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GoldenRod
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
Posted by Momma2015
Posted by NervousNell
Not sure about quieter, I feel like I am more anti social as I have gotten older.
Like it's getting REALLY bad.
Like I want to go live in a cave somewhere away from all humans.
Yeah, probably this! People are the worst. 
I definitely agree with Samuel Clemens! 
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Hofstra26
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
When I socialize I do think I am quieter in general. Partly because I am tired, partly because I sometimes feel like small talk gets so boring. Like the OP said, other times you just don't feel like doing the back and forth.
As I've gotten older I feel more inclined to want to be home and to socialize less. Life is hectic, things are sometimes non-stop and I crave home and down time with DH more than anything. I feel most relaxed when I am on the couch, in cozy pjs and I can just "be". It's nice to just exist in quiet sometimes. With DH, sometimes we chat up a storm together and other times we just snuggle quietly. I love that more than big group gatherings at this point in my life. I've always been a homebody though, even more now that I am older.
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NervousNell
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
Posted by Hofstra26
As I've gotten older I feel more inclined to want to be home and to socialize less. Life is hectic, things are sometimes non-stop and I crave home and down time with DH more than anything. feel most relaxed when I am on the couch, in cozy pjs and I can just "be". It's nice to just exist in quiet sometimes.
YES! 100%. Sometimes when people are over I actually pretend I am going to the bathroom and go in my bedroom, shut the door and lie on the bed, in silence for 5 minutes- just to get away from everyone and being "on".
I find myself feeling like I can't wait until they leave (or we leave a gathering etc) so I can just put on my sweats, flop on the couch and veg. I crave silence and quiet and relaxing and being alone (alone with dh and dd i mean and not in a group)
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Hofstra26
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Hofstra26
As I've gotten older I feel more inclined to want to be home and to socialize less. Life is hectic, things are sometimes non-stop and I crave home and down time with DH more than anything. feel most relaxed when I am on the couch, in cozy pjs and I can just "be". It's nice to just exist in quiet sometimes.
YES! 100%. Sometimes when people are over I actually pretend I am going to the bathroom and go in my bedroom, shut the door and lie on the bed, in silence for 5 minutes- just to get away from everyone and being "on".
I find myself feeling like I can't wait until they leave (or we leave a gathering etc) so I can just put on my sweats, flop on the couch and veg. I crave silence and quiet and relaxing and being alone (alone with dh and dd i mean and not in a group)
Yes!!!!! I use to love to have people over and entertain and now when I do, I'm counting the minutes until everyone leaves and it's quiet again. I feel bad feeling that way but honestly, it wears me down these days. Just give me a cool, crisp breeze through an open window while snuggled under a blanket with some hot tea, a good book or tv show, and my DH and I'm good to go. That to me is better than literally any social gathering at this point in time. I guess that makes me anti-social but I've come to terms with that.
I've lost touch with a few good friends too in the process. I guess I felt like I didn't have much in common anymore, we gradually grew apart. It makes me sad sometimes when I think about it but I feel like that is just where I am at this stage in my life. I am very content with the simple things. I prefer the cozy quiet of my house to almost everything else nowadays.
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Hofstra26
As I've gotten older I feel more inclined to want to be home and to socialize less. Life is hectic, things are sometimes non-stop and I crave home and down time with DH more than anything. feel most relaxed when I am on the couch, in cozy pjs and I can just "be". It's nice to just exist in quiet sometimes.
YES! 100%. Sometimes when people are over I actually pretend I am going to the bathroom and go in my bedroom, shut the door and lie on the bed, in silence for 5 minutes- just to get away from everyone and being "on".
I find myself feeling like I can't wait until they leave (or we leave a gathering etc) so I can just put on my sweats, flop on the couch and veg. I crave silence and quiet and relaxing and being alone (alone with dh and dd i mean and not in a group)
I do this too! I need to recharge or something when there's too many people around.
