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MarathonKnitter
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am i missing something?
no. i'm not judging. i really am asking if i didn't receive an unofficial memo in how things are done with "the younger generation."
why is it that women are hosting their own baby showers, these days?
almost all of the baby showers that i've been invited to in the last two years have been hosted by the mom-to-be... with help from loved ones (mom, sister, best friend).
please educate me, because i feel a little lost on the whole thing.
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Posted 8/31/21 3:21 PM  |
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Re: am i missing something?
Interesting. I have never been to one that they hosted but it seems that less and less are surprised anymore.
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| Posted 8/31/21 3:25 PM |
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BFNY516
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am i missing something?
I haven’t experienced that but what indicators are there that it’s being co-hosted by the mom to be? Does the invite say it’s hosted by her and someone else?
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| Posted 8/31/21 3:56 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by BFNY516
I haven’t experienced that but what indicators are there that it’s being co-hosted by the mom to be? Does the invite say it’s hosted by her and someone else?
the two most recent ones that quickly come to mind:
#1 - i was the support team. it was my SO's daughter and she was the one running the show. her father paid for the venue, but she did everything else... from decorating to sending out the invites.
#2 - my godson's wife sent me a message asking to confirm my address. two days later, she posted on FB that she was happy all the baby shower invites are in the mail.
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| Posted 8/31/21 4:03 PM |
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BFNY516
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am i missing something?
Hmm. I don’t know. I don’t really interpret that really as hosting. Some people just like the party prep.
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| Posted 8/31/21 4:13 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by BFNY516
Hmm. I don’t know. I don’t really interpret that really as hosting. Some people just like the party prep.
maybe i didn't give enough info.
shower #1 - she bought all the decorations and invites and such. during the actual party, she was the one conducting the games, calling out for people to eat when the buffet was ready. the only thing she didn't do was literally pay for the venue, which my SO did. her mother didn't lift a finger. her best friend was her helper.
granted, for shower #2 - i haven't gone yet. but i do know that it will be at the parents-to-be's home.
oh, and i just remembered another shower.
the mom did it all. except for some decoration help from her sister. it was at her house, she and her husband paid for it all, she conducted that party like any other gathering at her home. she was the hostess. she said she didn't want someone else's version of what her shower should be
don't get me wrong. i had a "surprise" shower and hated every second of it. it was nothing like i would have wanted. i wish i had the balls, back then, to take charge of the party and do it my way.
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| Posted 8/31/21 4:28 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: am i missing something?
Yes, this is very common now.
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| Posted 8/31/21 4:31 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: am i missing something?
Ugh I didn't even want a shower much les to have to plan it.
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| Posted 8/31/21 4:52 PM |
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Deeluvsvinny
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am i missing something?
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
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| Posted 8/31/21 5:08 PM |
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Katareen
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by NervousNell
Ugh I didn't even want a shower much les to have to plan it.
I’m with you…
I told my sister there was no way she could surprise me, because I needed to be told to shower and shave my legs!
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| Posted 8/31/21 5:12 PM |
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
All of this
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| Posted 8/31/21 5:17 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
I tend to agree. Instagram and the like have really become the ruination of everything. It's sad
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| Posted 8/31/21 5:18 PM |
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
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| Posted 8/31/21 5:19 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Katareen
Posted by NervousNell
Ugh I didn't even want a shower much les to have to plan it.
I’m with you…
I told my sister there was no way she could surprise me, because I needed to be told to shower and shave my legs!
OMG yes! It's cruel to try to surprise a pregnant woman. She needs to prepare. When I was pregnant I barely wanted to get dressed so I needed to know ahead of time so I could look halfway decent and find a pair of shoes that fit my elephant feet.
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| Posted 8/31/21 5:20 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
Yes, I think this is exactly what it comes down to.
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| Posted 8/31/21 5:32 PM |
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: am i missing something?
I think it’s not the norm but it happens. My BF’s shower was organized by her, from the food, the deco, the invites, etc. she doesn’t like surprises so I’m sure that’s the reason. But that has been the only shower I’ve gone to where the mom is the one that organizes the whole thing.
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| Posted 8/31/21 6:01 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: am i missing something?
Super common. Although last month I was co chair of a bridal shower that was a surprise. The millennial did make it Instagram worthy. I made sure there were games, chocolates, and prizes that matched the theme. Yes, things were custom from Etsy.
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| Posted 8/31/21 6:01 PM |
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KarenK122
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
100% agree.
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| Posted 8/31/21 8:24 PM |
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lululu
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Re: am i missing something?
I wish it was the norm back when I was getting married and having a baby to throw your own shower. My mother threw mine and she's such a narcissist. Would have been much more enjoyable if I could have planned it myself!
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| Posted 8/31/21 9:04 PM |
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LuckyStar
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am i missing something?
Older millennial here. I’ve never heard of anyone hosting their own shower. I’ve been to a bridal and a baby shower in the last month and neither were hosted by the guest of honor. They were both in the host’s backyards. I will say, the decor at both (particularly the baby shower) was pretty fabulous but I’m almost positive everything was DIY.
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| Posted 8/31/21 9:09 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
It's ridiculous
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| Posted 8/31/21 9:18 PM |
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ali120206
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am i missing something?
Wow. I haven’t been to too many showers recently but definitely not the norm.
I gave some input for mine (no cheesy games, etc) but I didn’t plan it.
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| Posted 8/31/21 10:11 PM |
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RainyDay
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
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| Posted 8/31/21 10:18 PM |
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klingklang77
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Re: am i missing something?
I hate showers. I’m a Gen Xer, so I don’t think it’s a Millennial thing. It’s been going on longer that. Gen Z will make it an Instagram thing.
I knew about mine and had some say in it, but I did not plan it. Well, maybe I didn’t have enough say because I didn’t even want one and my mom did…
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| Posted 9/1/21 5:04 AM |
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TTCwithHope
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Re: am i missing something?
Some people don’t have anyone to host a shower for them. I never had any showers because no one asked and I was too embarrassed to do it for myself.
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| Posted 9/1/21 6:01 AM |
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