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Eireann
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
We did not find out with DD and are not finding out this time and most people think we're NUTS!
How did people ever survive back in the day before sonograms?!?!?!? 
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Secret4Now
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by KateDevine
We did find out, but I think people always have something to say. When people ask if we know and we say yes we get a lot of "Oh, you KNOW already? Don't you want to be surprised?" and "I can't believe you didn't want to be surprised!"
We will be finding out. No one knows we are PG yet but we have already heard some slack in our discussions about when the time comes. So, if you find out, people have comments, too!!!!!
I don't see where it is such a surprise anyway. It is either a boy or a girl. Where's the big shocker? I say that I am finding out because the technology is there and I can find out!!
I have friends who enjoy waiting to the end to find out. I GAVE THEM NO SLACK WHEN THEY HAD THEIR KIDS!!!! If they want me not to tell them I will wait. Also, no one but DH and I will know what names we have picked.
If we were planning not to find out the sex, we would go with a lot of gender neutral stuff. There is some really cute bedding and I love Winnie the Pooh anyway (most Pooh stuff looks unisex to me). I would not want to be returning stuff or rushing around when the baby gets here. If it were so important to me to dress the baby in gender specific clothing, then I would really want to know ahead of time. As it turns out, I do want to know, but the clothing is not the main reason. Dh and I both agree that we want to know and maybe we should not worry about being able to give people a reason.
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by Eireann
We did not find out with DD and are not finding out this time and most people think we're NUTS!
How did people ever survive back in the day before sonograms?!?!?!?
Not only did my grandma not know what she was having - she didnt even know she was carrying twins until she gave birth to them! 
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my3bugs
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Didn't find out with my son and not finding out with this one either. I liked being surprised the first time and it truly was a surprise. I mean to us there was nothing like hearing its a boy after the whole long delivery process. I also liked letting everyone guess and hearing their reasons and all that stuff - I personally don't have any reason to know so why find out early. For the most part, the response to me not finding out has been positive.
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karacg
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
When people ask, "Do you know what you're having?" I say "Yes -- a baby. Most likely human although you never know...."
And then (they don't get the humor) they say "Oh no, I mean are you having a boy or a girl?" I say, "Well, we have a 50/50 chance of one or the other so we'll take either"
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
We do not know the sex, and I have to say, we have not gotten any flack about it. In fact, so many people have commented on how they think its so nice to be surprised.
I can't wait to find out... only a few more weeks!
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Secret4Now
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by karacg
When people ask, "Do you know what you're having?" I say "Yes -- a baby. Most likely human although you never know...."
And then (they don't get the humor) they say "Oh no, I mean are you having a boy or a girl?" I say, "Well, we have a 50/50 chance of one or the other so we'll take either"
People don't get the humor??????? If someone said that to me, I would probably join right in and say, "yah, you never know, my friend ended up with a dalmation puppy after 18 hours in labor" Just to be funny, and I would not pry any further.
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Tine73
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
We're not! Green and yellow here we come!
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Porrruss
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
We found out and I am SO glad we did. I was totally getting a  vibe and would have bet $$ that we were having a son. EVERYONE has been swearing I am carrying a boy as well. Two sonos later and it is confirmed- DEFINITELY a 
Not that I would have been disappointed- but it would have been a shocker for me in the delivery room when they announce it's a girl.....
My brother and SIL are also having a baby- they are not finding out. I've never given them slack as I feel it's totally a personal choice- although, they have definitely given me and DH hard time.....
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
We aren't finding out and I'm so excited that we aren't. A few folks have been like, "how can you wait?!" but that's not really annoying IMO.
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Arodisi
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by InShock
It also annoys some people when you DO find out ... people need to learn just to keep their opinions to themselves (and also get that everyone is entitled to do what they want and neither is "wrong"!).
I agree with you. DH & I plan on finding out and we get such a negative response from so many people...especially those that are "older". I am so sick of hearing people tell me that I am ruining the surprise. The anticipation is always there - we are just choosing to find out at 5 months rather than at 9.
I think no matter what decision you make, there will always be someone ready to make a negative comment!
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JenBenMen
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
DH and I want to be suprised and I am 33 weeks and people still "want to know"...well, too bad...they will find out soon enough--do what is best for you
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johnsae
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
I can say I respect the decision not to find out the sex, but I don't understand it personally. I feel so much more connected to my baby now that she has a name and I know that she is a girl. It was an awesome experience when DH and I found out what we are having...there are going to be enough surprises with this child, so the fact that I could find out her sex was so satisfying to me. Do what makes you happy - I'm sure there are people that don't understand why I would want to find out the sex...everyone is different.
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DandN
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
We never wanted to find out the sex. I love calling the baby by our silling little 'in utero' nickname. I love changing my mind day by day as to what we're having. And I just love the idea of DH going out to see our friends and family and telling them "it's a girl!" or "it's a boy!"
We dont have a definite name picked out either - we have a few names that we like and we'll decide when the baby comes.
