My DH is really on my last nerve!!!

You know what he did last night??? He drove all the way to my job with Connor without being strapped in AT ALL!!! I was so furious! He said I thought he was???

He watches Connor on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and since he had to work at his P/T job last night he had my car which has the carseat and he had to switch cars with me. So because he was rushing around trying to get ready for work probably because he was busy playing that STUPID XBOX 360 he risked his son's life. THANK GOD nothing happened but to me I think of the "what if"!!! I just can't believe he can be so clueless? Then I noticed he didn't have a jacket, hat, blanket on him or his binky. He said it was warm. Ok, it was 70 degrees yesterday, but I get out of work right when it gets dark so the temp drops so quickly. Plus, poor Connor has a horrible cough as it is. I also asked why he had the heat blaring if it wasn't cold? He said well I knew you would of gotten mad because he had no coat! Doesn't that say something right there? I GIVE UP!!! I can't even count on him to take care of him! Now I know people make mistakes, that's fine, but when it involves your son's life and it's because you were running late for work because of XBOX there is no excuse!

MEN!!!

Message edited 12/15/2006 8:49:40 AM.

Re: My DH is really on my last nerve!!!

Re: My DH is really on my last nerve!!!

You should sell his Xbox on ebay for some extra cash My DH would have gotten a ear full from me that is for sure

Re: My DH is really on my last nerve!!!

sorry your going through all this..

Above poster is right..SELL that XBOX!!!!

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Re: My DH is really on my last nerve!!!

Melissa You need to start laying down the law with this guy. The last thing he needs to be doing right now is screwing with your financial security by being late for work because of freaking XBOX. I know I'm going to sound super harsh here, but he needs to definitely grow up. He's not being responsible about the care of his son and now he's falling into bad patterns again with the job situation at a time where every dime counts. I'd tell him that the XBOX is GOING, NOW!! You're worried about paying the 2nd mortgage and he has expensive toys?!? Time to liquidate!

Re: My DH is really on my last nerve!!!

you seem like you have alot of stress lately. Honestly...I think with everything that Ive heard from you...you should tell him ESPECIALLY since its Christmas season to get a FT job on the early AM shift. Its got to be easy when they are looking for help for the holidays. A nice responsible routine might get his butt in gear. Ive mentioned home depot...what about kohls night shift like 11-7? That way you are home during the night and you can work in the AM.

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Posted by Ambersmom

Melissa You need to start laying down the law with this guy. The last thing he needs to be doing right now is screwing with your financial security by being late for work because of freaking XBOX. I know I'm going to sound super harsh here, but he needs to definitely grow up. He's not being responsible about the care of his son and now he's falling into bad patterns again with the job situation at a time where every dime counts. I'd tell him that the XBOX is GOING, NOW!! You're worried about paying the 2nd mortgage and he has expensive toys?!? Time to liquidate!

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I have forgotten twice - once the very first time I drove with Liam myself - I think I was so nervous I just forgot - he was 15 days old too so that really upset me. The 2nd time was about 3 weeks ago, I had put his bib on over the straps when I strapped him in earlier and then undid them when we were in the store to unbutton his jacket. So I forgot to redo them. So not good! I am very sure to remember now all the time. I haven't told DH any of this and don't plan on it b/c i know he'll hold it over me if I ever get on his case about safety.

But I'm not an Xbox fan - I have to say that I'm sure there are xbox players that are not addicted but anyone I know that has it, that's all they seem to do. I'm so happy DH doesn't have one nor seems to want one. I would definitely be upset too with him and tell him he needs to turn off the xbox 1/2 before he knows he needs to leave so he can prepare everything and get what he needs before he leaves. I have to start getting everything together 1/2 hour before I leave or I always end up forgetting something!

Message edited 12/15/2006 10:03:16 AM.

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Posted by CaidensMommy

Posted by Ambersmom

Melissa You need to start laying down the law with this guy. The last thing he needs to be doing right now is screwing with your financial security by being late for work because of freaking XBOX. I know I'm going to sound super harsh here, but he needs to definitely grow up. He's not being responsible about the care of his son and now he's falling into bad patterns again with the job situation at a time where every dime counts. I'd tell him that the XBOX is GOING, NOW!! You're worried about paying the 2nd mortgage and he has expensive toys?!? Time to liquidate!

You're not sounding harsh! This is exactly how I feel. I don't know what to do? I've been soooo tempted to get rid of the Xbox. I just know it would P@SS him off royally. I honestly don't care if he gets mad, but I know he will be beyond mad at me. I'm mean REALLY mad! I don't need want us to fight anymore. I think depression is starting to set in!

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first I want to say I have been following your story and I feel for you- I think you are a very strong person and I hope 2007 is a better year for you



second- sell that xbox on ebay PLEASE- people get so sucked into that stuff and nothing good can come of it

if you need help on selling stuff on ebay- FM me- it actually got me thru a bad time this summer- it made me feel like I was in control of my own life after I lost my job

and like I said- I 2007 is a great year for you

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I have been following your story from your last several posts, and I just want to say Hang in there! It seems you are just having a lot of bad luck lately and you work so hard for your family.

Regarding your DH, while it was irresponsible of him, sometimes I truly think men do not think in the same way we women do. Thus why I think we make better MOMMIES ( I think most of us are just better nurturers)...of course this is a generalization. But speaking from my own DH, who is a great father and husband, he too has been guilty of forgetting to strap my DD in, or leaving a blanket or jacket at home. My DH is great at other things I may not be -- like making my daughter laugh after a bath by tickling her, or teaching her goofy faces and buying her fun toys...you know what I mean. Whereas I am the nurturer and the one who remembers that she NEEDS a bath.

Soooo don't go too harsh on your DH, because we all make mistakes, but he does need to become more responsible.

What you need to do is have an intelligent adult conversation with him explaining why you were upset and that you need him to try harder, because you are doing alot for your family but that you need his support and his share of responsibility to make it work. You have 2 children now. Everyone needs an outlet (even XBOX - so maybe you shouldnt throw it away, but try to have him limit his playing - he could also be in a depression because of his job loss). So, I would advise you to save the yelling for another time as much as you'd like to, because you know that yelling begets more anger and doesnt really solve any problems. If he understands why you are upset, maybe he will make better decisions.

I hope 2007 is a better year for you.

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Re: My DH is really on my last nerve!!!

Re: My DH is really on my last nerve!!!

Posted by My2Boys

Posted by CaidensMommy

Posted by Ambersmom

Melissa You need to start laying down the law with this guy. The last thing he needs to be doing right now is screwing with your financial security by being late for work because of freaking XBOX. I know I'm going to sound super harsh here, but he needs to definitely grow up. He's not being responsible about the care of his son and now he's falling into bad patterns again with the job situation at a time where every dime counts. I'd tell him that the XBOX is GOING, NOW!! You're worried about paying the 2nd mortgage and he has expensive toys?!? Time to liquidate!

You're not sounding harsh! This is exactly how I feel. I don't know what to do? I've been soooo tempted to get rid of the Xbox. I just know it would P@SS him off royally. I honestly don't care if he gets mad, but I know he will be beyond mad at me. I'm mean REALLY mad! I don't need want us to fight anymore. I think depression is starting to set in!

I couldn't agree more with Sharon, Melissa. Seriously, your husband needs a swift kick in the azz.