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Re: Just a question re:opinions on adoption...
Posted by BunnyWife
Interesting question. DH and I are not TTC at the moment but we have discussed children and the idea of adopting.
I feel in some way in the minority because as a woman, I feel no real desire to have my own biological children. You can have children with behavioral and other issues if they are biologically yours as well. This has never really played into our choice to hopefully adopt one day.
There are so many children in this world who need loving parents (or parent).
It's a very personal decision and I wouldn't fault anyone for not wanting to adopt.
Thats what I think - I shied away from the idea of adoption when I think of the behavior problems that some of the children COULD potentially have - but if you can find out the child's history, that helps - I mean, I know kids who are adopted and not adopted who have autism, as well as other developmental issues and behavior problems....
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Re: Just a question re:opinions on adoption...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by BunnyWife
Interesting question. DH and I are not TTC at the moment but we have discussed children and the idea of adopting.
I feel in some way in the minority because as a woman, I feel no real desire to have my own biological children. You can have children with behavioral and other issues if they are biologically yours as well. This has never really played into our choice to hopefully adopt one day.
There are so many children in this world who need loving parents (or parent).
It's a very personal decision and I wouldn't fault anyone for not wanting to adopt.
Thats what I think - I shied away from the idea of adoption when I think of the behavior problems that some of the children COULD potentially have - but if you can find out the child's history, that helps - I mean, I know kids who are adopted and not adopted who have autism, as well as other developmental issues and behavior problems....
I know what people mean with the whole "genetic lottery" debate, but in reality, any type of reproduction is a "genetic lottery". I mean, in my DH's family, there is a TON of ADHD and Aspergers in the boys. And in mine we all have stomach issues. Did that keep us from having kids? Of course not.
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Re: Just a question re:opinions on adoption...
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by BunnyWife
Interesting question. DH and I are not TTC at the moment but we have discussed children and the idea of adopting.
I feel in some way in the minority because as a woman, I feel no real desire to have my own biological children. You can have children with behavioral and other issues if they are biologically yours as well. This has never really played into our choice to hopefully adopt one day.
There are so many children in this world who need loving parents (or parent).
It's a very personal decision and I wouldn't fault anyone for not wanting to adopt.
Thats what I think - I shied away from the idea of adoption when I think of the behavior problems that some of the children COULD potentially have - but if you can find out the child's history, that helps - I mean, I know kids who are adopted and not adopted who have autism, as well as other developmental issues and behavior problems....
I know what people mean with the whole "genetic lottery" debate, but in reality, any type of reproduction is a "genetic lottery". I mean, in my DH's family, there is a TON of ADHD and Asbergers in the boys. And in mine we all have stomach issues. Did that keep us from having kids? Of course not.
Yes - genetic lottery is a good way of putting it...
I can see where people are coming from - at least you know your own family history - you dont know what some of the parents did during pregnancy with kids up for adoption that could affect them long term...
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Re: Just a question re:opinions on adoption...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by BunnyWife
Interesting question. DH and I are not TTC at the moment but we have discussed children and the idea of adopting.
I feel in some way in the minority because as a woman, I feel no real desire to have my own biological children. You can have children with behavioral and other issues if they are biologically yours as well. This has never really played into our choice to hopefully adopt one day.
There are so many children in this world who need loving parents (or parent).
It's a very personal decision and I wouldn't fault anyone for not wanting to adopt.
Thats what I think - I shied away from the idea of adoption when I think of the behavior problems that some of the children COULD potentially have - but if you can find out the child's history, that helps - I mean, I know kids who are adopted and not adopted who have autism, as well as other developmental issues and behavior problems....
I know what people mean with the whole "genetic lottery" debate, but in reality, any type of reproduction is a "genetic lottery". I mean, in my DH's family, there is a TON of ADHD and Asbergers in the boys. And in mine we all have stomach issues. Did that keep us from having kids? Of course not.
Yes - genetic lottery is a good way of putting it...
I can see where people are coming from - at least you know your own family history - you dont know what some of the parents did during pregnancy with kids up for adoption that could affect them long term...
That's very true. I have friends who have crazy parents and are extreamly sane. It's a crap shoot. You don't really know what you are going to end up with.
I feel awful for the ladies on here who want to have kids and can't. I can't even imagine the pain that must cause and I really admire you all for your strength.
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Re: Just a question re:opinions on adoption...
Some of the posts here today have helped me to see how those who are not interested in adoption feel. I thought I understood but a few people explained it in ways I had not thought of. I can see now, how it would be so annoying to be TTC and have people fault you for not wanting to consider adoption.
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Re: Just a question re:opinions on adoption...
Posted by ssdbk
Some of the posts here today have helped me to see how those who are not interested in adoption feel. I thought I understood but a few people explained it in ways I had not thought of. I can see now, how it would be so annoying to be TTC and have people fault you for not wanting to consider adoption.
I was thinking the same thing - I am so, SO glad that this question was well received and no one got upset with me.... I would never be so ego centric to ever think that just because I have considered it means that everyone should consider it, and was curious to hear other people's perspectives!
That being said - ladies, with the holidays and the new year, I pray that you all get what you want!!!  
I know that there are many of you that I think about and pray about on a daily basis! 
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