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Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
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Re: Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
Posted by Sash
Posted by ourhappysurprise2012
I let DS CIO this moring for a nap because he was exhausted and wouldn't sleep at all. I had to leave for work while he was still crying. 5 minutes later my nanny called me, he stopped and proceeded to take one of the longest naps he ever had in his crib. I have been sitting at my desk with a knot in my stomach about to cry for the past few hours. Thanks for the insensitive post
Your child was crying because he was cranky and overly tired. You had to go to work to support your family and give your child things that he will cherish. Do NOT let any person make you feel like crap about that or any stupid ignorant post on an article that is hurtful and full of BS. This articles sole intent is to make people who have an opposing view feel like crap. I'm sure your DS woke up happy and refreshed and he did stop crying 5 minutes after you left.
You know what works for you and your family, don't let anyone diminish that.
Thank you 
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petvet
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Re: Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
Sometimes we need to do things for our children that won't always make them happy but in the long run may be in their best interest. I bet I could write the same thing about car seats from the point of view of a newborn/baby that would that make us feel "guilty" for using them. I know that my DS hates these things more then life itself and no amount of CIO makes him like his car seat more. In contrast short, controlled periods of crying around 7 months of age has helped him become a much happier and well rested 18 month old.
For example:
Dear mom, I love being with you. For 9 months you carried me everywhere. When I was afraid, I was never far from your heart and rested in the safe warm environment of your body. Now as you strap me into this scary, hard, cold contraption pinning my body to an unfamiliar location I just don't understand. Then even worse you won't even look at me. I am placed into a scary bumpy vehicle with only the seat to stare at. Where have you gone? I cry out for you but you won't come save me. I am screaming now and still you don't come. In fact you turn the music up louder to drown out my cries. I am still pinned down and panicking now. You keep repeating it will be ok but it is not making me feel any better. Why can't I see you, why why won't you just turn me around?? I don't understand why you have suddenly abandoned me when I am frightened and alone.
Signed your frightened child
I don't think anyone here would argue that the car seat is not something up for debate despite the fact many babies don't tolerate them well.
PS just food for thought. I don't think that posting these types of vivid (likely unrealistic) point of views made up by adults are helping any mom's dealing with the challenges of raising a baby. We are NOT talking about child abuse situations here.
Good luck to all mommies out there doing the best to raise their babies!
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| Posted 11/4/13 4:59 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
Posted by Avuteli
I soooo agree with the writer :))
http://www.alternative-mama.com/a-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby/
Dear mommy,
I am confused.
I am used to falling asleep in your soft, warm arms. Each night I lay snuggled close to you; close enough to hear your heartbeat, close enough to smell your sweet fragrance. I gaze at your beautiful face as I gently drift off to sleep, safe and secure in your loving embrace. When I awaken with a growling stomach, cold feet or because I need a cuddle, you attend to me quickly and before long I am sound asleep once again.
But this last week has been different.
Each night this week has gone like this. You tucked me up into my cot and kissed me goodnight, turned out the light and left. At first I was confused, wondering where you’d gone. Soon I became scared, and called for you. I called and called for you mummy, but you wouldn’t come! I was so sad, mummy. I wanted you so badly. I’ve never felt feelings that strong before. Where did you go?
Eventually you came back! Oh, how happy and relieved I was that you came back! I thought you had left me forever! I reached up to you but you wouldn’t pick me up. You wouldn’t even look me in the eye. You lay me back down with those soft warm arms, said “shh, it’s night time now” and left again.
This happened again, over and over. I screamed for you and after a while, longer each time, you would return but you wouldn’t hold me.
After I had screamed a while, I had to stop. My throat hurt so badly. My head was pounding and my tiny tummy was growling. My heart hurt the most, though. I just couldn’t understand why you wouldn’t come.
After what felt like a lifetime of nights like this, I gave up. You don’t come when I scream, and when you do finally come you won’t even look me in the eye, let alone hold my shaking, sobbing little body. The screaming hurt too much to carry on for very long.
I just don’t understand, mummy. In the daytime when I fall and bump my head, you pick me up and kiss it better. If I am hungry, you feed me. If I crawl over to you for a cuddle, you read my mind and scoop me up, covering my tiny face with kisses and telling me how special I am and how much you love me. If I need you, you respond to me straight away.