I can understand why some people would want to know the sex in terms of organization - they can plan the nursery, choose a color scheme or theme, etc. . . but it's just not me. . . and I've never been a 'pink is for girls' and 'blue is for boys' type person. I've always preferred greens and yellows and oranges - so it's been easy for us not to know.
And I love how our families have all of their 'foolproof methods' for determining the sex of the baby - are you drinking oj? then it's a girl! wait - she's all belly - she must be having a boy! it's fun.
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SuzyQ
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by Niecey
Didn't find out with my son and not finding out with this one either. I liked being surprised the first time and it truly was a surprise. I mean to us there was nothing like hearing its a boy after the whole long delivery process. I also liked letting everyone guess and hearing their reasons and all that stuff - I personally don't have any reason to know so why find out early. For the most part, the response to me not finding out has been positive.
I completely agree. It seriously was the best thing I ever experienced to hear them say "It's a Girl!" especially since we were so sure it was a boy. As far as buying stuff and getting ready, it really didn't make much difference. I just waited and bought girly bedding after she was born (she wasn't in the crib for quite awhile anyway) (some of the neutral bedding is so cute anyway) and we got so many clothes for gifts so she was in yellow and green for a short time (and I think she looks great in yellow so I still buy it!) And I can't imagine feeling more connected than I was as she was growing inside when I was pg. No, I couldn't call her by her name, but I loved calling her "Baby." I couldn't have loved her any more if I knew she was a girl. I know that when our friends & family had babies it was so much more exciting to hear about the birth when we didn't know the sex, so that helped me decide to wait. I will do it again when we have #2. But you should do what feels right for you. Some people need to know so that they can plan, etc. That just wasn't me.
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christy
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
I have no problem when others find out. Infact I love to hear what my friends are having. It just isn't what I pictured for myself. I do feel bad because Dh really wants to know. But, he thinks it will make planning easier. I planned on going neutral anyway because I hope to have more than one child. In the end, if I don't want to know I am sure he will go along with it. My main debate is "do I let him find out"...it would probably kill me if he knew and I didn't.
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SuzyQ
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by christy
I have no problem when others find out. Infact I love to hear what my friends are having. It just isn't what I pictured for myself. I do feel bad because Dh really wants to know. But, he thinks it will make planning easier. I planned on going neutral anyway because I hope to have more than one child. In the end, if I don't want to know I am sure he will go along with it. My main debate is "do I let him find out"...it would probably kill me if he knew and I didn't.
There is NO WAY I could let DH find out but I didn't know. I'm sure he'd slip eventually anyway.
Good luck with your decision.
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saraH
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
i am torn. i am only at about 5 weeks, but part of me wants to know already. i know that they can;t tell now. but i think once it gets closer i may find out. dh does not want to know at all.
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by christy
I don't want to find out the sex of the baby. Dh totally wants to know. His family thinks we should find out too. Why does it annoy people when you want to be surprised?
I don't want to know until s/he pops out. It's just a magical moment TO ME. DH, initially, totally wanted to know. He has grown to accept my terms and especially after we swore the names to secrecy, he understood what all the suspense is really about for me. While yes, it would make planning a tad bit easier [buy a whole wardrobe in advance, maybe that cute butterfly bedding I fell in love with...], I just know how wonderful that moment is and I want him to experience it as well. [this is my second, our first]
He suddenly realized when he saw how I wanted the names kept between us, that HE gets to be the bearer of all this fantastic news:
the sex
the weight/length
the time/date
the name
the hair/eyes...
Once he realized all the wonderful details HE was going to be able to bestow upon our friends and family, he warmed up to the idea. Now he's excited that it's all up to him to share and suddenly the suspense, waiting and surprise is worth it.
I've been lucky, most people have been supportive of my decision...but a few people have made comments about it. I simply don't care...it's my body and baby. Besides, my luck they'd be wrong and my son would have lots of pink dresses to wear!
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by Niecey
Didn't find out with my son and not finding out with this one either. I liked being surprised the first time and it truly was a surprise. I mean to us there was nothing like hearing its a boy after the whole long delivery process. I also liked letting everyone guess and hearing their reasons and all that stuff - I personally don't have any reason to know so why find out early. For the most part, the response to me not finding out has been positive.
This is why we're not finding out.
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beena
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
we are waiting - only 5 more weeks until we find out though!! 
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Mrs-Boop
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by beena
we are waiting - only 5 more weeks until we find out though!!
OMG Gina you are so close!!!!
I have absolutely no will power, neither does DH. We decided a way long time ago we would find out. We can not handle the waiting.
I give all you gals that can wait a big hand..you have amazing will power!!!
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
We're not finding out! Our Level II is tomorrow though, I am nervous they may slip. I am just going to forewarn them a million times that we dont want to know!!!
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MsMBV
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
Posted by karacg
When people ask, "Do you know what you're having?" I say "Yes -- a baby. Most likely human although you never know...."
And then (they don't get the humor) they say "Oh no, I mean are you having a boy or a girl?" I say, "Well, we have a 50/50 chance of one or the other so we'll take either"
I so have to steal this line from you!
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vegalady
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Re: Who is not finding out the sex?
I'm not finding out the sex either. And i can care less what people think. Its my baby.
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