Thanks !

thanks ladies

Message edited 1/29/2013 4:41:43 PM.

MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

I would not do it every week. Maybe 2 of the 4 weeks.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

Could you go over to her house the afternoons and evenings that she is watching the baby so you could have time with the baby and then go home after ds goes to sleep. It would be a comrpomise especially since it is a favor she is doing for you.

MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

I couldn't do that...not all month, maybe 2 of the weeks like a pp mentioned. Is having her spend the night/2 days with you an option? Maybe she could do that 1 or 2 of the weeks?

ETA: I'm all for sleepovers, that's not my issue...the fact that it would be for 2 full days is what would get to me. I trust my ILs, I'm just one of those mommies that can't leave them for too long yet.

Message edited 1/29/2013 10:41:54 AM.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

If there any way you or your DH could drive him? Honestly, if she is doing you a favor by watching him 2 days I would probably go for it, especially since she has to drive such a distance in potentially bad weather.

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Posted by DiamondGirl

Posted by jam11308

I couldn't do that. Is having her spend the night/2 days with you an option?

this was offered but I guess she doesn;t want to that, I even said I would cook dinner

MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

For a 2 year old, yeah I would go for it.

Oh, I see your edit. I dunno, that might be too young for my comfort level.

Message edited 1/29/2013 11:05:34 AM.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

It's only for a month, I would be ok with it.

MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

I'd be fine with it, I'd want to make it easier on her since she's helping me out. Or I would drive to see kid and then come home at night.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

I would go for it.

My mom watches DS 5 days a week for me, I accomodate her first.

I leave DS at my moms overnight several times more so in the winter when the weather is verycold or bad (like last week - he slept there 2 nights that week).

DH & I miss DS those nights, but we survive.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

Well, considering my DD is 4 and has NEVER stayed overnight with anyone yet my answer would have to be NO way.

I just like her home with me, I *personally* don't feel ready to have her anywhere else overnight and at that age (15 months) I feel like it would be more trouble than it was worth for me, too much of a disruption in her routine.

I know some will say go for it but for me, I wouldn't. I like having DD home with us at night. Overnights just aren't my thing right now.

MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

If it's only for one month, I'd be ok with that. I would want to accommodate her since she is watching my child.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

Thanks you for your input I will think about it and talk to DH about some of the suggestions.

Message edited 1/29/2013 4:42:29 PM.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

Would totally go for it and thank her for the generous offer. Asking her to drive 40 minutes each way 2 days in a row during the winter is a lot.

Enjoy the night without your DS - go to dinner, tackle some chores you can't do with him around, etc.

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MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

Yes, I would totally do this.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

If it were my parents I would have no problem with it at all! They watch my kids and i do anything to make things easier for them. my kids are actually having a sleepiver tonight.
Inlaws would be a different story.

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Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

thanks

Message edited 1/29/2013 4:42:05 PM.

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Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

Everyone is different and what works for some people might not for others!

I definitely wouldn't do it.

It's just not something that I have any desire to do at all. My toddler is 3 and twins are 11 months. I am just not into overnight things. I already work FT and feel like I don't get to spend as much time with them as I like. Sometimes it's the "little" times with them that I appreciate most - like car rides, dinner time, bed time, bath time, etc... because we don't do all that much else together during the week. I have never left my 3 year old except when I was hospitalized for a week during my twin pregnancy and then after their birth. They were always home with Daddy.

Re: MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

Been doing this for years go. But we do pick up and drop off.

During the school year she goes over on Friday comes home on Sunday. I lose her on weekends.

In summers she goes over on Sunday and comes home on Friday. I lose her Monday through Friday, get her on weekends.

When she was smaller (18m or so), we'd visit her twice a week during the summer. Then we stopped because when she got older it got harder for her to let us go. She loves spending time with Auntie but of course she'd rather be home. By 3 she had her own luggage and now loves to pack it to go to auntie's house. Still we keep her some weekends and other weekends she doesn't want to go over to Auntie's but we just stick with it.

I feel it teachs her independence, the ability to stay over, listen to others and of course most importantly she loves my aunt just nearly as much as my aunt loves her. My aunt is turning 72 this weekend. I love that they both get to share these times.

My aunt has been there to feed her, change, her wash her, love her and holder while she cries. its been great! Sure there's been some ups and downs (just search for the word vent and aunt and you'll see how I complained) but it has gotten better. Wouldnt change it for the world.

She's gone to the zoo, parties, trips down town, looked at lights, all sorts of stuff with auntie. She is comfortable in that home and with my aunt.


ETA
My aunt is 26mi away but only 15-20min drive. Its a lot of highway so she won't drive it. Too many different exits etc. We all feel better when we drive to drop and pick her up.

Message edited 1/29/2013 12:23:23 PM.

MIL watching DS two days a week, wants him to sleep over

As a working mom, 2 days a week away overnight would be way too much for me. Sounds like SIL is better option.

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