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MarathonKnitter
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UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
i have a feeling that most, if not all, of you are watching the last episode of the sopranos right now. i sure hope it lives up to the expectation.
but i digress.
i, first of all, want to thank each and every woman who sent me a lovely, heart-felt fm in these past few days.
i don't know if i'll be able to answer each and every one. but i will do my best.
i'll do my best to give the "highlights" and important points.
when i came home after the text messages, there was a very long very ugly fight. i was called every name in the book. everytime i tried to answer one of his questions, he'd cut me off and answer it for himself. it got to the point that i just stopped talking.
after about an hour of silence, HE STARTED TO ACT AS IF NOTHING HAD HAPPENED!!!!! i was so shocked. but i stood strong to my decision to not speak (might not be the smartest move, but i felt i had to prove a point).
i stayed in the family room all night. i slept on the couch.
the next morning, i got up, walked the dog, and came back to shower. as i was going about my normal routine, he was in bed. i turned on the light as if he wasn't there. when he woke up, i quietly started to speak my mind. he was caught off-guard, so he had to listen. i said my piece with tears in my eyes.
by the time i was on my way to work, he came over and hugged and kissed me and apologized.
it was a very small "victory". today, was not a good day. it wasn't as bad as thursday, but it's not the "honeymoon" i was expecting after, what i thought was a minestone.
so, in the end, i'm left with questions. is it worth fighting for? is it worth saving? are we just too different? can we ever understand one another?
to be honest, i don't have answers.
i'm hoping to talk to him before we go to bed, tonight. if this marriage ends, it WON'T be because i gave up on it.
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MrsERod
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Posted by libby2595
if this marriage ends, it WON'T be because i gave up on it.
this statement alone speaks volumes about your willingness to save your marriage! kudos to you! I hope things work out for the best! 
Message edited 6/10/2007 11:05:56 PM.
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| Posted 6/10/07 11:05 PM |
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MissJones
I need a nap!
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Wow. My heart goes out to you right now, it really does. I don't know what to say other than this. If you feel it's worth fighting for, then fight. Dont' give up. Marriage is hard and in all honesty, it's very hard in the beginning, no matter if you've lived together or not. It requires a lot of work and energy. If you feel it's worth giving, then keep giving. But you're right when you say that if it ends, it's not for your lack of fighting. Have you asked him whether he is up for counseling? Is he ready to work? If he expects you to change (which, he took you for better or for worse, nothing major is to be expected), then is he willing to compromise and make changes for you?
I wish you a lot of luck! 
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| Posted 6/10/07 11:07 PM |
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Laura1
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Lots more hugs to you, whatever the outcome, you can hold your head high, you are giving it your all
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| Posted 6/10/07 11:08 PM |
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LAMGAJ28
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
I suggest you go both to counseling.
Best of luck !
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| Posted 6/10/07 11:12 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Posted by MissJones
Wow. My heart goes out to you right now, it really does. I don't know what to say other than this. If you feel it's worth fighting for, then fight. Dont' give up. Marriage is hard and in all honesty, it's very hard in the beginning, no matter if you've lived together or not. It requires a lot of work and energy. If you feel it's worth giving, then keep giving. But you're right when you say that if it ends, it's not for your lack of fighting. Have you asked him whether he is up for counseling? Is he ready to work? If he expects you to change (which, he took you for better or for worse, nothing major is to be expected), then is he willing to compromise and make changes for you?
I wish you a lot of luck!
ITA 
I'm so sorry you are going through this, hang in there...
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| Posted 6/10/07 11:15 PM |
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BellaRock
I am all the Me I will ever Be
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Im am so sorry you have to go through all this. I hope and pray for all the best for you. Keep your head up and be strong.
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| Posted 6/11/07 12:49 AM |
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CaseyGirl
Mommy to 3 Boys :)
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
ugh i am so sorry That is very strange behavior on his part! 
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| Posted 6/11/07 1:01 AM |
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MrsPowers
So blessed!
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Wow good for you for saying what is on your mind. That is so important! I am thinking about you and hoping that things work out. 
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| Posted 6/11/07 5:50 AM |
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Michelina627
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
I've been thinking about you. I hope this all works out!
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| Posted 6/11/07 6:12 AM |
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JenandMikey
life is good =)
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We're so blessed!
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Posted by MrsERod
Posted by libby2595
if this marriage ends, it WON'T be because i gave up on it.
this statement alone speaks volumes about your willingness to save your marriage! kudos to you! I hope things work out for the best!
ITA!!!!!!!!!!! good for u!
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| Posted 6/11/07 6:31 AM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
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| Posted 6/11/07 6:53 AM |
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Porrruss
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:03 AM |
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Moehick
Ready for the sun!
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:04 AM |
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cazhley
I ♥ cheesiness.
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Hoping the best for both you and DH.
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:07 AM |
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Kara
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
Posted by MrsERod
Posted by libby2595
if this marriage ends, it WON'T be because i gave up on it.
this statement alone speaks volumes about your willingness to save your marriage! kudos to you! I hope things work out for the best!
ITA!
to you Libby!
I really hope you are able to work it out, but whatever happens will be for the best! Thank you for the update - we were all worried about you!
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:12 AM |
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Booklady1017
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
I am sorry about everything that is happening. Much to you.
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:26 AM |
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LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
I hope he realizes that what he did was WRONG. And I hope it works out for you guys.
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:38 AM |
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LuckySV
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
I don't really have any words of advice. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:52 AM |
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munchkinbugs
My little loves!
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:57 AM |
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snuggleupagus
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| Posted 6/11/07 8:58 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
thank you for keeping us updated. I am truly sorry that this is happening I really hope you can work things out. I wish you the best
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| Posted 6/11/07 9:02 AM |
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SweetTooth
I'm a tired mommy!
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Lauren
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
I am sorry you have to go through with this.. I can't even imagine! I truly hope everything works out the way it is supposed to
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| Posted 6/11/07 9:11 AM |
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DebG
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The cure IS worse!
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
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| Posted 6/11/07 9:15 AM |
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july06bride
I'm a mom!
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Re: UPDATE: unhappiness via text message
sorry you are going through this!
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| Posted 6/11/07 9:28 AM |
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