's bodies handle things. I mean, could it be that women just have a better immune system, so they don't feel the symptoms quite as bad and tend to recover more quickly?
I'm trying to give hubby the benefit of the doubt here, especially considering he'll stretch this one out a good 3-4 days, which means 24/7 baby duty for me for the next 3-4 days.
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jodi714
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Men are babies!!!!!!!!!! That's the difference.
DH is sick now with the same COLD I had. he actually woke me up last night to tell me his throat hurt What the hell do you want me to do? 
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| Posted 4/17/07 9:07 PM |
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Snozberry
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Speaking from my experience, mine is just a baby. He knows that whatever he doesn't do, I will do - sick or not.
When he's home sick, it looks like a bomb went off in our place. I'm home sick - I end up cleaning.
He's a Big. Old. Baby. 
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| Posted 4/17/07 9:09 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Men always want to be babied...I blame the mothers
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| Posted 4/17/07 9:09 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Posted by Moehick
Men always want to be babied...I blame the mothers
You have SUCH a good point! Last time we were in Israel I was really sick. No one cared, no one noticed (I have to add here, I really DO like my MIL) - I mean, really knocked out. Dh got the sniffles (of course, he always does), starts complaining like always does. MIL turns to me, probably every hour, "Ohhhhh he is SO sick! He has to rest, let's take Alex for a walk so he can rest"
I think I have my answer - thank you! 
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| Posted 4/17/07 9:12 PM |
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KrisT
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
I think it's just a man thing!  I came down with a nasty sinus infection the day before we left for our honeymoon and felt like crap for the first day or 2. DH had no patience for my sickness and just acted like I wasn't sick, e.g. expecting me to get up at 8:00 AM to go on a boat tour to see puffins; giving me dirty looks when I ordered a hot tea instead of a beer!
I felt better after a day or 2 and then all of sudden DH gets BARELY A SNIFFLE! You would have thought he had pneumonia. Now, we have to trek all around Reyjikvak looking for a pharmacy because he is just soooooo sick. And of course, he now needs to rest and sleep so no more early morning trips! He seriously sneezed like 3 times in 1 day but required an arsenal of medications and tissues
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| Posted 4/17/07 9:13 PM |
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tsullivan
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
It's definitely a man thing. I know it sounds stereotypical, and I'd love to give DH the benefit of the doubt, but I just can't. He is just pathetic when he's sick. We were both sick earlier this winter, he caught it first, then gave it to me. I actually heard him say to his mother about me "Yeah, she is sick, too, but you know...not "sick" sick, like I am."
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| Posted 4/17/07 9:28 PM |
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stephaniea
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Thats why woman have babies and men don't. Couldn't handle it.
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| Posted 4/17/07 9:42 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
I dunno, women tend to live longer which leads me to believe that our bodies may have stronger immunities. Maybe that has something to do with it.
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| Posted 4/17/07 9:42 PM |
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anonttcer
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
One time my husband had a stomach virus. It was a pretty bad one- I know because I caught it a week later.
Anyway, while I was laying on the bathroom floor trying to decide which end I would need to put on the toilet next, he said to me- well you don't have it as bad as I did.
I was like HUH? How do you know that?
He said- well I had a fever and you don't. Okkkkkkk.
So I guess by the time I caught it from him the virus had miraculously mutated into a weaker form.
Bottom line- when a man is sick, he is sicker than anyone anywhere has ever been- hands down. Childbirth is NOTHING compared to that sore throat he had 3 years ago! Don't you know that by now? 
Message edited 4/17/2007 10:07:33 PM.
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| Posted 4/17/07 10:07 PM |
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heidla
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Women are just tougher. I mean if men had to give birth we would be extinct.
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| Posted 4/17/07 10:09 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Its actually the opposite in our house. DH is the trooper and I am not. I hate being sick and am totally a stay in bed all day want to do nothing kind of person. I don't know why I'm that way. Maybe just because it's the only real excuse to get a break?
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| Posted 4/17/07 11:26 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
It's definitely not a biological thing. Very little "disables" me. I try and do more when I'm sick so I don't get as stuffy in the sinuses. When I had an appendectomy, I was doing activities weeks before the Dr. said I should. With my recent arm surgery, I was doing things before I should have. I took almost no pain meds (just at bedtime so I could sleep) because I didn't want to be a complete zombie all day. Years ago, my dog accidentally bit my finger open (FYI, if a dog is barking aggressively at the neighbor's dog on the other side of the fence, don't try to wrap your arm around their neck to pull them away!   ), and DW didn't know about it for a few hours. I have an extremely high pain tolerance. At physical therapy, my body actually shakes because I'm in so much pain, but I never make more noise than grunts, and I encourage the therapist to go further.....
