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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
I have a question.
It seems many of those who offered up time, volunteering, $ and other support - at one point or another - felt that something was off, that something didn't seem right. I say this based on what I have read here.
Why did the help continue? If I was helping some woman who seemed to be not all there, and I was knee-deep in mold and god knows what else, and she was outside lounging in the sun, I'd probably stop and wonder WTF is going on.
I'm not faulting anyone for helping, I think it was great you all banned together and it's easy for me to say what I think I'd do when I wasn't in your shoes, but can anyone give an idea of why this behavior continued to be supported and enabled?
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsMBV
LB, marry me 
Where's my ring???  
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timefortwo
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
please stop.
phew, i feel better. haven't seen one of those in a while.
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| Posted 3/25/12 5:50 PM |
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tara73
carseat nerd
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by cncforever
I have a question.
It seems many of those who offered up time, volunteering, $ and other support - at one point or another - felt that something was off, that something didn't seem right. I say this based on what I have read here.
Why did the help continue? If I was helping some woman who seemed to be not all there, and I was knee-deep in mold and god knows what else, and she was outside lounging in the sun, I'd probably stop and wonder WTF is going on.
I'm not faulting anyone for helping, I think it was great you all banned together and it's easy for me to say what I think I'd do when I wasn't in your shoes, but can anyone give an idea of why this behavior continued to be supported and enabled?
I'm going with pure human nature. No one wants to be the one to say it, what if they're wrong? Do they want to be 'the jerk' picking on the widow? So everyone sits and looks at the big white elephant in the room. People probably slowly backed away, stopped helping, stopped being her friend etc. People started to whisper about it, but no one really said it publicly. I imagine that this situation erupted over many years not over a few weeks.
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| Posted 3/25/12 6:05 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
ahhh so this "LIF legend of Janet" unfolds. I never knew who people were talking about when they used to claim every troll was "Janet". crazy stuff
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| Posted 3/25/12 6:11 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Honestly? We thought she was medicating to deal with her loss. It was still really new. I don't think any of us thought to judge at the time b/c I don't think we knew how someone *should* act.
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| Posted 3/25/12 6:13 PM |
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klingklang77
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by tarabelle99
Posted by cncforever
I have a question.
It seems many of those who offered up time, volunteering, $ and other support - at one point or another - felt that something was off, that something didn't seem right. I say this based on what I have read here.
Why did the help continue? If I was helping some woman who seemed to be not all there, and I was knee-deep in mold and god knows what else, and she was outside lounging in the sun, I'd probably stop and wonder WTF is going on.
I'm not faulting anyone for helping, I think it was great you all banned together and it's easy for me to say what I think I'd do when I wasn't in your shoes, but can anyone give an idea of why this behavior continued to be supported and enabled?
I'm going with pure human nature. No one wants to be the one to say it, what if they're wrong? Do they want to be 'the jerk' picking on the widow? So everyone sits and looks at the big white elephant in the room. People probably slowly backed away, stopped helping, stopped being her friend etc. People started to whisper about it, but no one really said it publicly. I imagine that this situation erupted over many years not over a few weeks.
I agree. I was on LIW for only about 2 months when he died. It was shocking, but I didn't donate b/c I just didn't know her and I didn't have money at the time.
As time went on, she asked for more and more stuff. I didn't say anything b/c I didn't want to be mean. After a few years, it was like come on already. I also noticed less people replied to her threads.
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MsMBV
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by tarabelle99
Posted by cncforever
I have a question.
It seems many of those who offered up time, volunteering, $ and other support - at one point or another - felt that something was off, that something didn't seem right. I say this based on what I have read here.
Why did the help continue? If I was helping some woman who seemed to be not all there, and I was knee-deep in mold and god knows what else, and she was outside lounging in the sun, I'd probably stop and wonder WTF is going on.
I'm not faulting anyone for helping, I think it was great you all banned together and it's easy for me to say what I think I'd do when I wasn't in your shoes, but can anyone give an idea of why this behavior continued to be supported and enabled?
I'm going with pure human nature. No one wants to be the one to say it, what if they're wrong? Do they want to be 'the jerk' picking on the widow? So everyone sits and looks at the big white elephant in the room. People probably slowly backed away, stopped helping, stopped being her friend etc. People started to whisper about it, but no one really said it publicly. I imagine that this situation erupted over many years not over a few weeks.
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
That's the problem with all of the policing that goes on here. Could you really imagine someone calling out a new widow, or even so much as suggesting that maybe a new widow, who has a child, was undeserving of the help? C'mon, now. Here you have someone who is a proven POS and you still have others (who are well aware of what went down) still defending her on a certain level. So if known shitbags get defended, why would ANYONE think it would be worth the drama to call out a new widow?!
