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LIMOMx2
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Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
daycare so she can have her "own" time?
ETA: I did below but she is not doing it for her child. She is doing it for herself and it will be FT. And money is tight and she will not get a job.
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maybebaby
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Posted by 5ofClubs
daycare so she can have her "own" time?
Hmmmm....this is one of those to each their own questions...I woudln't say its awful or wrong, just kind of defeats the purpose to me, lol. If you are a SAHM why would you pay for daycare you know? Most moms do daycare to work for their families.
If i needed alone time that badly, I would ask a friend or neighbor once in a while...or wait till daddy comes home. 
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yankinmanc
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
YES!! Thats what I would do if I stayed at home! Noah would go to nursery 2 days a week, when I have my second baby I still plan on sending him to nursery if he isn't in school first. If you can afford it, heck yeah! IMO Daycare is a good learning situation for kids, so its a great idea!
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dm24angel
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Hmmm...Hard to answer. I think sometimes daycare and interacting with others is good for a baby / child who is home with only his mom all the time. But I dont think it should be every day if the mom is home?
To have a break say once a week...sure. If I could afford one day a week of daycare and be a SAHM, it would be a dream...I could get so much done!
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pmpkn087
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Hmmm...difficult to say.
My opinion right now is: When the child is 2 years or older, daycare part time can't hurt especially if the child doesn't have any other siblings.
And, a little alone time for mommy isn't bad. When I was home for the week, I was so ready to come back to work because I was exhausted! 
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
I think the reason I think it is so wrong is because she is not doing it for the baby but for herself. So she can do get a mani, etc. I should have originally stated that.
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| Posted 8/10/07 12:06 PM |
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
It has crossed my mind but not for my own time but for him to interact with other children. I think 2 days a week each half days doesn't hurt. I don't agree with doing it for mommies time.
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
are you in my head? DH and I had this conversation last night. He was telling me that his friend just found out that his wife has their daughter in daycare for two days a week. He was upset because 1-he didn't know and 2-he felt that when they decided that she would stay home and not return to work it was to care for their daughter..not to pay other people to watch her.
My opinion...everyone needs their own time and if it helps mommy to be a better mommy then I am all for it. But for a family that has a tight budget with one salary - it's ridiculous (in my opinion) to have that extra expense.
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TiggerBounce
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Posted by maybebaby
Hmmmm....this is one of those to each their own questions...I woudln't say its awful or wrong, just kind of defeats the purpose to me, lol. If you are a SAHM why would you pay for daycare you know? Most moms do daycare to work for their families.
If i needed alone time that badly, I would ask a friend or neighbor once in a while...or wait till daddy comes home.
Yes, I agree it is a "to each his own" question, but not everyone has the luzury of a friend or neighbor to help out in those "bad" times.
I am in a situation like that. I am a SAHM and do not have too many resources for an "escape" to me time. I usually have to hold off until DH is off from work.
I would not see anything wrong with ssending my DS to daycare here and there. Like racheeee posted, I plan to do this when I have #2
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
sure! I think daycare is a very positive experience for kids and can be very valuable for those home with mommy all day, especially if they don't have interaction with other kids through playdates or classes or something.
I'm home during the summer with DD but we don't pay for daycare now. I kind of wish I could send her occassionally so I could get stuff done around the house. It wouldn't exactly be ME time, I'd be cleaning the carpets, windows, painting, etc!
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
I have a mother's helper 2 days a week for 3 hours each. That is my "me" time and it does wonders for the psyche.
I own my own business and work from home -- but sometimes you just need to get out alone.
I don't always do "me" stuff - I run errands which are just harder to do with her -- car seat in, car seat out, etc. Maybe I'll get a mani/pedi...whatever I need to do I get done.
I think it is up to each family to do what is right for them.
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pinkandblue
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
who are we to say what is right or wrong for any individual family situation? I think daycare is good for babies
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Marcie
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
I think it depends on the situation
Maybe if you don't have a neighbor or relative to watch your child.