But at night time, when it’s dark and quiet and my night-light casts strange shadows on my wall, you disappear. I can see that you’re tired, mummy, but I love you so much. I just want to be near to you, that’s all.
Now, at night time, I am quiet. But I still miss you.
Written by Imogen O’Reilly
Read more: http://www.alternative-mama.com/a-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby/#ixzz2jY7QL8Ca
 I'm sorry but this letter is silly. It is written as if babies are able to have rational thoughts. They are BABIES!!! Do you think they are able to remember that they cried for 10 minutes before bed the night before???!! They can't remember what they did an hour ago!!
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| Posted 11/4/13 6:40 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
Christ.
You know how many "letters from baby" could be written to attack the heartstrings like this? How about:
Mummy, why do you let those bad people stab needles into my body when we go to the doctor?
Mummy, why must you wean me from your bosom? Don't you know it's my one happiness in life?
Mummy, why must I sleep in a crib when all I want is to lay in your bed forever and ever?
LOL.
sorry...these types of things irk the hell out of me. Lets make moms feel bad by writing a letter from the perspective of an infant.
CIO was the best thing I ever did when my second son was 5 months old. After nights of him waking up every hour or two screaming, we bit the bullet...did CIO..and within 2 days we had a new child who slept PEACEFULLY throughout the night, we were refreshed and happy and he didn't suffer any long term effects. one of the happiest and well adjusted kids I know.
People do what works for them. Sometimes you have to resort to things that you may not necessarily WANT to do, but need to for sanity purposes.
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| Posted 11/4/13 9:45 PM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
This is absurd. An adult writing an article as the voice of a baby? For real?
How many of you had parents that let you CIO? How many of you are still harboring resentment towards your parents for letting you CIO? I want a show of hands.
Message edited 11/4/2013 10:39:23 PM.
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| Posted 11/4/13 10:38 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
Wow.. this sucks. And I'm Anti-CIO and this is just wrong on so many levels.
I co-slept with AJ and she's fine. Yes, I think crying that hard is not ideal but no way in HELL would I judge another parent for it, much less put something like this out there in the world.
Hey if you're strong enough to listen to those cries AND if it works for you and your family behind YOUR closed doors then more power to you. We all raise our kids our own way, I'm sure (positively CERTAIN) I do stuff other parents here would just 'never' do. Does it make me less of a mom or AJ somehow less normal?
Who comes up with this crap?
I have seen the letter where the babies team up to get mom to pick them up via lack of sleep. I think its funny. This letter is just cruel.
AND its actually why people won't listen to us who choose to co-sleep. Way to tarnish the idea of co-sleeping with some horrible guilt trip nonsense like this.
If you can't be informative, no need to be spiteful.
If you had posted the article of the crying and brain cells, crying and stress indicators, fine, you have science to back you up, but even then its still not attacking people's choices, its telling them information so they can make their OWN choices with their OWN children.
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| Posted 11/5/13 9:28 AM |
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Re: Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
Posted by Xelindrya
This letter is just cruel.
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| Posted 11/5/13 9:51 AM |
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evenedan
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Re: Great read... A-letter-from-a-sleep-training-baby
Posted by maybebaby
Christ.
You know how many "letters from baby" could be written to attack the heartstrings like this? How about:
Mummy, why do you let those bad people stab needles into my body when we go to the doctor?
Mummy, why must you wean me from your bosom? Don't you know it's my one happiness in life?
Mummy, why must I sleep in a crib when all I want is to lay in your bed forever and ever?
LOL.
sorry...these types of things irk the hell out of me. Lets make moms feel bad by writing a letter from the perspective of an infant.
CIO was the best thing I ever did when my second son was 5 months old. After nights of him waking up every hour or two screaming, we bit the bullet...did CIO..and within 2 days we had a new child who slept PEACEFULLY throughout the night, we were refreshed and happy and he didn't suffer any long term effects. one of the happiest and well adjusted kids I know.
People do what works for them. Sometimes you have to resort to things that you may not necessarily WANT to do, but need to for sanity purposes.
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| Posted 11/5/13 10:09 AM |
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