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I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Illegal. I recently interviewed for a job that required a lot of travel. They just asked if I was ok with travel (I was not, and I'm still dumbfounded that this wasn't in the job posting and they wasted my time and theirs), however, one of the older women I met with asked what I was most proud of outside of work- which I felt could be a sneaky way to get someone to mention kids. Personally, I think older women are more anti-kids than men in the workplace.
I wear my wedding ring to interviews so I'm obviously married but would never mention a child. If asked I wouldn't decline to answer because that looks worse than saying yes, but I would assume I wasn't getting the job at that point and would be pissed. Not sure I'd make a huge fuss, though because would I really want to work for people who ask illegal interview questions?
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Wow. That is horrifying and sad. I'm not shocked, but so disappointed. Shouldn't lawyers know better??
I haven't been faced with this in real life but have prepared nonetheless to answer those questions and I hope to have the courage to say something to the effect of "I enjoy sharing details about my life outside of work with my COWORKERS and would gladly share those things with you if I'm hired, but prefer to keep this conversation focused on the job" if it ever happens to me in an interview. It's so infuriating that #1 men are people and women are women and #2 that people still ask such sexist questions of interviewees. At the very least they should know better than to expose their sexism because it's very unbecoming
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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Here is another thing that gets me - I am pregnant and looking for a new job. I know it is illegal for an employer to discriminate because you are pregnant, but if you don't get the job, I assume 99% of the time it would be because you are pregnant. So how does that anti-discrimination protect a potential employee? The employer will just skirt the issue and say you wern't hired for other reasons, KWIM?
I interview a lot of candidates and tbh, I would absolutely dread interviewing someone who was visibly pregnant because they could so easily pull the "I didn't get the job because I'm pregnant" card even if they were a terrible fit for the job. So, anyone pregnant should probably apply for a job in my office (hurry cause I'm leaving soon) because I wouldn't want to deal with the potential fall out and would just give them the job.
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I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Yeah these questions are illegal. They are definitely against my firm's interview policies. Completely unprofessional and discriminatory, IMO. Any trianed interviewer would low NOT to ask these questions or to tailor them in an acceptable fashion. Disgusting. I'm sorry you experienced that. I'd probably have confronted him directly about it and informed he about the legality with a follow up to the HR maanger. Doesn't sound like a firm or office I'd ever choose to work for.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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I guess I'm old school or haven't interviewed in a long time...
I wouldn't get mad or think twice if I was asked those questions.
If I was qualified and I wasn't hired for those reasons is a different story!
ITA and I'm not super old, lol! I wouldn't have even batted an eye. If you are not comfortable there, do not take the job.
that's not the point. Men are not asked on interviews if they are married, have, or plan to have children. The question would be perfectly acceptable if it was asked across the board, but it's not, and that SHOULD bother any woman.
How could you ever prove that you weren't hired 'for those reasons' ........???
There are 100 ways to find out if someone is comfortable with travel, comfortable with hours, time put it, expectations of performance etc. without asking those questions ...........
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I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
I've been asked that question and responded with "the law prohibits you from asking such questions."
I was offered a job anyway. Sometimes they are testing you to see how you handle it. It's truly unfair that they do this.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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Yes. My point is that it is super illegal.
The job I do is traveling to work on litigation. So it's understood that you would be traveling a lot.
The reason to be mad is that he was asking to make sure kids would not stand in the way of me doing the job. So they would probably pass me over if I said "yes I am planning on having kids".
THAT is why it's illegal. It's wrong. It's against the law. It's man splaining it's sexist.
Agreed. Totally illegal.
However just reading this thread. I just want to twist this around a bit, and I'm totally playing devils advocate here. What if the person interviewing was a woman? Would it still be deemed sexist? Or would it just be viewed as a female looking out for another female kind of thing? Curious to know what others think.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by JP826
Posted by Paramount
Yes. My point is that it is super illegal.
The job I do is traveling to work on litigation. So it's understood that you would be traveling a lot.
The reason to be mad is that he was asking to make sure kids would not stand in the way of me doing the job. So they would probably pass me over if I said "yes I am planning on having kids".
THAT is why it's illegal. It's wrong. It's against the law. It's man splaining it's sexist.
Agreed. Totally illegal.
However just reading this thread. I just want to twist this around a bit, and I'm totally playing devils advocate here. What if the person interviewing was a woman? Would it still be deemed sexist? Or would it just be viewed as a female looking out for another female kind of thing? Curious to know what others think.
Still sexist.
I am a woman who interviews and I'd never ask anyone- male or female, those questions.
