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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Posted by jellybean1420
I don't see the need either. I guess if you had multiples and you really needed the help then yeah. But if you are just doing it to get rest, well then heck, you'll need a baby nurse for a few months because they don't sleep through the night for a while Not to mention, I don't think I would want someone doing everything for my beautiful little baby. I think being invovled in every aspect of a baby's daily routine is all part of the bonding experience
ITA! I personally wouldnt want a stranger staying with me taking care of my baby. However, I can see needing one if you have a c-section or a rough recovery and do not have anyone to help. To be honest, I never even heard of baby nurse's until I joined LIF. I come from a pretty large family and noone in my family ever hired anyone to help them...if I ever told my parents or grandmother that I wanted to hire a nurse they would probably laugh at me! It definetely would not go over well. They follow the old school mentality, we all took care of our babies, you can take care of yours.
Excuse me, but I have to disagree. I didn't have a stranger taking care of my baby. I had a nurse - who has worked with many other members of my family assist me in getting comfortable in the adjustment of having a baby and properly caring for one.
I am a little horrified by these statements..."I personally wouldnt want a stranger staying with me taking care of my baby." and "we all took care of our babies, you can take care of yours".
Are you a full time stay at home mom? Do you expect everyone else to be because you don't think a "stranger" should be doing anything for your baby?
Having a baby is a HUGE adjustment, not everyone handles it the same way (or has the same experience) - you might not need help - but some other people do...how dare you make them feel bad about it.
To the OP: I am extrememly bonded to my daughter, the two weeks with some help was a g-dsend for me and I think actually helped my bonding experience and I certainly know it made the adjustment a little easier for me. If it is something you think you need don't let anyone make you feel bad about it...a happy mom is a good mom!!
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Posted by maybebaby
ITA!!!
It's so hard to respond without sounding judgmental...BUT this is my own personal take on it...
If you've had a terrible recovery with no help around you then I understand a baby nurse.
Otherwise, I think it is money out the window! Women have been having babies for years and years and figuring it out for themselves. What better way to learn about your baby and patterns and all the good stuff than to do it yourself?
My baby nurse was my husband. Lol. He helped with feedings, changing, letting me sleep. Never in my life did I dream of hiring and paying someone to do what we were very capable of doing.
I know I sound harsh, I just think long island is a different world...but then again my whole family is on long island and everyone has had multiple kids and never needed a nurse. I too never heard of a baby nurse before LIF!
Wow, I think some people are being really insensitive and judgmental to those who found it necessary and helpful to hire a baby nurse.
The fact is, 100, 200, 300 years ago, NO ONE was left to their own devices to raise a young baby by themselves. Women were surrounded by a huge network of other women to support them and assist through the process. We learned from our mothers, our cousins, our grandmothers, our aunts - what's that saying about it takes a village to raise a baby? There's a valid reason for that saying.
This kind of network of close-knit women who do nothing other than rush in and help raise a young baby for a new mom, just don't exist anymore - if they do, it's very infrequent. So, to compensate, we have to use whatever we can use to help us through the process.
For some, motherhood comes naturally - for many, MANY others, it doesn't. It's hard, depressing, uncomfortable and feels very, very unnatural. While some may have experienced an easy birth, many of us had to recover from grueling, painful SURGERY. While some of us eased naturally into caring for our baby without many impacts on our emotions, many of us dealt with post-partum depression. While some of us were blessed with easy, sleepy babies, many of us had collicky, no-sleep babies.
Who the heck is ANYONE to sit back and judge when we all know that raising and caring for a young infant is the most difficult thing in the world, particularly difficult considering many of us do NOT have the wisdom and assistance of family and other women?
I didn't have a baby nurse - I was lucky enough to have an amazing MIL who flew in from Israel and stayed with me for a month. If she hadn't, I certainly would have hired someone considering I was recovering from surgery and had NO idea what I was doing with my collicky, difficult baby.
I'd rather see many women succeed as mother's with the assistance of a baby nurse, than to keep reading about babies who wind up at the hospital because they've been shaken, or left in a garbage can.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Seriously the judgmental posts on this thread are just wrong. Every woman has a right to do what they want to do in those first few weeks after giving birth especially if you have the means to do it.
