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Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

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Blazesyth
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by Kazuri

The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.



Maybe they are afraid she would go for legal action again. I haven't read the membership agreement/TOS lately, I forget if they say that they reserve the right to ban anyone for any reason.

Posted 3/24/12 11:44 AM
 
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JenniferEver
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

I'm not trying to change minds, just to clarify what i mean, because heaven forbid someone on the the interwebz doesn't understand me!

I just feel sad, that as you said, our community is maybe something less than what it once was because of it, and it's still having a negative impact.

Posted 3/24/12 11:47 AM
 

HeathKernandez
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by JenniferEver

I'm not trying to change minds, just to clarify what i mean, because heaven forbid someone on the the interwebz doesn't understand me!

I just feel sad, that as you said, our community is maybe something less than what it once was because of it, and it's still having a negative impact.



Just turn the computer off...

See? No more sadness!

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Posted 3/24/12 11:50 AM
 

JenniferEver
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by HeathKernandez


Just turn the computer off...

See? No more sadness!

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This thing has an "off" button?

Posted 3/24/12 11:52 AM
 

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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by Blazesyth

Posted by Kazuri

The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.



Maybe they are afraid she would go for legal action again. I haven't read the membership agreement/TOS lately, I forget if they say that they reserve the right to ban anyone for any reason.



This was my thought too.

Posted 3/24/12 11:54 AM
 

HeathKernandez
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by HeathKernandez


Just turn the computer off...

See? No more sadness!

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This thing has an "off" button?




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Posted 3/24/12 11:55 AM
 

JenniferEver
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by HeathKernandez

Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by HeathKernandez


Just turn the computer off...

See? No more sadness!

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This thing has an "off" button?




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I'm working for my 2 jobs, listening to Pandora, and acting self-righteous on LIF. I couldn't do any of that without this computer!

Posted 3/24/12 11:58 AM
 

Porrruss
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Not going to continue the drama by slinging mud, but wanted to put this out there.

Keith's death and the LIF fundraiser occurred very early in LIF's life. Remember, LIF only started in May 2005. The population on LIF back then was basically just newlyweds from LIW. I wasn't even really active (but was a member) because I was still posting on LIW.

"THIS" (hands whirling over head) was a TEENSY close-knit community at the time. There were barely a few hundred posters. EVERYONE *knew* each other from LIW. When Keith died, EVERYONE felt it. Everyone pulled together because Janet needed help. Later, when it became evident that Janet had less than honest intentions, it hurt and angered a number of people. It tainted this community.

So yes, some people aren't going to ever let this go because they were personally hurt by it.

Posted 3/24/12 12:03 PM
 

mylovesX3
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Despite the fact that my profile is new, I've been around for a while and know most of this story.

Why are you all feeding into her BS? What would annoy her most of all, is if we all just ignored her.

Posted 3/24/12 12:29 PM
 

saraH
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Holy shit! I had no idea it went this deep.

She should be ashamed of herself.

Posted 3/24/12 12:41 PM
 

headoverheels
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by Blazesyth

Posted by Kazuri

The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.



Maybe they are afraid she would go for legal action again. I haven't read the membership agreement/TOS lately, I forget if they say that they reserve the right to ban anyone for any reason.



I won't pretend to know what they are thinking but if I ran LIF and a member had pulled all this shit over the years, I'd be more than happy to leave this post up so everyone could see what a pathetic, lying, conniving loser she really is.


Posted 3/24/12 1:45 PM
 

saraH
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by headoverheels

Posted by Blazesyth

Posted by Kazuri

The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.



Maybe they are afraid she would go for legal action again. I haven't read the membership agreement/TOS lately, I forget if they say that they reserve the right to ban anyone for any reason.



I won't pretend to know what they are thinking but if I ran LIF and a member had pulled all this shit over the years, I'd be more than happy to leave this post up so everyone could see what a pathetic, lying, conniving loser she really is.





Ita, LIF is definitely letting Janet stew in her own sauce on this one.

Posted 3/24/12 1:55 PM
 

ItsTime2011
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by Blazesyth

Posted by Kazuri

The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.