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Posted by NervousNell
Still sexist.
I am a woman who interviews and I'd never ask anyone- male or female, those questions.
I can't believe in this day and age and in a corporate environment, there are people who still ask these sort of questions! Still amazes me. I work for an investment bank and we have to take quarterly in-house training courses to basically remind everyone how to conduct ourselves professionally.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by JP826
Posted by Paramount
Yes. My point is that it is super illegal.
The job I do is traveling to work on litigation. So it's understood that you would be traveling a lot.
The reason to be mad is that he was asking to make sure kids would not stand in the way of me doing the job. So they would probably pass me over if I said "yes I am planning on having kids".
THAT is why it's illegal. It's wrong. It's against the law. It's man splaining it's sexist.
Agreed. Totally illegal.
However just reading this thread. I just want to twist this around a bit, and I'm totally playing devils advocate here. What if the person interviewing was a woman? Would it still be deemed sexist? Or would it just be viewed as a female looking out for another female kind of thing? Curious to know what others think.
Still sexist.
I am a woman who interviews and I'd never ask anyone- male or female, those questions.
When I interviewed for my job, the female office manager told me that knowing that I had a child, made her hesitant to hire me. Still sexist & she is completely uneducated though- think Edith Bunker.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by JP826
Posted by Paramount
Yes. My point is that it is super illegal.
The job I do is traveling to work on litigation. So it's understood that you would be traveling a lot.
The reason to be mad is that he was asking to make sure kids would not stand in the way of me doing the job. So they would probably pass me over if I said "yes I am planning on having kids".
THAT is why it's illegal. It's wrong. It's against the law. It's man splaining it's sexist.
Agreed. Totally illegal.
However just reading this thread. I just want to twist this around a bit, and I'm totally playing devils advocate here. What if the person interviewing was a woman? Would it still be deemed sexist? Or would it just be viewed as a female looking out for another female kind of thing? Curious to know what others think.
Absolutely. I think in many cases it's the women who are worse, especially older women whose children are already grown.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by JP826
Posted by Paramount
Yes. My point is that it is super illegal.
The job I do is traveling to work on litigation. So it's understood that you would be traveling a lot.
The reason to be mad is that he was asking to make sure kids would not stand in the way of me doing the job. So they would probably pass me over if I said "yes I am planning on having kids".
THAT is why it's illegal. It's wrong. It's against the law. It's man splaining it's sexist.
Agreed. Totally illegal.
However just reading this thread. I just want to twist this around a bit, and I'm totally playing devils advocate here. What if the person interviewing was a woman? Would it still be deemed sexist? Or would it just be viewed as a female looking out for another female kind of thing? Curious to know what others think.
Yes, 100%. Doesn't matter if it's a man, women, or a frog who asks. Someone's marital or parental status is no reflection on whether they have the right skills and are a good fit for the job. Totally irrelevant. And I would not see it as "looking out" for another women to ask this. I think it's the opposite.
The appropriate way to ask the question to ANYONE is to lay out the job requirements, lay out the travel requirements and ask the individual if they can meet them. That's it. No assumptions made.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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I guess I'm old school or haven't interviewed in a long time...
I wouldn't get mad or think twice if I was asked those questions.
If I was qualified and I wasn't hired for those reasons is a different story!
ITA and I'm not super old, lol! I wouldn't have even batted an eye. If you are not comfortable there, do not take the job.
Gotta agree here...
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by LInMI
I guess I'm old school or haven't interviewed in a long time...
I wouldn't get mad or think twice if I was asked those questions.
If I was qualified and I wasn't hired for those reasons is a different story!
Your last sentence is exactly the point. Those questions are illegal to ask because it's illegal to use marital/parent status against someone when it comes to employment. Assuming she doesn't get the job, they can say it's for any one of a thousand reasons, but having asked those questions, can she ever really be sure that her marital status wasn't the reason? No. It can't really be proven either way.
All the information we receive colors our view. THAT's why she shouldn't have been asked at all, and that's why you SHOULD think twice when a potential employer asks you illegal questions.
Of course, 25 years of working with lawyers, I know they're the biggest offenders.
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I have been asked these same questions for most of the interviews I've been on. It's unacceptable though common in my experience.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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Posted by Paramount
Yes. My point is that it is super illegal.
The job I do is traveling to work on litigation. So it's understood that you would be traveling a lot.
The reason to be mad is that he was asking to make sure kids would not stand in the way of me doing the job. So they would probably pass me over if I said "yes I am planning on having kids".
THAT is why it's illegal. It's wrong. It's against the law. It's man splaining it's sexist.
