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Mamallamadrama
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Breaking something that belongs to someone else

If you are at someone's house, and you break something, do you replace it? Obviously some things are a part of a set and can't be replaced, but if you broke a salt shaker or special mug, Christmas plate...something like that. Would you replace or just say sorry, and move on?

Posted 12/26/16 1:39 PM
 
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Breaking something that belongs to someone else

Im going to follow ;)

Posted 12/26/16 2:08 PM
 

KarenK122
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Breaking something that belongs to someone else

I think it depends on what broke. A glass, plate, mug I would just apologize. As a host or a guest I wouldn't expect to have that replaced. I had a relative break my coffee pot once and I didn't want that replaced either. Accidents happen.

Now if they broke a TV, a gaming system, my phone then I would expect some sort of compensation as those are big ticket items.

Posted 12/26/16 2:09 PM
 

Deenintendo
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

Without knowing the full situation (how item broke and what broke) I'm gonna have to say that is a chance you take when you have people at your house...I don't think I would expect someone to replace anything.

Message edited 12/26/2016 2:21:50 PM.

Posted 12/26/16 2:18 PM
 

itsbabytime
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

It would depend on the situation I would say but in general for me - whenever this has happened I have always replaced. I would at least always offer and see what the response is.

I've personally experienced this with my kids toys and it really irked me when the parent did not offer to replace. My daughter has a beautiful porcelain tea set bought for her my her godmother. She had a friend over and they were pretend playing on her bedroom floor. Friends parent was over and we both heard the situation where the friend was repeatedly getting up and running around the room and my daughter was telling her to stop that she was going to break the tea set. Sure enough as my daughter started putting it way the girl stepped on one of the cups and saucer and cracked it. I was actually REALLY annoyed that the mom didn't offer to replace. I would NOT have accepted but the fact she didn't offer irked me. Another time my little nephew broke my daughters rainbow loom TWO times! The original and the replacement. He just picked it up and kept whacking it until it broke (he is 2). His mom (my sister in law) was there (I was not) and kept saying stop but didn't take it away from him! I was pissed that she didn't offer to get a new one first or second time... I can actually go on and on! It's a pet peeve of mine when it is a child that breaks something because a parent isn't supervising! LOL!

Posted 12/26/16 2:34 PM
 

MerryChristmas
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

Yes! My husband accidentally broke a wine glass having dinner at a friends house. I went out the next day and bought a set of 4 to cover the one we broke and to cover us for the next few dinners incase it happened again Chat Icon
They seemed very surprised when we brought the new glasses by. I guess they didn't expect it but it was the right thing to do.

Posted 12/26/16 2:42 PM
 

PhyllisNJoe
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

I agree with PPs with it depends on what it is. If I couldn't replace it, I'd probably give them a gift card to buy something to replace it with

I think it also depends on who's item it is. If I break something of one of my siblings, I wouldn't replace it unless they had a fit over it.

I personally would never expect someone to replace something or pay for something they break in my house.

Posted 12/26/16 2:58 PM
 

Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

It would really depend on what it is, how it was broken, and how apologetic the person was.

If it was a piece that's part of a set, you really can't replace it. If the person was outright reckless and broke something, they should probably offer to replace/fix it somehow, even if that wasn't possible.

There are really a lot of factors that would determine my opinion...more details please!

Posted 12/26/16 3:01 PM
 

mommy2B3
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

As the host I wouldn't expect someone to replace a broken mug etc., unless they are sloppy drunk and were an asshole and that's how it broke.

But for me, I would replace something that was broken, if it was DH, myself or 1 of our kids. If it's not something I can replace, I would offer money and if they didn't accept that, I would buy something I knew they liked and drop it by to say sorry again.

But from experience, I'm pretty sure my thoughts are the minority. A kid ripped my DDs special disney dress when I was doing someone a favor and watching her kids last minute, and she laughed it off that "boys will be boys", and as a mom of 2 boys I find her response the reason her boys act the way they do.

Posted 12/26/16 3:06 PM
 

Sparrow
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Breaking something that belongs to someone else

Completely depends on the situation. As a guest I'd always offer to pay or replace. I wouldn't necessarily expect a guest to replace something.

Posted 12/26/16 3:14 PM
 

xosweetiexo
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

I hosted over the holidays and put out my expensive plates. When I put them out, I took a deep breath and prepared myself that something might get broken. If someone broke it, I wouldn't expect it to be replaced. On the other hand, if I was a guest and my DD broke something I would offer to replace it... But that's just me. Everyone is different.