Reminds me so much of the DebMaher drama (back in 2005) - a bunch of us knew she was a fake and was posting on LIF under a new name (when LIF first started) but "she" ( still don't know if it was really a man or woman) had told a couple of posters that she had cancer. Now, things were much less PC and not everyone needed to walk on eggshells All.the.time. to worry about offending people, but even then, none of us were going to call her out. Then the shit hits the fan, and people ask why no one said anything. Well....why do you think?! lol
Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Such is the psychotic nature that is LIF 
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| Posted 3/25/12 6:33 PM |
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsKS511
I'm still not banned. And I have ALWAYS adored you, Skew <3.
Aww thanks!  Hope your stay here will be permanent. 
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| Posted 3/25/12 6:56 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by neenie
That's the problem with all of the policing that goes on here. Could you really imagine someone calling out a new widow, or even so much as suggesting that maybe a new widow, who has a child, was undeserving of the help? C'mon, now. Here you have someone who is a proven POS and you still have others (who are well aware of what went down) still defending her on a certain level. So if known shitbags get defended, why would ANYONE think it would be worth the drama to call out a new widow?!
Reminds me so much of the DebMaher drama (back in 2005) - a bunch of us knew she was a fake and was posting on LIF under a new name (when LIF first started) but "she" ( still don't know if it was really a man or woman) had told a couple of posters that she had cancer. Now, things were much less PC and not everyone needed to walk on eggshells All.the.time. to worry about offending people, but even then, none of us were going to call her out. Then the shit hits the fan, and people ask why no one said anything. Well....why do you think?! lol
Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Such is the psychotic nature that is LIF
I almost got the boot from this site for posting a thread with a link showing that Costco sold caskets and how I thought it was funny. I didn't mention Janet or anyone else, just posted the link because I thought it was funny.
Apparently, this offended none other than Janet and she reported it - I know this for a fact, mind you it was YEARS after Keith's death so that goes to show just how much people walked on eggshells for her.
Janet being called out for her bull shit is LONG overdue. I really hope this makes those who cry "bully" think twice.
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Useless tidbit number 5321:
Cyber bullying only applies to minors
When adults are involved, it's called "cyber harassment"
I didn't completely sleep through the required online training for work 
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| Posted 3/25/12 7:33 PM |
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luvsbob4603
To a healthy 2013
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by skew
Posted by MsKS511
I'm still not banned. And I have ALWAYS adored you, Skew <3.
Aww thanks! Hope your stay here will be permanent.
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| Posted 3/25/12 7:38 PM |
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Phyl
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by neenie
That's the problem with all of the policing that goes on here. Could you really imagine someone calling out a new widow, or even so much as suggesting that maybe a new widow, who has a child, was undeserving of the help? C'mon, now. Here you have someone who is a proven POS and you still have others (who are well aware of what went down) still defending her on a certain level. So if known shitbags get defended, why would ANYONE think it would be worth the drama to call out a new widow?!
Reminds me so much of the DebMaher drama (back in 2005) - a bunch of us knew she was a fake and was posting on LIF under a new name (when LIF first started) but "she" ( still don't know if it was really a man or woman) had told a couple of posters that she had cancer. Now, things were much less PC and not everyone needed to walk on eggshells All.the.time. to worry about offending people, but even then, none of us were going to call her out. Then the shit hits the fan, and people ask why no one said anything. Well....why do you think?! lol
Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Such is the psychotic nature that is LIF
I almost got the boot from this site for posting a thread with a link showing that Costco sold caskets and how I thought it was funny. I didn't mention Janet or anyone else, just posted the link because I thought it was funny.
Apparently, this offended none other than Janet and she reported it - I know this for a fact, mind you it was YEARS after Keith's death so that goes to show just how much people walked on eggshells for her.
Janet being called out for her bull shit is LONG overdue. I really hope this makes those who cry "bully" think twice.
I totally remember that thread!
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by Phyl
Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by neenie
That's the problem with all of the policing that goes on here. Could you really imagine someone calling out a new widow, or even so much as suggesting that maybe a new widow, who has a child, was undeserving of the help? C'mon, now. Here you have someone who is a proven POS and you still have others (who are well aware of what went down) still defending her on a certain level. So if known shitbags get defended, why would ANYONE think it would be worth the drama to call out a new widow?!