Agreed. Totally illegal.
However just reading this thread. I just want to twist this around a bit, and I'm totally playing devils advocate here. What if the person interviewing was a woman? Would it still be deemed sexist? Or would it just be viewed as a female looking out for another female kind of thing? Curious to know what others think.
Still sexist.
I am a woman who interviews and I'd never ask anyone- male or female, those questions.
Agree. I don't care who is asking, they aren't questions you should be asking anyone on an interview.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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Posted by LInMI
I guess I'm old school or haven't interviewed in a long time...
I wouldn't get mad or think twice if I was asked those questions.
If I was qualified and I wasn't hired for those reasons is a different story!
ITA and I'm not super old, lol! I wouldn't have even batted an eye. If you are not comfortable there, do not take the job.
Gotta agree here...
So you'd be okay if you and a man are interviewing for the same position and the interviewer asks you about your relationship status, your family life, if you want kids, etc but doesn't ask him the same? Because realistically, a man is NOT getting asked those questions. So why is it assumed a man can handle the job at hand but a woman couldn't because of obligations in her personal life which is NOT a company's business. There is a reason why you're NOT suppose to ask these types of questions on an interview, it is unprofessional and crossing a line.
My DH is a Director of Engineering and has interviewed hundreds of people in his career, he would NEVER ask that of a woman (or anyone) on an interview. He (like any interviewer should) keeps it professional, he asks about their experience, education, skills, career goals, etc but he NEVER asks anything about a candidate's personal life. That is OFF LIMITS and should be common knowledge.
As a woman, you should be offended by things like this. It's deplorable.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BlessedMomma
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Posted by LInMI
I guess I'm old school or haven't interviewed in a long time...
I wouldn't get mad or think twice if I was asked those questions.
If I was qualified and I wasn't hired for those reasons is a different story!
ITA and I'm not super old, lol! I wouldn't have even batted an eye. If you are not comfortable there, do not take the job.
Gotta agree here...
So you'd be okay if you and a man are interviewing for the same position and the interviewer asks you about your relationship status, your family life, if you want kids, etc but doesn't ask him the same? Because realistically, a man is NOT getting asked those questions. So why is it assumed a man can handle the job at hand but a woman couldn't because of obligations in her personal life which is NOT a company's business. There is a reason why you're NOT suppose to ask these types of questions on an interview, it is unprofessional and crossing a line.
My DH is a Director of Engineering and has interviewed hundreds of people in his career, he would NEVER ask that of a woman (or anyone) on an interview. He (like any interviewer should) keeps it professional, he asks about their experience, education, skills, career goals, etc but he NEVER asks anything about a candidate's personal life. That is OFF LIMITS and should be common knowledge.
As a woman, you should be offended by things like this. It's deplorable.
Eh it wouldn't bother me either, but (I'll get flamed for this), I still think the majority of child rearing does (and should) fall on the mother, and I can absolutely see how it could impact a workers performance. I went back to work after dd was born, and will go back in January when ds is about 9 weeks. Apart from the time I'm away from my job, when I return I'll need breaks to pump, I won't be able to go on field trips, etc. I should have travelled for work at the end of September, but with a 2 year old and being 36 weeks preggo it wasn't an option-dh would have had no issues if his job would have asked him to go at the same point. If our children get sick, I'm automatically the one who takes off-it's not even a thought in our heads that my husband would. Our children literally do not impact his life in any way while at work, aside from 2 weeks paternity leave when they're born (during which he's 100% available via email or phone). For me, they have an obvious impact on my job.
There are so many women who can balance it all, and I applaud them. However, there are just as many, myself included, who have families that impact their professional lives.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by evrythng4areason
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Posted by BlessedMomma
Posted by jlm2008
Posted by LInMI
I guess I'm old school or haven't interviewed in a long time...
I wouldn't get mad or think twice if I was asked those questions.
If I was qualified and I wasn't hired for those reasons is a different story!
ITA and I'm not super old, lol! I wouldn't have even batted an eye. If you are not comfortable there, do not take the job.
Gotta agree here...
So you'd be okay if you and a man are interviewing for the same position and the interviewer asks you about your relationship status, your family life, if you want kids, etc but doesn't ask him the same? Because realistically, a man is NOT getting asked those questions. So why is it assumed a man can handle the job at hand but a woman couldn't because of obligations in her personal life which is NOT a company's business. There is a reason why you're NOT suppose to ask these types of questions on an interview, it is unprofessional and crossing a line.