Maybe they are afraid she would go for legal action again. I haven't read the membership agreement/TOS lately, I forget if they say that they reserve the right to ban anyone for any reason.



Because you asked. Here is is straight from their rules.
"Long Island Families, Inc. reserves the right to terminate your access to any of these areas at any time without notice for any reason whatsoever."
So YES - they can ban anyone at anytime. The fact that they haven't is probably a combination of 2 things
(1) They are letting enough information get out so the newbies get the whole story and
(2) It IS the weekend. Chat Icon

Posted 3/24/12 2:36 PM
 

iluvmynutty
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

They should just Pin this thread so that everyone wont have to go through this every March. Newbies will have the info: Beware of Janet and the posters effected by her behavior wont have to explain the details of the past over and over again.....

Posted 3/24/12 3:13 PM
 

lipglossjunky73
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

The only reason this thread is still up is because on the weekends, the lunatics run the asylum. Chat Icon

Posted 3/24/12 3:17 PM
 

PrincessP
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by dm24angel

I think that FINALLY it was described for all to see and understand. The last two pages explained to those who didn't know, what went down and they were able to make their own minds up about how they felt.

That is IMHO how you call someone out Chat Icon

Good job K for not losing your shit and saying it just how it was.

Absolutely agree! On a side note I cant figure out who the heck mrsk is and I KNOW I have to know who she is, I cant figure it out though. One clue makes me think Morgan, but I dont think so. I cant figure out what went down on this one and I know I should know this person. No clue who was banned bc of janet.

Posted 3/24/12 3:17 PM
 

BallerinaGirl
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by iluvmynutty

They should just Pin this thread so that everyone wont have to go through this every March. Newbies will have the info: Beware of Janet and the posters effected by her behavior wont have to explain the details of the past over and over again.....




Holla!Chat Icon

Posted 3/24/12 3:17 PM
 

lipglossjunky73
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by HeathKernandez


Just turn the computer off...

See? No more sadness!

Chat Icon



This thing has an "off" button?


This made this whole thread worth the read as I sit in napping in car exile. I hope the thread doesn't get pulled for this alone!

Posted 3/24/12 3:19 PM
 

PrincessP
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by headoverheels

Posted by Blazesyth

Posted by Kazuri

The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.



Maybe they are afraid she would go for legal action again. I haven't read the membership agreement/TOS lately, I forget if they say that they reserve the right to ban anyone for any reason.



I won't pretend to know what they are thinking but if I ran LIF and a member had pulled all this shit over the years, I'd be more than happy to leave this post up so everyone could see what a pathetic, lying, conniving loser she really is.



I agree. However, I keep thinking using this method would show harassment and a law suit could happen, no? I mean in terms of people calling her mental, dyslexic, making fun of her family etc... and knowingly leaving it up.

Posted 3/24/12 3:21 PM
 

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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by JenniferEver

I'm .... acting self-righteous on LIF.




Finally! Something i could agree with you on Chat Icon I'm just kidding, but not really.

I dont understand why people feel justified in their actions of calling out people who call others out, but feel like the initial caller-outers are wrong. I dont understand people who are going on and on in this thread telling other people to move past it. And i dont understand grown ass women feeling like they have the right to tell other grown ass women how to feel/act/respond- especially coming from some that were not even involved in the initial BS all those years ago. But, there's lots of things i don't understand in life, so maybe someone here can feel pity and internet diagnose me as being mentally retarded. But anyway...

Can we speak about something more lighthearted? Like the time that Janet's "friend" came on to LIF and demanded that we get together 3 THOUSAND dollars for Janet so that she could have sperm extracted from Keith's body so that she could still have the option to have his baby. Cause that one always warms my heart Chat Icon

Posted 3/24/12 3:29 PM
 

Babymakin
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by Porrruss

Not going to continue the drama by slinging mud, but wanted to put this out there.

Keith's death and the LIF fundraiser occurred very early in LIF's life. Remember, LIF only started in May 2005. The population on LIF back then was basically just newlyweds from LIW. I wasn't even really active (but was a member) because I was still posting on LIW.

