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Stefanie
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Gertyrae
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Re: Godparent Drama
When is the Christening? If you both really want them, I am sure they could suck it up for a day. They hardly ever have to see each other after that. I know I've seen my Godson's Godfather maybe 3 times in the last six years.
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| Posted 5/11/05 9:59 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Godparent Drama
I'm probably going to have it in August or early September...
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| Posted 5/11/05 10:11 PM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Godparent Drama
I'm sorry 
But I do think that if they are broken up, she shouldnt be the godmother. It should be family or someone you are close to. What happens if your BIL gets married down the road and his ex is the Godmom?
I'm sorry you and DH have to make this decision.
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| Posted 5/11/05 10:19 PM |
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TheInfamousOTG
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by Stefanie
I originally posted (on LIW) how I was choosing a Jewish Godmother and was asking advice if the church would ok that. Well the church said it was okay so that is no longer my dilemma.
Here's the new drama...We chose my DH's cousin for the godfather and his girlfriend for the godmother. We after 8 years of dating, they just broke up.  I cannot believe what he did to her....
I am devastated about this whole situation and cannot believe what is going on. They both called us and said if we wanted to choose different people to be the godparents, they would understand. DH and I both decided to keep them the same. She is my best friend and he is DH's cousin...
Do you think that this is going to be an awkward situation??
Is there a chance that they might get back together?
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| Posted 5/11/05 10:24 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Godparent Drama
This is the third time he's cheated on her....I doubt it....
It's a very messy story....
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| Posted 5/11/05 10:31 PM |
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TAD
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Re: Godparent Drama
IMO she shouldnt be the godmother cause friends always come and go but family is always there. Even if she is your bestest friend
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| Posted 5/12/05 9:40 AM |
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Cocoa
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Re: Godparent Drama
if they will do the job and you want them both, they will have to put aside their stuff and do it!
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| Posted 5/12/05 9:46 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by kelleherkm
I'm sorry
But I do think that if they are broken up, she shouldnt be the godmother. It should be family or someone you are close to. What happens if your BIL gets married down the road and his ex is the Godmom?
I'm sorry you and DH have to make this decision.
I agree. If she is still a close friend by the time you have another baby, maybe ask her then? I would assume you'd want the godparents involved in your son's life and it will probably always be uncomfortable for the two of them and possibly you.
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| Posted 5/12/05 9:51 AM |
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Wendy
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Re: Godparent Drama
Personally, I'd stick with your best friend as the godmother and dump the cheating cousin as godfather!!
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| Posted 5/12/05 10:04 AM |
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Juliet
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by Wendy
Personally, I'd stick with your best friend as the godmother and dump the cheating cousin as godfather!!
I was thinking the same thing!!
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| Posted 5/12/05 10:08 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by Wendy
Personally, I'd stick with your best friend as the godmother and dump the cheating cousin as godfather!!
Not a bad idea, but she is not the Catholic one from hat you said. Can you find another Catholic GP to replace the cheater?
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MrsJ
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by Stefanie
This is the third time he's cheated on her....I doubt it....
It's a very messy story....
OMG should HE be the Godfather?
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| Posted 5/12/05 10:10 AM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by Wendy
Personally, I'd stick with your best friend as the godmother and dump the cheating cousin as godfather!!
I AGREE!!!
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| Posted 5/12/05 10:11 AM |
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Tracey
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by kelleherkm
I'm sorry
But I do think that if they are broken up, she shouldnt be the godmother. It should be family or someone you are close to. What happens if your BIL gets married down the road and his ex is the Godmom?
I'm sorry you and DH have to make this decision.
I speak from experience, I had my brother and his long time girlfriend be the god parents of my son. They were together for like 5 years at the time with marriage in their future.
Well, they broke up, they made it to my sons 1st b-day and that was it. I was pretty close with her at the time, but time goes on and needless to say we have no contact anymore, and in the mean time my brother met and married someone else. So I will never make the mistake of chosing a girlfriend of anybody anymore! Now my son has no godmother.
I would seriously reconsider still using her.
Sorry you have to go through this!
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| Posted 5/12/05 10:14 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Godparent Drama
I would not do it. Who knows what the future holds? Maybe her future guy won't like the idea of it and pull her away from celebrations.
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| Posted 5/12/05 10:30 AM |
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lullabella
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Re: Godparent Drama
That is a tough situation. Honestly if you truly believe that she will be there for you child then do it. So often people pick friends for god parents and then a few years later they are outof the picture and the child is the one who misses out. I have a few very close friends that I have grown up with and still I would only pick family for this responsibility. Good luck with your decision. Sorry
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Lichi
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by t
IMO she shouldnt be the godmother cause friends always come and go but family is always there. Even if she is your bestest friend
I compeletely agree. Especially if you only became really close friends with her because she was with DH's cuz. Now that they've broken up, I'm sure that it'll put a strain on your relationship, and eventually part ways.
Plus, if I were in her, or his shoes, and was asked to be godparent, I would NEVER renounce, regardless of my marital status. IMO, choosing a godparent is a big thing, and not because of who I was with. Also, I would be hurt if I was 'demoted' because of a breakup.
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Boobobunny
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Re: Godparent Drama
I am picked Blood Relatives for James' God Parents...This way they will always be a part of his life.
My Godmother was married to my uncle and when they divorced I never saw her again.
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Stefanie
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Re: Godparent Drama
Thanks everyone for your opinions...this is going to be tough!!
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Godparent Drama
Posted by t
IMO she shouldnt be the godmother cause friends always come and go but family is always there. Even if she is your bestest friend
I agree here. Except I think you should also reconsider him as the him as the GF.
My cousin chose my Ex BF to be the Godfather of her son several years ago. She did not choose me to be the Godmother (go figure) but where is my Ex now? As soon as we broke up, he had to be out of their lives because I did not want him around me or my family anymore, nor did he want to be around them.
It's a difficult decision, I agree, but I would definitely stick with family on this decision.
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WoodIAm
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Re: Godparent Drama
I think it really depends on the individual friendships. If you are close, then ask her.
I've had the same bestfriend since nursery school. That's 34 years now.  I am Godmother to another friend's (from High School) daughter and it just strengthened our friendship and we will always have a special bond. I don't think I've ever had friends that just came and went.
My Aunt & Uncle my Godparents and they have not been a part of my life since I was a child.
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True-Joy
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Re: Godparent Drama
i think that it can be a little akward but if there both mature about it it can be done. i cant stand my godchilds godfather i mean to the point where if i see him on the street ill hide or cross the street to avoid him and i try my best to co exist and be as friendly to him as possible when i see him on holidays and b days. i hope it all works out
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| Posted 5/12/05 9:05 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Godparent Drama
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JustMarried
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Re: Godparent Drama
You should pick whoever you think would be the best godparent for your child. and it doesn't have to be family, just becasue there family doesn't mean your child will see the godparent more, my sister's godmother is our cousin and we haven't seen her in almost ten years. So just becasue they are family doesn't mean they will stick around. So if you think your best friend will always be around then i say to pick her.
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