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meloyellow
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Re: sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
I really don't feel I saw anyone being self righteous about not leaving their kids and I feel awful that this is how my post is turning out. No need for mommy wars. In my particular case...its not an overnight we are discussing. Virginia is 8 hours away and she's asking for a vacation with him, not an overnight.
even so...when I make plans to go somewhere special I want to share that as a family. I don't find it self righteous to feel that way. Im not looking down on anybody who goes away without their kids...I just can't do it...I don't WANT to.
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Re: sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
You're NOT crazy. My dad and step mom often talk about DS vacationing with them (in South Carolina) for a week or 2 over the summer, WHEN HE'S OLDER (like 8-9 yrs old). My step mom even suggested we fly down (now) as a family, leave DS (who is 6) and DD (who is 1) with them and take an overnight (or 2) just DH and I. I'm not opposed to that, since we'd consider doing Myrtle Beach, which is only a 4 hr drive from them.
However, MIL wanted to take DS with her when she went to Argentina for a month when he was about 6 mos old (PS, that did NOT happen).
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| Posted 10/30/13 3:17 PM |
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JoesWife628
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Re: sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
Posted by REKoz412
Posted by LBBCHGRL
I am also in the minority. Every year since my kids have been born they have spent time with their grandparents overnight. It is usually a week at a time. Sometimes DH and I go away and sometimes we stay home. I figured they did a good job with me so what's the harm to have them watch the kids for a week.
THIS!! For all of you girls having that same confidence in your parents, I have a hard time understanding why an overnight with them is such a big deal. I can sort of get my head around a week...but one night? Please explain if you trust your parent(s) with your child otherwise, what is the reason to keep them from this kind of experience?
Truthfully I have no problem and trust my padents/mil completely. My issue comes with me not wanting to inconvenience anyone. If my dc's are up because they miss us, I would feel terrible. Plus my dad has a host of health issues as does my mom and I would feel bad asking them for fear of one of them not feeling well. As for my mil, she works 3 (yes 3) jobs (one of which is overnight)and is never really home. I'm also not ready to be away from them.
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| Posted 10/30/13 3:32 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
Youre not crazy
To me all vacations are family vacations. I dont mind her being overnight with auntie during the summers but she's driving distance away and we talk every night. But she's not really 'gone' just 'over there'. No WAY Id let her out of the same town I'm in. Ever.
Aunt keeps asking me to take her to this party or that just a few hours away from San Antonio, but without me the answer is ALWAYS no. Its just that simple.
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| Posted 10/30/13 4:00 PM |
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Re: sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
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Hell to the no.
Same here. Many have already indicated the reasons. I would consider when she is MUCH MUCH older but right now.. nope, not a chance.. not even one night.
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| Posted 10/30/13 4:02 PM |
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Katareen
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sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
Nope--my DD is also 2 and when my mom slept over my house a few weeks ago so I could go to an OOT wedding, my DD woke up FRANTIC that I wasn't there. I felt terrible.
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| Posted 10/30/13 4:15 PM |
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wakemeup
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Re: sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
My kids have spent the night with family/friends but never more than that. This year will be the first time (5 days) that they will be with family without us. They are 5 and 3.5.
When I was 5 I spent a week with my grandparents in Florida.
Honestly it's about your comfort zone, not your mom's, and whether or not WE think it's appropriate isn't the issue, the issue is why does she keep pressing it and telling you to cut the cord? She sounds wacked out.
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| Posted 10/30/13 5:42 PM |
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Re: sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
Why not take the trip to VA and leave him with her and have an adult vacation in the area? It's free childcare if you are comfortable with her watching him in general. That is the same as taking a vacation and leaving him in NY. I would not allow anyone else to travel with him at such young age, especially across the country, that's nuts.
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Re: sending your child away for vacation - please tell me i'm not crazy
Posted by REKoz412
Posted by LBBCHGRL
I am also in the minority. Every year since my kids have been born they have spent time with their grandparents overnight. It is usually a week at a time. Sometimes DH and I go away and sometimes we stay home. I figured they did a good job with me so what's the harm to have them watch the kids for a week.
THIS!! For all of you girls having that same confidence in your parents, I have a hard time understanding why an overnight with them is such a big deal. I can sort of get my head around a week...but one night? Please explain if you trust your parent(s) with your child otherwise, what is the reason to keep them from this kind of experience?
I 100% trust my parents but ultimately, I like having my kids at home in their own beds right now. I see no need to disrupt their routines at 5yo and 7mos for a sleepover. When they are older, sure but right now I would rather my kids be home at night.
Aside from that, my parents live two minutes away and see my kids ALL the time. A sleepover right now is really not necessary at this point in time IMO. I just don't feel it's the right time but that's just me.
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