I had twins and did not have a nurse, but DH and I were really contemplating it after the babies were here. We didn't have the money, but the next time I will definately contemplate it. I also need my sleep and become and totally different person when i don't have it, so hiring someone to come for a few hours so i can be a better person and mommy are good for me.
In addition I had a c-section and recovery from that alone is tough enough.
In my situation, the first 2 months the babies were home were not a happy time for DH or I. The lack of sleep and exhaustion and everything else really made what should have been a very happy time in our life not so much. I feel I could have been a parent 10x better to them during the day if I could sleep at night so I will def consider this should we have more again. At least for the first few weeks.
I think everyone should realize that in no way any woman who gets a baby nurse is having a "stranger" take care of their newborn or they are any less of a mother, because you are very narrow minded if you do.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Posted by Ali1
Seriously the judgmental posts on this thread are just wrong. Every woman has a right to do what they want to do in those first few weeks after giving birth especially if you have the means to do it.
I had twins and did not have a nurse, but DH and I were really contemplating it after the babies were here. We didn't have the money, but the next time I will definately contemplate it. I also need my sleep and become and totally different person when i don't have it, so hiring someone to come for a few hours so i can be a better person and mommy are good for me.
In addition I had a c-section and recovery from that alone is tough enough.
In my situation, the first 2 months the babies were home were not a happy time for DH or I. The lack of sleep and exhaustion and everything else really made what should have been a very happy time in our life not so much. I feel I could have been a parent 10x better to them during the day if I could sleep at night so I will def consider this should we have more again. At least for the first few weeks.
I think everyone should realize that in no way any woman who gets a baby nurse is having a "stranger" take care of their newborn or they are any less of a mother, because you are very narrow minded if you do.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
The thing with baby nurses....I can totally understand getting one due to certain circumstances...having no help available, recovering from a painful delivery/c-section or severe post partum.
BUT....the first time I heard about a baby nurse was from a friend from HS who is very well off...and has already hired a nurse for her impending April delivery. Why did she hire a nurse? Because her friends in Manhattan all had them for their babies for the first 2 weeks to a month or longer to take care of the baby at night while they slept or to take care of the baby during the day while they got their own stuff done.
So to ME in those situations I just have to wonder. And you know what? It prob does make me judgmental in those situations...because I feel like in MOST situation where there is a normal birth with good recovery, most of us do it by ourselves and the thought of outside help doesn't cross our minds. It has nothing to do with money either...if I made a ton of money I'd STILL do it on my own unless like I stated outside circumstance required it.
Yes to each their own, i understand that. When my friend told me about the nurse I was just silent about it...I guess I just get confused because having a baby means there are going to be rough nights/not so easy adjustments and its just one of those things we all go through. That's all. When the nurse leaves she'll fend for herself and discover it on her own.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
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Posted by jellybean1420
I don't see the need either. I guess if you had multiples and you really needed the help then yeah. But if you are just doing it to get rest, well then heck, you'll need a baby nurse for a few months because they don't sleep through the night for a while Not to mention, I don't think I would want someone doing everything for my beautiful little baby. I think being invovled in every aspect of a baby's daily routine is all part of the bonding experience
ITA! I personally wouldnt want a stranger staying with me taking care of my baby. However, I can see needing one if you have a c-section or a rough recovery and do not have anyone to help. To be honest, I never even heard of baby nurse's until I joined LIF. I come from a pretty large family and noone in my family ever hired anyone to help them...if I ever told my parents or grandmother that I wanted to hire a nurse they would probably laugh at me! It definetely would not go over well. They follow the old school mentality, we all took care of our babies, you can take care of yours.
Excuse me, but I have to disagree. I didn't have a stranger taking care of my baby. I had a nurse - who has worked with many other members of my family assist me in getting comfortable in the adjustment of having a baby and properly caring for one.
I am a little horrified by these statements..."I personally wouldnt want a stranger staying with me taking care of my baby." and "we all took care of our babies, you can take care of yours".
Are you a full time stay at home mom? Do you expect everyone else to be because you don't think a "stranger" should be doing anything for your baby?
Having a baby is a HUGE adjustment, not everyone handles it the same way (or has the same experience) - you might not need help - but some other people do...how dare you make them feel bad about it.
To the OP: I am extrememly bonded to my daughter, the two weeks with some help was a g-dsend for me and I think actually helped my bonding experience and I certainly know it made the adjustment a little easier for me. If it is something you think you need don't let anyone make you feel bad about it...a happy mom is a good mom!!