My DH is a Director of Engineering and has interviewed hundreds of people in his career, he would NEVER ask that of a woman (or anyone) on an interview. He (like any interviewer should) keeps it professional, he asks about their experience, education, skills, career goals, etc but he NEVER asks anything about a candidate's personal life. That is OFF LIMITS and should be common knowledge.
As a woman, you should be offended by things like this. It's deplorable.
Eh it wouldn't bother me either, but (I'll get flamed for this), I still think the majority of child rearing does (and should) fall on the mother, and I can absolutely see how it could impact a workers performance. I went back to work after dd was born, and will go back in January when ds is about 9 weeks. Apart from the time I'm away from my job, when I return I'll need breaks to pump, I won't be able to go on field trips, etc. I should have travelled for work at the end of September, but with a 2 year old and being 36 weeks preggo it wasn't an option-dh would have had no issues if his job would have asked him to go at the same point. If our children get sick, I'm automatically the one who takes off-it's not even a thought in our heads that my husband would. Our children literally do not impact his life in any way while at work, aside from 2 weeks paternity leave when they're born (during which he's 100% available via email or phone). For me, they have an obvious impact on my job.
There are so many women who can balance it all, and I applaud them. However, there are just as many, myself included, who have families that impact their professional lives.
But you missed the point. A employer has NO right to ask about your arrangement at home. Being able to juggle your home life and your work life is for you to work out and if you're interviewing, the assumption is you're up to the task if you take the job.
I'm a SAHM so the majority of the childcare is on my shoulders, as it should be in my case. However, I 100000% disagree with you that the majority of the responsibility should still fall on the woman even if she too is working F/T. Sorry but if I'm working outside of the home just as much my DH you better believe our arrangement would be A LOT closer to 50/50. We had kids TOGETHER, we would need to handle the childcare TOGETHER.................he wouldn't get a "free pass" if I am working too.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by evrythng4areason
There are so many women who can balance it all, and I applaud them. However, there are just as many, myself included, who have families that impact their professional lives.
But that is the point. That is your situation and how it works in your family. As others have said, the prospective employer should lay out the expectations of the job and if the person interviewing will be able handle it.
In my house, DH has the more flexible job - he can leave early if need be, has more vacation to take when the kids are off so it usually falls to him. That's how our situation works. If that is not your case, that's fine, but for an employer to basically assume that a woman can't do a job she is qualified for because of what they think she, as the woman/wife/mother should be able to handle, THAT is discrimination.
To the OP - sorry you had to deal with that. That's BS!!
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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Posted by evrythng4areason
There are so many women who can balance it all, and I applaud them. However, there are just as many, myself included, who have families that impact their professional lives.
But that is the point. That is your situation and how it works in your family. As others have said, the prospective employer should lay out the expectations of the job and if the person interviewing will be able handle it.
In my house, DH has the more flexible job - he can leave early if need be, has more vacation to take when the kids are off so it usually falls to him. That's how our situation works. If that is not your case, that's fine, but for an employer to basically assume that a woman can't do a job she is qualified for because of what they think she, as the woman/wife/mother should be able to handle, THAT is discrimination.
To the OP - sorry you had to deal with that. That's BS!!
Exactly!
An employer who asked me if I am married with children would be surprised to find out that DH is a stay at home dad right now- so childcare is not an issue even a little bit.
Quite the role reversal I know
But it's not 1956 anymore.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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Posted by BlessedMomma
Posted by jlm2008
Posted by LInMI
I guess I'm old school or haven't interviewed in a long time...
I wouldn't get mad or think twice if I was asked those questions.
If I was qualified and I wasn't hired for those reasons is a different story!
ITA and I'm not super old, lol! I wouldn't have even batted an eye. If you are not comfortable there, do not take the job.
Gotta agree here...
So you'd be okay if you and a man are interviewing for the same position and the interviewer asks you about your relationship status, your family life, if you want kids, etc but doesn't ask him the same? Because realistically, a man is NOT getting asked those questions. So why is it assumed a man can handle the job at hand but a woman couldn't because of obligations in her personal life which is NOT a company's business. There is a reason why you're NOT suppose to ask these types of questions on an interview, it is unprofessional and crossing a line.
My DH is a Director of Engineering and has interviewed hundreds of people in his career, he would NEVER ask that of a woman (or anyone) on an interview. He (like any interviewer should) keeps it professional, he asks about their experience, education, skills, career goals, etc but he NEVER asks anything about a candidate's personal life. That is OFF LIMITS and should be common knowledge.
As a woman, you should be offended by things like this. It's deplorable.
