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2girls4now
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Kerri
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Sex- its not the same anymore
With all the talk about breastfeeding( the part about breasts being sex objects), not having energy, interest and just not feeling great about yourselves- has it affected your sex life??
Ours is crap- does it come back? I'm so scared it wont and worry about what it'll do to our marriage..
Am i alone?
Message edited 2/20/2007 2:44:56 PM.
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leighla
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
I've been on restriction since 14 weeks.
I miss it and I know DH does too, but we know it's what's best for the baby, so we are not letting it affect things.
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Smileyd17
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
No, not alone!
Even when I read the title Im thinking....SEX- Not having it anymore! 
Sorry....just in the same boat. I feel really unattractive, have issues with things down there and tired and achy its become non-existent.
Dh is understanding of it and I swear I do think about it and feel bad for him.
He knows I do.
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| Posted 2/20/07 2:43 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
Posted by leighla
I've been on restriction since 14 weeks.
I miss it and I know DH does too, but we know it's what's best for the baby, so we are not letting it affect things.
Ditto. Actually we have been on since almost the very beginning. We cannot wait to be able to have sex again
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vegalady
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
It is definitely not the same. DH thinks he will hurt the baby. But i will make sure it turns back to normal after the baby. 
DH is understanding about it though.
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Phoebee
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
On a more positive note...
in the beginning, I just felt sick and hot and didn't want to be touched.
Now, I'm in the 2nd trimester and everything is even better than before We have sex almost every day
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johnsae
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
omg I have NO sex drive. I don't want to be touched. it's awful.
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monkadoo
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
I am closed for business and have been since I got my BFP. I just have no desire. I hope it comes back soon!
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
Ummm... sex??? Whats that? 
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karacg
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
I restrained during the first trimester because I had some spotting ONCE.
Now....it is better than ever. I find my Os are much more intense... so hang in there!! And when you feel up to it, just open yourself totally to the experience.
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jmf423
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
Posted by Smileyd17
No, not alone!
Even when I read the title Im thinking....SEX- Not having it anymore!
Sorry....just in the same boat. I feel really unattractive, have issues with things down there and tired and achy its become non-existent.
Dh is understanding of it and I swear I do think about it and feel bad for him.
He knows I do.
I could have written this....I feel bad for DH - he has been so understanding.
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jerseypanda
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
Um, hello morning sickness!
It really puts a damper on being in the mood when you have constant nausea!
DH is such a trooper. Poor guy is watching my sore boobs get bigger before his eyes and can't touch them!!!!
For now we just wait for the odd moment when we are in the house at the same time and I don't feel like I have to throw up!!! Few and far in between!!!
Hang in there!
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| Posted 2/20/07 4:40 PM |
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2girls4now
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
Thanks everyone..Your respnses help me feel normal
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raken40
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
Posted by jmf423
Posted by Smileyd17
No, not alone!
Even when I read the title Im thinking....SEX- Not having it anymore!
Sorry....just in the same boat. I feel really unattractive, have issues with things down there and tired and achy its become non-existent.
Dh is understanding of it and I swear I do think about it and feel bad for him.
He knows I do.
I could have written this....I feel bad for DH - he has been so understanding.
i could've written this too!
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bayla
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
LOL so far i think something is wrong with my DH b/c he still wants to do it (as long as i feel up to it) and i am almost 23 weeks. It's harder for me though b/c i still have nausua/MS plus i also feel big and awkward and yes feel uncomfortable down there, but apparently he couldnt care less We def dont do it as much, but if i am having an OK day, i suck it up b/c he's so good to me, even if its not s e x per say, but "acts' LOL. the wierd thing is i am really horny in the 2nd trimester, but most of the time its like at 400 AM when he's fast asleep i am sure as i get bigger it will start to really slow down but so far he doesnt have any issues, such as he's not afraid to hurt the baby or anything
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DanaRenee
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
NO your not alone...we havent had sex since january 20th or so. I've been on restriction. I'm tempted to but I am to scared. I hope next time I go to the Dr. at 9 weeks that he will allow it again. I feel bad for DH 
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I think my DH would be willing, but I'm so uncomfortable and just not in the mood at all. He's been so good about it, which makes me feel worse. I worry a little that I'm never going to want it again.
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
Posted by bayla
LOL so far i think something is wrong with my DH b/c he still wants to do it (as long as i feel up to it) and i am almost 23 weeks. the wierd thing is i am really horny in the 2nd trimester, but most of the time its like at 400 AM when he's fast asleep i am sure as i get bigger it will start to really slow down but so far he doesnt have any issues, such as he's not afraid to hurt the baby or anything
Same here, Dh has made it quite clear to wake him up whatever time it is
But with DD i was totally different, i wasn't in the mood at all, i was too consumed with worry in the beginning, then i was on pelvic rest from 26 weeks and then when i did get the okay at 36.5 weeks, DH didn't want to touch me cause he was afraid of giving baby brain damage, and feeling the baby move was def a mood killer for him.
When i was bf'ing, it was all me, i had no sex drive and was very dry down there, dh was worried about getting shot in eye with milk. I didn't feel very sexy with a baby hanging from my boob half the day.
But it wears away, believe me, you ahve to work at it a bit when the baby is here, but you will get your groove back. You get into a routine, you become confident as a mom and you take advantage of every moment you can steal with your hubby.
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Karebaby
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
The first trimester, I never felt like doing it, but the second trimester is a whole other story.
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alexlynn7
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Re: Sex- its not the same anymore
i really, really want to... definitely haven't lost the drive... but i'm SCARED!!!!!!!!!!!!! we've pretty much decided to wait to have actual intercourse until 1st tri is over...
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