I'm certainly not a full time SAHM, far from it. Just like you are entitled to your opinion, I'm entitled to mine. I didn't slam someone who wants I nurse, I offered my take on it and said it wasn't necessary for ME. Sorry that you don't like my opinion. Differing opinions is what makes the world go round 
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
I am a little horrified by these statements..."I personally wouldnt want a stranger staying with me taking care of my baby." and "we all took care of our babies, you can take care of yours".
I saw this one coming 
I was expressing my opinion. I said that I PERSONALLY wouldnt want to have someone in my house. I wouldnt feel comfortable. If someone else wants to hire a baby nurse that is their choice.
And you should re-read my original statement: "They follow the old school mentality, we all took care of our babies, you can take care of yours." I didnt say that was how I felt. I said that is how THEY (my parents, grandmother, etc.) feel. I have had this discussion before with them.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
The thing with baby nurses....I can totally understand getting one due to certain circumstances...having no help available, recovering from a painful delivery/c-section or severe post partum.
BUT....the first time I heard about a baby nurse was from a friend from HS who is very well off...and has already hired a nurse for her impending April delivery. Why did she hire a nurse? Because her friends in Manhattan all had them for their babies for the first 2 weeks to a month or longer to take care of the baby at night while they slept or to take care of the baby during the day while they got their own stuff done.
So to ME in those situations I just have to wonder. And you know what? It prob does make me judgmental in those situations...because I feel like in MOST situation where there is a normal birth with good recovery, most of us do it by ourselves and the thought of outside help doesn't cross our minds. It has nothing to do with money either...if I made a ton of money I'd STILL do it on my own unless like I stated outside circumstance required it.
Yes to each their own, i understand that. When my friend told me about the nurse I was just silent about it...I guess I just get confused because having a baby means there are going to be rough nights/not so easy adjustments and its just one of those things we all go through. That's all. When the nurse leaves she'll fend for herself and discover it on her own.
ITA!! Again if people read my post I said that I can understand hiring a baby nurse for certain reasons (such as c-section, hard recovery, post-partum etc.) but just to hire a nurse b/c they dont want to be sleep deprived or dont want to do certain things is ridiculous to me.
Regardless, I am entitled to express my opinion and I am in no way "narrow-minded" (as another posted stated).
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
So what if someone is well off and can afford help when they need it? Does that make them a bad mother? Certainly not. Does that make people who did it without the help of a nurse a better mother because "they took care of their own?" Certainly not.
I don't see ANY difference at all in hiring a baby nurse to assist with all the myriad of tasks that new mothers are overwhelmed with in the first month as opposed to accepting help from family or your husband.
To those who oppose the notion of a baby nurse, are you telling me you literally did EVERYTHING on your own? Your mother didn't come over to help you learn to BF? To do your laundyr? Cook a meal? Help you go shopping? Watch the baby while you take a much-needed nap? What is the difference, then, if you hire a baby nurse to assist with those very same things?
Take a moment and step outside of your shoes - there are many, many women out there who cannot or do not have family upon which they can rely. There are many, many women who rely on their husbands to work to financially support the family. Those women need the same support and assistance in those early days as other women who rely on their DH's or their family.
Can I just tell you, when I had Alex, what frightened me the most was the idea of getting in the car with her, handling her infant seat and somehow getting it into a cart, to go shopping. My MIL helped me navigate through everything - I can totally see why someone would need or want the same kind of assistance with errands and shopping with a baby nurse.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Posted by jellybean1420
ITA!! Again if people read my post I said that I can understand hiring a baby nurse for certain reasons (such as c-section, hard recovery, post-partum etc.) but just to hire a nurse b/c they dont want to be sleep deprived or dont want to do certain things is ridiculous to me.
Regardless, I am entitled to express my opinion and I am in no way "narrow-minded" (as another posted stated).
You are certainly entitled to express your opinion, but you also have to expect that others will react to it - it sounds to me like several women on here are picking and choosing what tasks are appropriate for every woman who need assistance - if you have a c-section, ok, if you need help shopping, not ok. That just doesn't sit well with me, especially considering the fact that you never know anyone's particular circumstances.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
So what if someone is well off and can afford help when they need it? Does that make them a bad mother? Certainly not. Does that make people who did it without the help of a nurse a better mother because "they took care of their own?" Certainly not.
