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Goobster
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Baby Shower invite etiquette
So do you think a MIL needs to be listed on the invite simply b/c she offered some $ towards it? Thoughts?
Message edited 8/27/2008 5:17:57 AM.
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Jacksmommy
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
I think it would be a nice gesture since she did offer the money and your mother refused.
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| Posted 8/26/08 6:26 AM |
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ARIELSMOM
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
maybe you mom and MIL can be listed as people to RSVP to?
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| Posted 8/26/08 7:59 AM |
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smdl
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
Did your mom accept the money from your MIL?
If so, then she should put her name on the invites.
If she did not, only your mom's name would be on it.
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:03 AM |
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NinaLemon
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
Posted by ARIELSMOM
maybe you mom and MIL can be listed as people to RSVP to?
I think this is a great idea! She probably wants to help out in any way she can and be part of the planning and celebration. Maybe your Mom can ask her, if she would like to help with certain planning, set-up, etc. parts. If she does want to particiapte I would put her on the invite.
Message edited 8/26/2008 8:07:26 AM.
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:07 AM |
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08BabySurprise
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
If your mom didn't take the $, I personally wouldn't list your MIL as one of the "hostesses" since she really isn't. I would agree though with other posters to list her as someone they can RSVP to so that her name appears on the invite and let her have input and help out in other ways if she wants. In my opinion, I think your mom should be recognized as hosting since she is paying for the entire thing.
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:33 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
Message edited 8/27/2008 5:18:41 AM.
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:34 AM |
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hmm8191
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
Yikes...I was just about to quote you! But all that said I don't think you need to include her on the invite.
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:37 AM |
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
Well since you said that, than no, MIL should not be on the invite
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:37 AM |
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Arieschick29
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
why not just put " lovingly hosted by her family" so everyone is included.
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:40 AM |
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NinaLemon
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
I agree, with the added info she doesn't need to be on the invite. It doesn't sound like she would be offended and may prefer to be a guest.
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:40 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
No - the host of the party is listed on the invite - that is your Mom. No reason for MIL's name to listed on there as well. -
it's a party for you, given by your mother. - If your friends were throwing the shower, they wouldn't list your Mom / MIL on the invite - KWIM?
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:40 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
My mom would not be taking any $ at all.
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:41 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Baby Shower etiquette - should MIL's name be on the shower invite regardless?
Posted by MarisaK
it's a party for you, given by your mother. - If your friends were throwing the shower, they wouldn't list your Mom / MIL on the invite - KWIM?
Yes, I see, that's a good way of looking it at.
Ok, so we will leave it at mom's name only on there. I have to agree, this seems right to me (and DH). It just would be odd to list her.
Thanks for the perspectives. 
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| Posted 8/26/08 8:42 AM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Baby Shower invite etiquette
Why do you have to put who its hosted by at all?
Can't you just put a Shower to celebrate the baby of ___" or something like that?
Honestly I don't think I have recieved a baby shower invite that had the host/hostess name on it. Its not a wedding invite.
The only clue I would have to the hostess is the RSVP.
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| Posted 8/26/08 9:39 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Baby Shower invite etiquette
Posted by SweetTooth
Why do you have to put who its hosted by at all?
Can't you just put a Shower to celebrate the baby of ___" or something like that?
Honestly I don't think I have recieved a baby shower invite that had the host/hostess name on it. Its not a wedding invite.
The only clue I would have to the hostess is the RSVP.
Good question. I don't know. I know the most recent baby shower invite I had said given by. But I don't know if it's a must, now that you say that.
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| Posted 8/26/08 9:48 AM |
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twinkletoes807
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Re: Baby Shower invite etiquette
If your Mom declined the money then I would not put MIL on the invite. If your Mom is accepting the money then I would put MIL on it. 
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| Posted 8/26/08 9:49 AM |
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wannabemom
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Re: Baby Shower invite etiquette
I don't think I've ever seen a (wedding or baby) shower invitation as formal as a wedding invitation. why is it even necessary to phrase it in a formal fashion suggesting who is hosting? My shower invite said something like 'you're invited to a shower for wannabemom!' and had the date / time info and rsvp # and registry info.
My mom also wanted to do everything herself. (mine was hosted at her house). MIL asked what she can bring / help with and she said 'nothing'. I frankly told her that it is inappropriate becuase MIL expresses her familial love by organizing huge feasts and baking wonderful and elaborate cakes. Mom caved and told her to bring a cake (which then is translated into 'cakes').
It made MIL feel better to contribute. after all, it's her grandchild too!
So in sum, I say you find some way, no matter how small, for MIL to contribute... and you avoid the hosting issue all together with more common shower invitation phrasiology.
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| Posted 8/26/08 10:03 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Baby Shower invite etiquette
No. IMO it is not necessary, and particularly since it is not an issue with her I would not consider it as something that needs to be on the invite.
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| Posted 8/26/08 10:44 AM |
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saraH
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Re: Baby Shower invite etiquette
My mom hosted my shower, but didn't put her name on the invite at all.
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| Posted 8/26/08 10:56 AM |
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junebride06
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Re: Baby Shower invite etiquette
Posted by ARIELSMOM
maybe you mom and MIL can be listed as people to RSVP to?
I agree and think this would be a good way to go instead
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| Posted 8/26/08 11:47 AM |
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boobanick
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Re: Baby Shower invite etiquette
Personally IMO what matters is what your DH thinks and since he said that she wouldnt expect it and if your DH doe not have a problem with not listing your MIL then i wouldnt list her at all.
You mom should be listed since she is the one that is hosting and paying for it all...
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