Will your MIL help pay for your baby shower?

I am wondering how this goes.... I know traditionally the Mother of the Bride pays for the bridal shower... just wondering how the baby shower works... Any imput would be great!!

Edited to add (I dont have my mom, but my sister and my gramma paid for my bridal shower and will pay for my baby shower)... imo I think MIL should definitely contribute...just wondering what the rest of you think.

Message edited 11/13/2006 1:59:50 PM.

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In my opinion - the cost should be shared by both. The baby is just as much her grandchild as it is your mom's.

My mom was originally paying for the entire shower until I suggested to my DH that his mother "be part of it."

She helped

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Yes, I believe she should 'offer' to help pay.

My sisters just passed this weekend and both my mom and her MIL split the bill.

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sorry bc my MIL will not help pay for nothing, even at my bridal shower, she showed up with a mat for kitchen and 4 kitchen towels. she did not offer to even help clean or pack anything up... This past weekend she was over my house and i said something about it and her response, was ooooooo well ur mom will prob, do something really nice, i guess i can't wait to see....

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since my mom is MIA my SIL has already said this will be her duty. she wanted to throw my bridal shower but my MOH beat her to it, so she laid down the law about this. very sweet of her.

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My MIL wont split the costs - she said she wants to do the favors. . . but she also wont insist that her friends be invited either.

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Are they eating snowcones down in hell?

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Posted by Bobfan24


Are they eating snowcones down in hell?

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my MIL helped pay for it.

i agree that it should be done by both.

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Yes mine will, for my first I had two seperate showers and my mom threw one and MIL threw another. I am just going to have one this time, and I am positive that they will share the costs.....after all they BOTH are the baby's grandmas.

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You guys are so funny!!

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Not a chance my evil MIL will offer ANYTHING except aggravation ....

Message edited 11/13/2006 3:44:39 PM.

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Unfortunately my MIL is an evil evil woman. She offered to do nothing never mind pay for anything. OH! and she bought a gift out of spite- that someone in my family already bought me, she wanted to buy it, found out it was off my registry, bought it anyway then brought it to my house, out of it's packaging so I'd have to keep the one from her. NASTY!

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IMO I think the cost should be split by both. For a bridal shower, I think it falls on mother of the bride because it is mostly about the bride. For a baby shower, the baby is the grandchild of both so the cost should be split. I doubt my mil will pay, and will king of po-ed if the brunt falls on my family.

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I think it should be shared, but that obviously doesn't mean that's what's going to happen.
Haven't gotten that far yet! I'm paranoid to even tell them yet that I'm PG!

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I would not want my MIL to- she and FIL have already bought so much for us (crib and mattress, dresser, travel system, monitor, pack & play, crib sheets, and many other smaller things). My shower is also going to be at my aunt's house, so it's not going to be a big thing, which is fine since I don't really want a shower anyway.

Knowing my MIL, though, she'll be sure to offer but I know my mom will turn her down. I'm lucky that she's so wonderful to us.

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My MIL is at poverty level. She doesn't like to hold down a job. So no, she won't be chipping in.

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ha, my inlaws didn't pay, we did.

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My MIL offered to pay and then kind of backed out. I thought it was pretty damn rude of her.

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I know nothing about my shower, but, I know for my bridal shower my MIL offered to contribute.
I found out later that my grandmother paid for my whole shower. With my sister my mom, myself and her boyfriends parents all contributed. I;ll know after the shower.

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I'm thinking that I'm going to have to have 2 separate showers this time.

After my wedding shower when my MIL made this huge VOCAL deal about HAVING to help out my parents because "They seemed shell shocked about NJ prices." Like my parents are backwoods hicks, I don't think my mom will be anxious to share in the planning of another event with MIL.

So I'm thinking one LI one for DH's family and a Philly one for my family.

Jeez, what do you know? I'm still ticked off about that two years later!!

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MIL currently lives in another country but will be here for my shower (she is coming tomorrow and staying for three weeks but that is another story).

I don't expect that she will offer my mother any money for the shower, nor did she offer any for the bridal shower.

Personally, I think my mother is quite happy doing this shower on her own. While it would be nice for the future grandmothers to share the expense, in my case my mother would prefer that my MIL not interfere and just come as a guest.

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My Mom will pay for everything. I am thinking that this time around - we will tell her that if she is not going to contribute then she has to cut down her list. That sounds all good right now - but I know my mom would never let me do that - and I don't know if I would do it when the time comes around. It's very frustrating!

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i seriously doubt it!! my mil hasn't even called me to congratulate me or see how i'm feeling. she knows the long journey it took to get preg. (mc, ivf, fet) and hasn't acknowledged how special this is.

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Mother is deceased.

MIL is Jewish and really has no idea of such things. She offered her house but it will too many people for inside in January. SIL's live OOS and one "didn't want to get involved".

WE had to book it and plan and pay for it it

You would think one of my aunts or all of my cousins collectively would have stepped up to the plate.

Considering it's twins and, no, we will not get everything we need from our guests, it is a considerable expense.

Three reasons why I am still having one:

1. Why should I have to go w/o one due to life circumstances?

2. Despite the expense, this is very much a celebration as we battled infertility and had to do IVF to have them.

3. There will be no religious sacrament after the birth. This is the party.