I NEVER ever said that if somene hires a baby nurse that makes them a bad mother. That was never even on my mind or suggested in any of my posts so please do NOT put words in my mouth. That is definetely not how I feel.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
You are certainly entitled to express your opinion, but you also have to expect that others will react to it - it sounds to me like several women on here are picking and choosing what tasks are appropriate for every woman who need assistance - if you have a c-section, ok, if you need help shopping, not ok. That just doesn't sit well with me, especially considering the fact that you never know anyone's particular circumstances.
Again, everyone is entitled to hire a baby nurse if they want. I personally, would not for my own reasons.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
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Posted by jellybean1420
ITA!! Again if people read my post I said that I can understand hiring a baby nurse for certain reasons (such as c-section, hard recovery, post-partum etc.) but just to hire a nurse b/c they dont want to be sleep deprived or dont want to do certain things is ridiculous to me.
Regardless, I am entitled to express my opinion and I am in no way "narrow-minded" (as another posted stated).
You are certainly entitled to express your opinion, but you also have to expect that others will react to it - it sounds to me like several women on here are picking and choosing what tasks are appropriate for every woman who need assistance - if you have a c-section, ok, if you need help shopping, not ok. That just doesn't sit well with me, especially considering the fact that you never know anyone's particular circumstances.
The thing that irks me about this site sometimes is that it seems people are NOT always allowed to express how they feel without criticism. Of course no one knows everyones own circumstance...but I feel one way about the nurse thing and it's just the way I feel, as well as some others...why is that wrong?
Certainly hiring outside help isn't the worst thing a mom can do...if its benefitting a mom then good for her and her family! There are many worse things I can think of.
BUT..if you knew my "friend" (i put that in quotes b.c it was someone i used to be very close with and not much anymore..) and her friends you just might roll your eyes and question the need for very expensive help because of the reasoning/rationale behind it. It's too long to go into over the internet...but most of these women make me want to vomit and some (not all) are literally having babies because to them, its the thing to do...when you listen to them talk, its like they honestly have NO CLUE what having a baby entails. And I guess when I hear these nurses are hired so they can sleep in (and yes these women have tons of family/MIL's helping too!) it irritates me. Human nature I guess. Maybe it makes me insensitive, but I'm owning up to that character flaw.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Posted by maybebaby
The thing that irks me about this site sometimes is that it seems people are NOT always allowed to express how they feel without criticism. Of course no one knows everyones own circumstance...but I feel one way about the nurse thing and it's just the way I feel, as well as some others...why is that wrong?
The problem here is that this post wasn't a debate - the poster didn't ask for people's opinions on whether or not a baby nurse is appropriate. She clearly stated this is something she's considering and asked for other ladies who have used one, their experience and the cost.
And, yet some took it upon themselves to interject and state that they wouldn't want a stranger in their home, or they don't see why a woman would need one if she had a normal pregnancy and recovery, or that a mom should bond with her child and not give those tasks to anyone else.
That's not what the poster was asking for, and looking at it from her perspective, as a pregnant woman, who is probably already nervous as hell, asking for moms who used baby nurses for their experiences, I would find some of the responses a little unsettling, judgmental and insensitive.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
The problem here is that this post wasn't a debate - the poster didn't ask for people's opinions on whether or not a baby nurse is appropriate. She clearly stated this is something she's considering and asked for other ladies who have used one, their experience and the cost.
And, yet some took it upon themselves to interject and state that they wouldn't want a stranger in their home, or they don't see why a woman would need one if she had a normal pregnancy and recovery, or that a mom should bond with her child and not give those tasks to anyone else.
You're absolutely right!!!! And being you mentioned my "stranger in the home" statement, this thread turned into a debate WAY before I ever posted.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Posted by jellybean1420
The problem here is that this post wasn't a debate - the poster didn't ask for people's opinions on whether or not a baby nurse is appropriate. She clearly stated this is something she's considering and asked for other ladies who have used one, their experience and the cost.
And, yet some took it upon themselves to interject and state that they wouldn't want a stranger in their home, or they don't see why a woman would need one if she had a normal pregnancy and recovery, or that a mom should bond with her child and not give those tasks to anyone else.
You're absolutely right!!!! And being you mentioned my "stranger in the home" statement, this thread turned into a debate WAY before I ever posted.