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
sure, why not. Also it helps the child to begin to adjust to a social setting outside the home. And if it is a really good daycare, the child could be introduced to learning that it would not receive in the home.
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babymakes3
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
To each their own. If they were a SAHM and had their child in full time, then I'd wonder if that is still "me" time.
Personally, if I were a SAHM, I don't think I'd pay someone else to watch my kid. I'd make another mommy friend and I'd watch their kid one day a week for a few hours if they do the same for me.
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Posted by stephanief
who are we to say what is right or wrong for any individual family situation? I think daycare is good for babies
They are very tight on money and she want's the baby in daycare 4 days a week. Her DH is off Wed. And she doesn't want to get a job.
I guess that is what makes me so mad.
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pinkandblue
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by stephanief
who are we to say what is right or wrong for any individual family situation? I think daycare is good for babies
They are very tight on money and she want's the baby in daycare 4 days a week. Her DH is off Wed. And she doesn't want to get a job.
I guess that is what makes me so mad.
I guess I am not understanding why it makes YOU mad.....it is their life and their family, KWIM?
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yankinmanc
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by stephanief
who are we to say what is right or wrong for any individual family situation? I think daycare is good for babies
They are very tight on money and she want's the baby in daycare 4 days a week. Her DH is off Wed. And she doesn't want to get a job.
I guess that is what makes me so mad.
With all due respect, what business is it of yours how anyone else spends their money???
Not meaning to be nasty in any way, but sometimes I have to stop myself from judging other people by saying to myself...Why does it bother me that they do this? And very often, the real reason is that I am jealous....
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
It just does Not sure really why. Maybe because I would love to be a SAHM
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yankinmanc
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Posted by 5ofClubs
It just does Not sure really why. Maybe because I would love to be a SAHM
See, thats why I posted the second paragraph...sometimes, I am bothered because I am simply jealous!
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
I see nothing wrong with it. As long as it's only a few hours per week.
1/ Help children with social skills
2/ Give mommy some time for herself. It is quite amazing what a few hours to yourself can do. You feel all refreshed. Even if it's for a mani/pedi. Maybe those few hours are just what she needs.
It's hard being a mommy 24/7. I think having a few hours to yourself if what is needed sometimes to be keep your sanity.
I don't see the difference if the child is with family or friends or in daycare. If mom leaves her child with a friend or the daycare to do her nails, isn't it the same thing? She is having free time to herself.
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Sassyz75
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Posted by pmpkn087
Hmmm...difficult to say.
My opinion right now is: When the child is 2 years or older, daycare part time can't hurt especially if the child doesn't have any other siblings.
And, a little alone time for mommy isn't bad. When I was home for the week, I was so ready to come back to work because I was exhausted!
I agree.
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| Posted 8/10/07 12:19 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
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Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by stephanief
who are we to say what is right or wrong for any individual family situation? I think daycare is good for babies
They are very tight on money and she want's the baby in daycare 4 days a week. Her DH is off Wed. And she doesn't want to get a job.
I guess that is what makes me so mad.
With all due respect, what business is it of yours how anyone else spends their money???
Not meaning to be nasty in any way, but sometimes I have to stop myself from judging other people by saying to myself...Why does it bother me that they do this? And very often, the real reason is that I am jealous....
I def am jealous
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by stephanief
who are we to say what is right or wrong for any individual family situation? I think daycare is good for babies
They are very tight on money and she want's the baby in daycare 4 days a week. Her DH is off Wed. And she doesn't want to get a job.
I guess that is what makes me so mad.
Then I think given the situation it is very selfish of her to want to do that.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Do you think it's right for a SAHM to send her child to
One or two days a week - absolutely ok. It's good for the child too, IMO. And if it helps mommy stay sane - bonus.
Four days a week...well then no. Unless they are part time days - a couple of hours. And depends on the age of the child. At 6 mos old - it defeats the purpose of being a SAHM. 18 mos and up, heck even 1 yr and up - it is very beneficial to the child, IMO.
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