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Shelly
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Thanks guys! I am going to get her a jewish star necklace from Macy's.

Message edited 4/2/2017 9:03:15 PM.

Posted 4/1/17 9:36 AM
 
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Their cheapness shouldn't make her gift be any smaller BUT i agree with giving her a nice piece of jewelry instead of a cash gift. If they are that cheap, they may take some of her $ gifts to use towards the price of the party.

So an actual gift for her would be nice. I would however buy from a major dept store and give gift receipt incase she does love it. She can get something else.

Posted 4/1/17 9:58 AM
 

Katareen
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Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

I agree with pp that the child shouldn't be punished for her parents/other relatives cheapness.
What about a Tiffany necklace?

Posted 4/1/17 3:26 PM
 

JME78
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Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

I would give money. Maybe not 300 but 200.

Posted 4/1/17 3:31 PM
 

hmm
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Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

are they cheap or do they have financial issues or low earners. Florida and out of state affairs are not like NY, gifts are usually just that GIFTS not money or check. Cash, checks that's a NY thing. Most people out of state BRING a physical gift to the wedding, party, bar Mitzvah. Brining a gift would be fine

Posted 4/1/17 4:30 PM
 

AliceCullen
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

A piece of jewelry is fine and hardly a punishment. I would have a hard time giving someone $300 cash when they gave me a cheap picture frame.

Posted 4/1/17 4:34 PM
 

LSP2005
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

I would give something from tiffanys in the 200 range. Remember Florida is NOT NY so they will give much less. I would not punish the child because the parents are cheep. Also, it is good to see you around here. Hope all is well with you!

Posted 4/1/17 5:02 PM
 

WannaBeAMom11
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Posted by hmm

are they cheap or do they have financial issues or low earners. Florida and out of state affairs are not like NY, gifts are usually just that GIFTS not money or check. Cash, checks that's a NY thing. Most people out of state BRING a physical gift to the wedding, party, bar Mitzvah. Brining a gift would be fine



Exactly. Are they from NY or somewhere else. NY, NJ and CA are the only states where people give large monetary gifts. Other states the norm is small token gifts. For my wedding from a family of 5 I got $50. It's the norm there so I didn't blink.

Posted 4/1/17 5:12 PM
 

Paramount
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Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Or $236.That would be nice.

Posted 4/1/17 5:12 PM
 

Shelly
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

They are from NY.

Posted 4/1/17 5:36 PM
 

Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

I'm not sure what the uncle of the bat mitzvah girl has to do with the girl Chat Icon

Regardless, I would either give a gift, in a multiple of $18, for somewhere around $150 or a necklace from Tiffanys.

Posted 4/1/17 6:01 PM
 

haveaquestion
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

I'd get something from Tiffanys. $150 is generous.

Posted 4/1/17 6:04 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Kids get THREE HUNDRED DOLLARS for bat mitzvahs???

We are raising our half Jewish child the wrong religion.....

OP, I would give jewelry, and not $300 worth.

Posted 4/1/17 9:06 PM
 

beachbabe
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Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

I would give jewelry but would not spend more than 150. Don't give cash bc they might not actually give it to the girl for her savings account

Posted 4/2/17 12:30 AM
 

hmm
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Posted by LuckyStar

Kids get THREE HUNDRED DOLLARS for bat mitzvahs???

We are raising our half Jewish child the wrong religion.....

OP, I would give jewelry, and not $300 worth.



?? Jewish my entire life and never heard of this lol

Posted 4/2/17 1:27 AM
 

hmm
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Posted by beachbabe

I would give jewelry but would not spend more than 150. Don't give cash bc they might not actually give it to the girl for her savings account



confused by some of the statements. You and none of us know this would be the case (money part and her not getting it)

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Posted 4/2/17 1:29 AM
 

hmm
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Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

OP, my parents use to give money/check but my mom now likes to buy Jewelry from Macy etc, Perfectly fine

Posted 4/2/17 1:31 AM
 

jame0801
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Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Not sure why the fact that the uncle never giving u a gift affects how much you are giving ? I thought this was a cousins daughter.

Posted 4/2/17 8:15 AM
 

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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Easy answer................give whatever amount or whatever gift you feel comfortable giving.

Message edited 4/2/2017 8:32:05 AM.

Posted 4/2/17 8:31 AM
 

Megs1234
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

I would give a piece of jewelry, worth no more than $125.

Posted 4/2/17 8:49 AM
 

LuckyStar
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Re: Gift advice for out of state bat mitzva- for my cheapest relative

Posted by hmm

Posted by LuckyStar

Kids get THREE HUNDRED DOLLARS for bat mitzvahs???

We are raising our half Jewish child the wrong religion.....

OP, I would give jewelry, and not $300 worth.



?? Jewish my entire life and never heard of this lol



Haha, I asked DH and though he's been out of the bar/bat mitzvah circuit for 20 years and thought that was nuts and said you give it in chai? I thought he meant tea but then he explained it's multiples of 18 Chat Icon

Posted 4/2/17 8:10 PM
 
 
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