If I got offended by half of the things the women on this board get offended about, I wouldn't have time to actually live a life! I'm not saying it's not illegal, i believe it is. But it is also understandable. I am at my current job 10 years and I do not think that any of the women who are mothers, which is practically all of them, have put in a full 5 day, 40 hour week. It is always something with the kids. Maybe it is just my place of business, but in my experience, the job does not come first, which it needs to. The childless are always picking up the slack. So it may not be right, but I get it. I work in the legal field, we try our best during interviews to find out info like this, just not as blatant. Again, is OP is so offended, she should report the company.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by evrythng4areason
Eh it wouldn't bother me either, but (I'll get flamed for this), I still think the majority of child rearing does (and should) fall on the mother, and I can absolutely see how it could impact a workers performance. I went back to work after dd was born, and will go back in January when ds is about 9 weeks. Apart from the time I'm away from my job, when I return I'll need breaks to pump, I won't be able to go on field trips, etc. I should have travelled for work at the end of September, but with a 2 year old and being 36 weeks preggo it wasn't an option-dh would have had no issues if his job would have asked him to go at the same point. If our children get sick, I'm automatically the one who takes off-it's not even a thought in our heads that my husband would. Our children literally do not impact his life in any way while at work, aside from 2 weeks paternity leave when they're born (during which he's 100% available via email or phone). For me, they have an obvious impact on my job.
There are so many women who can balance it all, and I applaud them. However, there are just as many, myself included, who have families that impact their professional lives.
I am absolutely NOT flaming you. Your point is valid, especially as that's the way it is for a lot of people. I wouldn't apply for a job that required a lot of travel because I don't want to be away from my kids for any extended period of time.
But what if a woman is infertile? Does she need to explain to a potential employer that she's not having children? What if it's a lesbian couple? What if it's a woman who hates children? What if what if what if...
No one should be accepting a job offer if they have limitations that will prevent them from doing that job to the best of their ability. Those questions and their answers will cloud the perspective employer's view of the candidate, and it's not for the employer to determine if the candidate's home life will prevent them from getting the job done.
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
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Posted by oneday
Posted by evrythng4areason
There are so many women who can balance it all, and I applaud them. However, there are just as many, myself included, who have families that impact their professional lives.
But that is the point. That is your situation and how it works in your family. As others have said, the prospective employer should lay out the expectations of the job and if the person interviewing will be able handle it.
In my house, DH has the more flexible job - he can leave early if need be, has more vacation to take when the kids are off so it usually falls to him. That's how our situation works. If that is not your case, that's fine, but for an employer to basically assume that a woman can't do a job she is qualified for because of what they think she, as the woman/wife/mother should be able to handle, THAT is discrimination.
To the OP - sorry you had to deal with that. That's BS!!
Exactly!
An employer who asked me if I am married with children would be surprised to find out that DH is a stay at home dad right now- so childcare is not an issue even a little bit.
Quite the role reversal I know
But it's not 1956 anymore.
HA! My 70 year old father picks up my kids from school and does their homework with them every day. He didn't even pick *me* up from school!
and I'm one of the few women with children in my department.. I work about 10 hours more per week than the rest of them, in part because I have to feed my kids.
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| Posted 10/18/16 4:18 PM |
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Katareen
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Re: I had a job interview 2 days ago. Got asked sexist questions.
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by oneday
Posted by evrythng4areason
There are so many women who can balance it all, and I applaud them. However, there are just as many, myself included, who have families that impact their professional lives.
But that is the point. That is your situation and how it works in your family. As others have said, the prospective employer should lay out the expectations of the job and if the person interviewing will be able handle it.
In my house, DH has the more flexible job - he can leave early if need be, has more vacation to take when the kids are off so it usually falls to him. That's how our situation works. If that is not your case, that's fine, but for an employer to basically assume that a woman can't do a job she is qualified for because of what they think she, as the woman/wife/mother should be able to handle, THAT is discrimination.
To the OP - sorry you had to deal with that. That's BS!!
Exactly!
An employer who asked me if I am married with children would be surprised to find out that DH is a stay at home dad right now- so childcare is not an issue even a little bit.
Quite the role reversal I know
But it's not 1956 anymore.
I have 2 kids and travel at least 4x a year for my job...and when I'm away my husband *gasp* feeds and bathes and cares for our kids!
These are all required trips, and only once did I not go bc I was pregnant, but a man in my dept also missed a trip once for a chronic illness so I don't see the difference. I also was about to get married when I interviewed and never once was I asked if my marriage or family would affect my job. (They knew bc I had to request the week off for my booked honeymoon.)
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