You're really missing my point here, so I'm just going to let it go at this point.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
You are right when you say this wasn't intended as a debate but so many posts become this way. It's natural I think.
Sometimes I think it's good to hear flip sides from people...it helps you come to maybe a different conclusion than what you thought..or it helps reaffirm your original feeling on a subject.
I apologize for anything I've stated specifically that may have offended. It's the last thing I like to do. I just like to offer my feelings on something I've been through.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
You're really missing my point here, so I'm just going to let it go at this point.
I understand your point and agree. The original poster just asked a question and it turned into a debate. I thought the same thing as I was reading and posting. It was never my intention and I am sure noone else's intention to upset her or make her feel bad. 
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Posts like what this has turned in to make me very sad. It's so difficult and lonely to be a mom,especially a new mom, that the last thing any of us should do is judge.
Each to their own. We need to remember what works for us may not for others and that our experiences are not that of everyone else.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
No harm, no foul ladies... let's get back to our regularly scheduled posting of our adorable babies and toddlers! 
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Posted by jellybean1420
I don't see the need either. I guess if you had multiples and you really needed the help then yeah. But if you are just doing it to get rest, well then heck, you'll need a baby nurse for a few months because they don't sleep through the night for a while Not to mention, I don't think I would want someone doing everything for my beautiful little baby. I think being invovled in every aspect of a baby's daily routine is all part of the bonding experience
ITA! I personally wouldnt want a stranger staying with me taking care of my baby. However, I can see needing one if you have a c-section or a rough recovery and do not have anyone to help. To be honest, I never even heard of baby nurse's until I joined LIF. I come from a pretty large family and noone in my family ever hired anyone to help them...if I ever told my parents or grandmother that I wanted to hire a nurse they would probably laugh at me! It definetely would not go over well. They follow the old school mentality, we all took care of our babies, you can take care of yours.
Im sorry but I cant help but be offended by these comments. Its not that I dont want to be with my baby all the time, and not that I dont want to be the one to care for them, but mostly because I dont have any family for at least 650 miles, nor do I have any friends being I just moved here 3 weeks ago. I have never had a baby, and honestly, bringing a baby home to an empty house scares me. It would be nice to have someone help guide me through. I know the day I get home I will still be sore and hurting from giving birth, and dh will have to go to work the next morning, so he will not be much help.
Thank you to all for posting your experiences
and to everyone else sometimes these things get ugly even if its not intended
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
Wow - talk about judgemental! I agree w ith Bxgell's statements 100%. This is ending now but like people said I don't think it makes me less of a mother, or that I didn't take care of my own child because I had baby nurse. And let's look at the big picture - because you have a "stranger" in your home for what? A week, 2 weeks? You're not taking care of your own baby? Anyway, it's done and overwith, but sometimes just until you walk in someone else's place, you don't know what they go through.
And ya know what? Even if someone is well off wants to hire someone just to get that extra sleep, more power to them.
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
I just want to pipe in too here and not continue to debate this but from where I am coming from. In the beginning i was getting 3-4 hours a sleep a day. That is not enough to function on and my husband had one week off for paternity leave so he needed his sleep to go to work. I can't tell you the number of crazy things that happened because I was so sleep deprived at times from yelling at my newborns, to leaving a pot on the stove with the burner still on after taking the bottles out of it. I was a whacko some days and I remember thinking that I would pay anyone any amount of money to come in and let me sleep for 8 hours one night. Thank god i had family, I don't know how people who are away from the family do it.
I just think that everyone's situations are different and some of the comments here came off the wrong way.
No harm, no foul
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Re: Did anyone hire a baby nurse/ night time help?
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Posted by ABCiverson
I have never even heard of this! I have had 3 babies and I don't see a need for this. I guess I had "easy" babies though. I didn't even have help from any family or friends. It might be easier than you are excepting.
I don't see the need either. I guess if you had multiples and you really needed the help then yeah. But if you are just doing it to get rest, well then heck, you'll need a baby nurse for a few months because they don't sleep through the night for a while Not to mention, I don't think I would want someone doing everything for my beautiful little baby. I think being invovled in every aspect of a baby's daily routine is all part of the bonding experience
I agree. It was harder to do daily stuff then it was to care for the baby and i didnt want to miss one second of him the first few weeks, i waited 9 months to meet him.
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