I agree with the coddling by the mothers reason. I was never coddled by my mom. I was usually the "man" of the house growing up, so I didn't have that "luxury". Also, a lot of DWs enable their husbands (before I get flamed, not ALL DWs, just some of them). They allow their DHs to abuse their sickness, and let them lie in bed all day. I still blame the mothers for initiating the trend, though.
(For all moms with DSs, keep this in mind, and try not to make things too much harder for your future DIL.... she will definitely appreciate it!  )
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| Posted 4/18/07 7:49 AM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
I honestly believe that men are really just babies. I think women are the much stronger of the species. Imagine men had to have babies? We'd be a dying race.
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| Posted 4/18/07 7:51 AM |
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Jax430
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
DH actually is not bad at all. He always minimizes when he's not feeling well and will rarely stay home from work.
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| Posted 4/18/07 7:52 AM |
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
There is no question that most woman have a higher tolerance for discomfort. when i am sick i usually ignore it and go about my day. when i bruise myself or cut myself i never notice(not a good thing). when FH has common cold, he WHINES and complains, it drives me NUTS! he says he hates being annoyed by it. Pleeeeeease!
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LisaW
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
My dh is the same way
We both are not feeling well with the same thing
I came home from work and cooked dinner for me, and then something totally different for him (he wanted pasta and I can't eat it), cleaned up, emptied and reloaded and ran off the dishwasher, made coffee, served him cofee , all the while he was laying on the couch whining he didn't feel well...
then he picked a fight with me b/c he was cranky and stomped off into the guestroom 
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| Posted 4/18/07 7:56 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Well we must be married to the same man, because mine crawls up on the couch and wimpers, I get sick, have AF and still manage to do all my "duties" while he dies quietly on the couch, never once asking how I feel. Men=Baby. this will never change, And Im "mean" to him when he is sick, dont you know.
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| Posted 4/18/07 7:57 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Posted by JennZ
Well we must be married to the same man, because mine crawls up on the couch and wimpers, I get sick, have AF and still manage to do all my "duties" while he dies quietly on the couch, never once asking how I feel. Men=Baby. this will never change, And Im "mean" to him when he is sick, dont you know.
I get the same thing! We've actually gotten into fights about it because he thinks I'm not as caring as I should be when he's sick, and that in HIS family, they take care of each other 
Ok, well, thank you ladies, at least I'm not alone in this... I'm leaning against the biological explanation, and more towards the early coddling theory. But, all in all, he really IS a great hubby, and takes amazing care of me 360 days of the year , so I'll put up with it (FOR NOW! )
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| Posted 4/18/07 8:05 AM |
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IrishMom77
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
men are babies!! lol I have gone through 3 MAJOR surgeries to have my right ankle rebuilt. I have had long roads of rehab, etc and I would do things I knew I shouldnt do just because I needed them done. When DH Is sick he lies there like he is dying. lol
Its pretty funny sometimes. I guess that is why we have the children and men dont!
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| Posted 4/18/07 8:55 AM |
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antoinette
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Posted by KrisT
I think it's just a man thing! I came down with a nasty sinus infection the day before we left for our honeymoon and felt like crap for the first day or 2. DH had no patience for my sickness and just acted like I wasn't sick, e.g. expecting me to get up at 8:00 AM to go on a boat tour to see puffins; giving me dirty looks when I ordered a hot tea instead of a beer!
I felt better after a day or 2 and then all of sudden DH gets BARELY A SNIFFLE! You would have thought he had pneumonia. Now, we have to trek all around Reyjikvak looking for a pharmacy because he is just soooooo sick. And of course, he now needs to rest and sleep so no more early morning trips! He seriously sneezed like 3 times in 1 day but required an arsenal of medications and tissues
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| Posted 4/18/07 8:57 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
Posted by sjm71505
Men are babies!!!!!!!!!! That's the difference.
DH is sick now with the same COLD I had. he actually woke me up last night to tell me his throat hurt What the hell do you want me to do?
I agree. My DH rarely gets sick and never takes a day off work. But when he is sick, he can't do anything (but work). I think its just men.
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| Posted 4/18/07 9:43 AM |
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LInative
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Re: Please, someone explain something to me about men
They are just babies. They know they can sit out and we will take over and take care of business, because it's what we do. They are used to us taking care of things w/the kids/housework. At least in my case this is true. I SO know where you're coming from!!
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