Posted 12/26/16 4:11 PM
 

Rosie0613
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

Posted by xosweetiexo

I hosted over the holidays and put out my expensive plates. When I put them out, I took a deep breath and prepared myself that something might get broken. If someone broke it, I wouldn't expect it to be replaced. On the other hand, if I was a guest and my DD broke something I would offer to replace it... But that's just me. Everyone is different.




this exactly

Posted 12/26/16 5:26 PM
 

chilltocam
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Breaking something that belongs to someone else

If you are a guest and break something, the right thing to do is to offer to pay for or replace the item you break. As the host, the right thing to do is to refuse the offer

Posted 12/26/16 5:56 PM
 

Adri
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

If I break something I would offer to replace it. Once in a party DH spilled some red wine in a carpet. We offered to take it to the dry cleaners. If it is a plate that belongs to a set, it would be more difficult to replace, but at least we would offer to replace it.

Posted 12/26/16 6:02 PM
 

haveaquestion
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Breaking something that belongs to someone else

My kids broke a wine glass at someone's house. I felt horrible and offered to replace. The hosts said not to worry about it.
I would get upset if someone broke something at my house but accidents happen. If it was something irreplaceable I wouldn't put it out for guests. there is no way I would let my kids use a porcelain tea set with their friends. Even if my kids knew it was fragile their friends would not.

Posted 12/26/16 6:38 PM
 

PitterPatter11
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

Posted by Maybe-Baybe

It would really depend on what it is, how it was broken, and how apologetic the person was.

If it was a piece that's part of a set, you really can't replace it. If the person was outright reckless and broke something, they should probably offer to replace/fix it somehow, even if that wasn't possible.

There are really a lot of factors that would determine my opinion...more details please!



I agree.

Posted 12/26/16 8:23 PM
 

skew
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

As a guest, I would offer to replace. If host declined, I would still do my best to find a replacement.

Message edited 12/27/2016 8:43:54 AM.

Posted 12/27/16 8:40 AM
 

AScottWolf
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

If I broke it I would replace it.

Posted 12/27/16 9:22 AM
 

oldtimerocknroll
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

I really think it depends on the circumstances.

I sat on a chair that was already wobbly (though I didn't know...a friend told me later) at a party recently, and the chair fully broke while I was on it, so I fell. I offered many, many times to replace it, but my friend refused.

Message edited 12/27/2016 9:35:59 AM.

Posted 12/27/16 9:34 AM
 

Katareen
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Breaking something that belongs to someone else

It depends...if a guest was helping to wash/dry dishes, or knocked over a glass at the dinner table, I would never allow them to replace. Accidents happen.
If someone was letting their kid run around and they broke something I'd expect them to offer to replace.

Posted 12/27/16 10:29 AM
 

CSK
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

Posted by haveaquestion

My kids broke a wine glass at someone's house. I felt horrible and offered to replace. The hosts said not to worry about it.
I would get upset if someone broke something at my house but accidents happen. If it was something irreplaceable I wouldn't put it out for guests. there is no way I would let my kids use a porcelain tea set with their friends. Even if my kids knew it was fragile their friends would not.



This exactly.
IMHO, as an adult, if i drop a glass or break a plate or whatever during a party at a friends house, I wouldn't expect to replace it. I'll feel bad, I'll apologize, I might offer to replace it, but I'd be 100% shocked if someone agreed to it. And I wouldn't be out searching for replacements. As a host, I wouldn't accept anyones offer to replace it. Stuff happens. As a host, if you can't accept that sometimes things break you really shouldn't be using those dishes or glasses.

The kids tea set leaves me scratching my head. I don't know the ages involved, but IMHO it doesn't sound like something kids should have access to it unsupervised, unless they are like 12, even then, kids are careless.

If my kid knocks into something at a friends house I'd offer to replace it. Depending on what it is, I might go out and do it. I'd feel less responsible for a toy that broke while they are playing than if my kid knocked over something.

Posted 12/27/16 10:29 AM
 

bunnyluck
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

Posted by chilltocam

If you are a guest and break something, the right thing to do is to offer to pay for or replace the item you break. As the host, the right thing to do is to refuse the offer



Couldn't agree more. As a host I'd never allow someone to pay for something, no matter the value. Accidents happen, that's life.

Posted 12/27/16 5:11 PM
 

NYCGirl80
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Re: Breaking something that belongs to someone else

I think it depends what is broken, but since you aren't giving more info...my general answer would be...

As a host, I wouldn't expect something broken to be replaced.

But as a guest, I would definitely replace it with the exact or something similar, or at least a token gift.

Posted 12/27/16 5:50 PM
 
 

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