Reminds me so much of the DebMaher drama (back in 2005) - a bunch of us knew she was a fake and was posting on LIF under a new name (when LIF first started) but "she" ( still don't know if it was really a man or woman) had told a couple of posters that she had cancer. Now, things were much less PC and not everyone needed to walk on eggshells All.the.time. to worry about offending people, but even then, none of us were going to call her out. Then the shit hits the fan, and people ask why no one said anything. Well....why do you think?! lol
Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Such is the psychotic nature that is LIF
I almost got the boot from this site for posting a thread with a link showing that Costco sold caskets and how I thought it was funny. I didn't mention Janet or anyone else, just posted the link because I thought it was funny.
Apparently, this offended none other than Janet and she reported it - I know this for a fact, mind you it was YEARS after Keith's death so that goes to show just how much people walked on eggshells for her.
Janet being called out for her bull shit is LONG overdue. I really hope this makes those who cry "bully" think twice.
I totally remember that thread!
Dude, that thread was SUCH a shit storm and it was all over NOTHING. 
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by Phyl
Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by neenie
That's the problem with all of the policing that goes on here. Could you really imagine someone calling out a new widow, or even so much as suggesting that maybe a new widow, who has a child, was undeserving of the help? C'mon, now. Here you have someone who is a proven POS and you still have others (who are well aware of what went down) still defending her on a certain level. So if known shitbags get defended, why would ANYONE think it would be worth the drama to call out a new widow?!
Reminds me so much of the DebMaher drama (back in 2005) - a bunch of us knew she was a fake and was posting on LIF under a new name (when LIF first started) but "she" ( still don't know if it was really a man or woman) had told a couple of posters that she had cancer. Now, things were much less PC and not everyone needed to walk on eggshells All.the.time. to worry about offending people, but even then, none of us were going to call her out. Then the shit hits the fan, and people ask why no one said anything. Well....why do you think?! lol
Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Such is the psychotic nature that is LIF
I almost got the boot from this site for posting a thread with a link showing that Costco sold caskets and how I thought it was funny. I didn't mention Janet or anyone else, just posted the link because I thought it was funny.
Apparently, this offended none other than Janet and she reported it - I know this for a fact, mind you it was YEARS after Keith's death so that goes to show just how much people walked on eggshells for her.
Janet being called out for her bull shit is LONG overdue. I really hope this makes those who cry "bully" think twice.
I totally remember that thread!
Dude, that thread was SUCH a shit storm and it was all over NOTHING.
As were many of the Janet related threads
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by HoneyBadger
I almost got the boot from this site for posting a thread with a link showing that Costco sold caskets and how I thought it was funny. .
Does it say "Kirkland Signature" on the side??
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Kris
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
I always thought she was one to beg constantly and take advantage. As an aside- what happened with DebG? That wasn't real about her having cancer??? I totally fell for that one.
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by HoneyBadger
I almost got the boot from this site for posting a thread with a link showing that Costco sold caskets and how I thought it was funny. .
Does it say "Kirkland Signature" on the side??
I snorted.
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by Kris
I always thought she was one to beg constantly and take advantage. As an aside- what happened with DebG? That wasn't real about her having cancer??? I totally fell for that one.
No, DebG is an amazing person and her cancer is unfortunately very real. DebMaher was way before any of this- back on LIW then came back when LIF was started. Two very, very different posters.
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by HoneyBadger
I almost got the boot from this site for posting a thread with a link showing that Costco sold caskets and how I thought it was funny. .
Does it say "Kirkland Signature" on the side??
Pssh...noooo.
Costco is classy. The "Kirkland Signature" was on the INSIDE of the coffin, duh.
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Kris
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by neenie
Posted by Kris
I always thought she was one to beg constantly and take advantage. As an aside- what happened with DebG? That wasn't real about her having cancer??? I totally fell for that one.
No, DebG is an amazing person and her cancer is unfortunately very real. DebMaher was way before any of this- back on LIW then came back when LIF was started. Two very, very different posters.
Oh ok, while I am not glad she has cancer I am glad it was real. This is not coming out right- I hope you know what I mean. Thanks for clearing that up! I always felt for her.
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tara73
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by HoneyBadger
I almost got the boot from this site for posting a thread with a link showing that Costco sold caskets and how I thought it was funny. .
Does it say "Kirkland Signature" on the side??
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KristenRSF
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Thank you Ron, Liz and Kim for letting my stay. I shall be on my best behavior and contribute and abide by the rules.
I sincerely appreciate it
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure
Posted by MsKS511
Thank you Ron, Liz and Kim for letting my stay. I shall be on my best behavior and contribute and abide by the rules.
I sincerely appreciate it
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