"THIS" (hands whirling over head) was a TEENSY close-knit community at the time. There were barely a few hundred posters. EVERYONE *knew* each other from LIW. When Keith died, EVERYONE felt it. Everyone pulled together because Janet needed help. Later, when it became evident that Janet had less than honest intentions, it hurt and angered a number of people. It tainted this community.

So yes, some people aren't going to ever let this go because they were personally hurt by it.




I have to say that this is the MOST thoughtful and well put together explination of this whole debacle.

Its an excellent clarification and tells me *everything* I need to know about why things are so heated against Janet.

Posted 3/24/12 3:32 PM
 

saraH
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by neenie

Posted by JenniferEver

I'm .... acting self-righteous on LIF.




Finally! Something i could agree with you on Chat Icon I'm just kidding, but not really.

I dont understand why people feel justified in their actions of calling out people who call others out, but feel like the initial caller-outers are wrong. I dont understand people who are going on and on in this thread telling other people to move past it. And i dont understand grown ass women feeling like they have the right to tell other grown ass women how to feel/act/respond- especially coming from some that were not even involved in the initial BS all those years ago. But, there's lots of things i don't understand in life, so maybe someone here can feel pity and internet diagnose me as being mentally retarded. But anyway...

Can we speak about something more lighthearted? Like the time that Janet's "friend" came on to LIF and demanded that we get together 3 THOUSAND dollars for Janet so that she could have sperm extracted from Keith's body so that she could still have the option to have his baby. Cause that one always warms my heart Chat Icon



I have my check book out, just waiting to hear where I should mail my "made out to cash" check. Chat Icon

Posted 3/24/12 3:40 PM
 

MsMBV
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by Little-J-Mommy

Posted by Kazuri

Posted by Lisa

Posted by JenniferEver


if you think janet is so horrible and lookng to start drama, next time she posts IGNORE it. Don't let her stir up drama/get attention if that's what you think she's trying to do.




because you are always going to have the newbies that will not ignore her only because they do not know what the past situation was. So then she will feel validated that she is "making a difference" and like any good carnie will look for her next mark.....



The easy solution would have been for TPTB to ban her. This whole thread could have been avoided and there would be no new marks for Janet to prey on. I'm confused why she is allowed to still post here after years of this behavior.




ITA about banning her!!!


Jennifer we ALL get that YOU don't think it's worth our time and energy responding to her, but that's NOT for you to decide. You've made your point and it's been acknowledged....sorry, but you're not changing any minds here.

To respond to an earlier poster....I think the board responded to Janet because of the sheer tragic events that unfolded in such a sudden fashion. I *believe* (and could be wrong) that it was the 1st time on LIF that anyone had dealt with the loss of a DH so publicly. I think it just struck a nerve with every.woman.here. That, OMG, it could happen to any of us fear and the people of LIF rallied to help this woman as if it was happening to them kwim? It was devastating to watch all the details as they unfolded and people just wanted to help.

For her to have taken that help and tainted it the way she did makes me sick. It is beyond a shame that none of those other ladies who have suffered tragedies were given the same type of support (fundraisers etc) because of this makes me even more sick.

. Carnie. Perfect.

Jennifer I'm pretty sure you know, since you've been around as,long as we have, that trying to tell a large group of angry and hurt LIFers how to handle a debacle this deep and wide is not going to go well. Just sayin.

I believe, if I remember correctly, Keith died very shortly after they married. - a few months after. Most of us were newlyweds, and felt the sting of that loss. But what was less obvious and what was overshadowed by the loss of her DH was prior to that she was frequently playing the woe is me, I'm a single mom card. Another way to get...attention, money, free shit...whatever.

Posted 3/24/12 3:53 PM
 

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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Some people should post PSAs, and some people should COME WITH PSAs tattooed on their foreheads.

Posted 3/24/12 3:54 PM
 

MsMBV
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Re: Dont care what you think of me as a person you have formed from others opinions but my GOAL is to make sure

Posted by colette

Some people should post PSAs, and some people should COME WITH PSAs tattooed on their foreheads.



It's true. Honestly i don't know why she is not banned, but i'll admit her nonsense along with a couple of real hardcore AW posters is why I originally stopped posting here.

Posted 3/24/12 3:59 PM
 
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