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I think your confrontation with them, using curse words, is just as crass as their comment. I would have spoken to the manager, and had him/her reprimand them. Teens say a lot of things without thinking, and I'm sure you will realize that when your DD becomes one.

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i think you did the right thing...i would of been pissed as well

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Eh....I'm sure if I spent a day working in a toy store I would say the same thing.

They are kids themselves and can never 'get' what it is to be a parent and won't until they have a child of their own. They really didn't mean harm.

I wouldn't go to the manager over it.

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Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319

Posted by Goobster

I am sorry you were upset. I think what they said could upset someone, clearly it upset you. But if it were my kid and they said that it honestly wouldn't have upset me if I heard someone say that about my child. B/c if my own child did that I would want to shut my kid up, and would imagine others would want my kid to shut up. Especially a young person.

I really don't see the big deal in what they said personally. Being that it IS a children's store, and a TOY store, they probably hear a LOT of tantrums in there and I imagine it could get tiresome!! I know they "choose" to work there but this isn't exactly a million dollar job that people line up out the door for. But to each is own I guess.

I can't believe so many moms have so much time to waste calling corporate, writing letters, and starting social media campaigns over a stupid remark made in poor judgment.

If my child was having a tantrum, I'd be heading over to discipline her instead of wasting time reprimanding a teenager working retail.

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Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319

Posted by Goobster

I am sorry you were upset. I think what they said could upset someone, clearly it upset you. But if it were my kid and they said that it honestly wouldn't have upset me if I heard someone say that about my child. B/c if my own child did that I would want to shut my kid up, and would imagine others would want my kid to shut up. Especially a young person.

I really don't see the big deal in what they said personally. Being that it IS a children's store, and a TOY store, they probably hear a LOT of tantrums in there and I imagine it could get tiresome!! I know they "choose" to work there but this isn't exactly a million dollar job that people line up out the door for. But to each is own I guess.

I can't believe so many moms have so much time to waste calling corporate, writing letters, and starting social media campaigns over a stupid remark made in poor judgment.

If my child was having a tantrum, I'd be heading over to discipline her instead of wasting time reprimanding a teenager working retail.

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I would have said something. I think it's easy to say you wouldn't when it didn't actually happen to you. I think some of you are possibly over-exaggerating what she said. Didn't sound so harsh or crass to me. It's not like she punched them or something. IMO they deserved to be called out. I personally wouldn't bother with any further action. I'd just let it go now.

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Posted by Goobster

Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319

Posted by Straightarrow

I actually hope they didn't get fired because of it.

If they were young and got fired, then they probably won't realize why they were. If they still have the job then maybe they will have to learn how to be a proper employee.

Plus I'd feel bad I got someone who potentially really needs a job fired over a tantrum. Just MO

While I think what they said was obnoxious, I agree with this. Who cares what they say? They work in a toy store. KWIM? If I heard that in a Drs office I'd be upset, but honestly, what's the big deal...are they supposed to like the sound of kids throwing a tantrum bc they work there??

I wouldn't have said a word to them bc I honestly couldn't care less what they think and can't waste my time on useless confrontation. Toy store or not, nobody wants to hear a child throwing a tantrum!

This was my thought as well. It wasn't a doctor or teacher saying this, or someone in a more "professional" location. Honestly I don't see the big deal. I am sure no one wants to hear kids throwing fits, us as their parents included. Why b/c someone works in a toy store does that make them different than us? Especially young kids working for a minimum wage job. They probably just said it to each other, not intending to be heard or be confrontational and happened to be heard. I would never want a person fired for this. I would probably have said back to them, I wish my husband could get my kid to stop screaming too.

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I think you hearing it and acknowledging it was punishment enough for these girls.
On a side, as a mom, I am not thrilled about children shrieking and tantruming and I might have said "omg" as well. It probably was too much. When my little one tantrums it can drive me nuts too. I can't even imagine what it's like for 2 young girls at the end of the night.

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Ive said it, and Im a parent. Maybe they need to NOT work in a childrens store if they dont want to hear kids scream. I would have left me ripping them as their "punishment". I dont think id go out of my way to fire them.

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Its difficult enough in that situation when a child is having a tantrum. You really don't need to hear it from other people. You're judged if you spoil your kid, and you're judged if you parent your kid and they get upset about not getting a toy. It's a no win situation for parents.

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It wouldn't bother me at all.


I just don't understand how people are so outraged by stuff like this.

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i would say most likely these people were young adults or teens stocking a shelf at toys r us and aren't there because they love children but simply need a paycheck. if they're an adult I would expect better thinking of saying it out loud. think about a 4-8 hour shift of screaming kids throwing tantrums when you weren't a parent yourself and think of what you might of said (even in your head) over the situation. I used to say god awful things when I worked in a supermarket about parents/kids and i wouldn't say them now as an adult.