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Bridex100
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
I have a very good friend who is expecting a daughter in July. Her first child is a son.
We both moved to the DC area 3 years ago and we have a solid set of mutual friends. We are all new friends and did not attend her first baby shower she had in CA since we did not know one another.
I mentioned a shower/sprinkle and she said she did not want one. I think she is in the each mom should only have one shower boat. At the same time, we are all new friends and I want to do something nice for her. She comes from an affluent family and doesn't actually need gifts. It is more a friendly gesture.
I could easily get her DH on board.
Good idea or bad idea?
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
I would say if she doesn't want one, then don't plan one. Do something else, maybe a nice mommy basket with relaxing things like candles, lotion, etc.? Or a prenatal massage.
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| Posted 5/13/14 10:07 PM |
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MrsO
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
No. I think its a nice gesture. I would keep it to your close group of friends if they are all on board.
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| Posted 5/13/14 10:12 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
Posted by Eunified
I would say if she doesn't want one, then don't plan one. Do something else, maybe a nice mommy basket with relaxing things like candles, lotion, etc.? Or a prenatal massage.
I think she would like one but she does everything by the etiquette book.
I have 2 boys and I didn't have a sprinkle. If I ever had a girl, it would be nice to have a sprinkle but I know I would refuse because of the negative stigma around sprinkles or second showers.
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| Posted 5/13/14 10:15 PM |
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Mrs213
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
I would just get together with the friends and do something very small, but don't make it a surprise. Just lunch with the girls or something and you can each get her your little gifts...
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ISpoilHim
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
My baby shower was planned but I did not really want 1. I only agreed to it for my mom. Same with my wedding shower. If someone threw me a surprise sprinkle that I did not know anything about I would be very upset. My son is 2 1/2 years old and I still regret letting my mom talk me into it.
It may not just be an etiquette thing. She may not be into the shower/sprinkle thing. Not everyone is.
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| Posted 5/13/14 10:44 PM |
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sunnyflies
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
Personally, I would hate a surprise anything.
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| Posted 5/13/14 11:43 PM |
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Anxious3
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
She said she didn't want one. I wouldn't give her one. Maybe a nice brunch with just the group of friends but no presents. And I would let her know it was being planned.
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BBD322x0
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
I think it's a nice gesture - it doesn't have to officially be a 'sprinkle' just a small get together. I'm sure she'll love it and appreciate it.
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| Posted 5/14/14 7:38 AM |
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
Posted by MrsO
No. I think its a nice gesture. I would keep it to your close group of friends if they are all on board.
I agree with this. I had a small total surprise sprinkle with my closest friends and family members (only about 10-12 people total). It was lunch at a nice local place and we had a great time.
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| Posted 5/14/14 8:03 AM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
im sure if its just your group of friends and it isnt a huge production, she will be so grateful. You're all NEW friends in a new city, finding that an an older age is NOT easy. finding that and friends that want to throw you a sprinkle? one lucky woman!
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NervousNell
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
Posted by ISpoilHim
My baby shower was planned but I did not really want 1. I only agreed to it for my mom. Same with my wedding shower. If someone threw me a surprise sprinkle that I did not know anything about I would be very upset. My son is 2 1/2 years old and I still regret letting my mom talk me into it.
It may not just be an etiquette thing. She may not be into the shower/sprinkle thing. Not everyone is.
This was kind of me too. I was ok with the bridal shower but I said I really didn't want a baby shower. I was not comfortable with the whole pregnancy thing, not comfortable in my skin, hated any attention related to it. I didn't even tell work I was pregnant until I was like 6 months along. I never spoke of it on FB. Some people didn't find out until after my DD was born and a picture was posted on FB.
So it depends on the person really.
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
Posted by luvbuffet
im sure if its just your group of friends and it isnt a huge production, she will be so grateful. You're all NEW friends in a new city, finding that an an older age is NOT easy. finding that and friends that want to throw you a sprinkle? one lucky woman!
I owe this set of friends to the friend I want to have this sprinkle for. This friend really made the effort and made me feel so welcome. She has hosted countless bbq, family dinners, parties (new yrs, st patricks day, etc). Our husbands are good friends and our kids adore one another.
I feel the least I can do for her is some sort of baby celebration. At the same time, I don't want to throw something that is not wanted. She loves celebrating though.
Many of my friends were childless when we moved. They are just starting to have families. These new friends are all family friends with kids similar in age.
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alli3131
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
If I really didn't want one then I would hope those around me respected that.
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| Posted 5/14/14 9:08 AM |
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Aries14
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
I think you could just do a nice lunch out with the group of girlfriends as a way to celebrate without having an offical sprinkle - like decorations and lots of presents, etc. we did this for my sil who was on the fence about having one. We all just went out to a nice resturant and we got her little things like new bibs, girly binkys and stuff like that
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jessnbrian
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
Posted by Mrs213
I would just get together with the friends and do something very small, but don't make it a surprise. Just lunch with the girls or something and you can each get her your little gifts...
This is what I was thinking, even at one of the girl's homes, a brunch or something. keep it simple and relaxed.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
If someone said they don't want one, I wouldn't plan one.
I would ask if they were ok if we had a brunch with close friends to celebrate in lieu of one. Maybe get a group gift & keep in low key.
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JME78
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
If she said she didn't want one I would respect that.
I really don't like baby showers - I am weird and superstitious. So I didn't have one. Some of my colleagues tried to throw one and I was really upset when I found out and asked them to not proceed. So respect her decision.
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MarathonKnitter
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
i would respect her choice.
can you host a mommy-to-be-again tea?
no gifts. just an afternoon with new friends to congratulate her on the new baby and to spend time together.
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JAPH23
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
I think its a nice gesture but would keep it really small since she said she didnt want one....
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| Posted 5/14/14 11:42 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
I wouldn't plan one if she didn't want it. I would tell her the girls are getting together for lunch (or whatever) before she has the baby and then everyone can bring a little gift or maybe chip in and get her g.c. for a newborn shoot or something.
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
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Posted by Mrs213
I would just get together with the friends and do something very small, but don't make it a surprise. Just lunch with the girls or something and you can each get her your little gifts...
This is what I was thinking, even at one of the girl's homes, a brunch or something. keep it simple and relaxed.
I think something like this is a great idea - whether at someone's home or at a restaurant. It doesn't have to be a called a "sprinkle" - just friends getting together to celebrate a wonderful event
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MarisaK
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
What if you just host an informal BBQ with your close group of friends - get together like you normally would, but have a cake or something 'special' for her?
I'm sure you're all giving her something for the baby anyway .........
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| Posted 5/14/14 12:32 PM |
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Rosie0613
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Re: Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
Posted by MarisaK
What if you just host an informal BBQ with your close group of friends - get together like you normally would, but have a cake or something 'special' for her?
I'm sure you're all giving her something for the baby anyway .........
This is what I would do.
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| Posted 5/14/14 12:57 PM |
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Janice
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Would you dislike getting a surprise sprinkle?
In Charlotte, no one really had sprinkles.....but sip and sees were huge. Wine and cocktails after baby is born with just friends and grandmother
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