They all must think that I have to go take a dump or something HAHAHAHA because I'll disappear for a good 5-10 minutes and I come back smiling LMAO
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mommy2be716
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
Posted by NervousNell
Not sure about quieter, I feel like I am more anti social as I have gotten older.
Like it's getting REALLY bad.
Like I want to go live in a cave somewhere away from all humans.
I feel exactly the same way. Have no interest in going out to happy hours, or any sort of get-togethers really. My ideal Sat night is ordering in a nice dinner and watching movies, or sitting out back by the firepit with Dh.
I just don't like to go out and converse with people, because I honestly just don't really care about 99% of the conversations people are having. Small talk is useless, shutup about how you hate trump, etc etc. I just would rather watch the real housewives and drink my wine lol
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Adri
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
I have. I don't want to have endless conversations when I disagree with someone, because I know no one is going to change the way they think at this point in life. If they have different opinions I just listen -and later I share with DH and then is when I talk lol.
Also, I don't socialize that much. I got just invited to a costume party this Saturday, and tbh, I just prefer to be home in my pj's watching a movie. I loved going out before, but now not so much, and it gets worse when it gets cold.
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| Posted 10/19/17 8:49 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
Posted by mommy2be716
Posted by NervousNell
Not sure about quieter, I feel like I am more anti social as I have gotten older.
Like it's getting REALLY bad.
Like I want to go live in a cave somewhere away from all humans.
I feel exactly the same way. Have no interest in going out to happy hours, or any sort of get-togethers really. My ideal Sat night is ordering in a nice dinner and watching movies, or sitting out back by the firepit with Dh.
I just don't like to go out and converse with people, because I honestly just don't really care about 99% of the conversations people are having. Small talk is useless, shutup about how you hate trump, etc etc. I just would rather watch the real housewives and drink my wine lol
This. I just want to be alone. DH is watching the knicks game right now and yelling like they can hear him so I wish I could get rid of him, too. DD can stay because she's adorable. And asleep 
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bella321
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
I feel that I have become MORE social, outgoing and certainly confident as I get older. I have more experience to draw from, more ideas and, just more in general, things to talk about. When I was younger, I definitely struggled with being social. Now, I go to parties and talk to complete strangers and have a great time.
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jellybelly79
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
Posted by Mags1227
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Yes I do
I also feel like lately I have nothing to say and have nothing in common with my group of friends anymore....my DH thank goodness is my best friend and I have tons to talk about with him but I could sit alone all day and night with a book or the tv/movie or a coloring book for days on end.
maybe something is wrong with me
I dont know if I answered your question in the way you were looking for actually lol
twinning!
add some tea in my owl cup and you've just described my perfect evening 
lol so funny def twinning because I LOVE Owls too
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gina409
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
Posted by bella321
I feel that I have become MORE social, outgoing and certainly confident as I get older. I have more experience to draw from, more ideas and, just more in general, things to talk about. When I was younger, I definitely struggled with being social. Now, I go to parties and talk to complete strangers and have a great time.
Same
I'm a people person. Always have been
My husband laughs at me bc I talk to everyone
The person in line with me at the supermarket
The receptionist
Neighbors
Mom's at the park
Etc
I don't know. Just who I am. I love meeting new people
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Have you become quieter as you have gotten older?
See, the way I feel about the notion of confidence being brought up is the opposite of what a couple posters have experienced, and it's interesting.
In my early 20's, I was more social because I wasn't as confident -- as in, I'd force myself to attend certain events because "it's the right thing to do" or socialize with people I didn't care for because that's what everyone else was doing. I felt backed into a corner and would go along with the plans.
As I've gotten older (now 36), my confidence got a lot stronger (of course it has taken its hits at times, life is fun that way) and I am even more comfortable with myself and my decisions. I won't appease people by going to things I truly don't want to attend and I don't needlessly chat out of nervousness like I used to at times.
But everyone's different. For some of us, the confidence growth was more about keeping things small and simple, appeasing ourselves before others.
For others, they grow by casting a wide net and being the types that make even people like me feel comfortable with their natural interest in learning about people.
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