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Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

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dawnygirl25
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

My daughter will be 10 this Summer. She has only slept at one friends house so far so I cant see her letting her go on a weekend trip with another family anytime soon. Maybe 13? I guess not until I feel comfortable....whenever that may happen. LOL

Posted 5/6/16 4:36 PM
 

Hofstra26
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




ITA! No one ever went away with friends when they were younger? I know I did. I want to say it started around 11 - 12ish.

To answer the question - I would say around 6th grade I guess. Of course it depends on the relationship. My boys are almost 7 and 5. We have a bunch of family friends I trust 100% so if the relationship stays this close and the opportunity comes up I'd allow it.




I never did as a kid, not even once. I think it's probably more typical that kids don't vacation with friends than not. Like I said, vacations are family time.........not friend time. But that's just me.

Posted 5/6/16 6:25 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




ITA! No one ever went away with friends when they were younger? I know I did. I want to say it started around 11 - 12ish.

To answer the question - I would say around 6th grade I guess. Of course it depends on the relationship. My boys are almost 7 and 5. We have a bunch of family friends I trust 100% so if the relationship stays this close and the opportunity comes up I'd allow it.




I never did as a kid, not even once. I think it's probably more typical that kids don't vacation with friends than not. Like I said, vacations are family time.........not friend time. But that's just me.



I agree that is probably not typical but I see many more families now going away together.
I went across country by myself to meet a friend to stay with her family for a week but I was 16 then.

Posted 5/6/16 6:35 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by SchizoBride09

18 and even that's iffy



You must not have older kids. I went across the country on a plane to meet a friend at 16. As your kids get older you can imagine it more.

You do realize that some kids go away to college at 17 lol

Posted 5/6/16 6:38 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Me too as they might have kids going away to college at 17 but they won't allow them to go on vacation with a friend until 18. Bawahhhaaa

Posted 5/6/16 6:40 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.

Posted 5/6/16 6:43 PM
 

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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



You are kidding right? You used to make these snide comments all the time...and I see you making them on your new name here also. Because a family doesn't allow their kids to go away on someone else's family vacation doesn't mean they are deprived or have zero fun in their lives. How silly.

Posted 5/6/16 7:20 PM
 

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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



What a dumb statement. Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/6/16 8:53 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by BargainMama

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



You are kidding right? You used to make these snide comments all the time...and I see you making them on your new name here also. Because a family doesn't allow their kids to go away on someone else's family vacation doesn't mean they are deprived or have zero fun in their lives. How silly.



No, depriving your kids of doing things that kids do is not having fun and allowing them to grow. Yes, each child is different but the majority of them would like to have friends and do things with them. I have read enough comments on this board that show that many parents are holding their kids back now for fears of parents that are unjust.

Posted 5/6/16 9:02 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



What a dumb statement. Chat Icon Chat Icon



How so, please explain how? I see so many statements lately on here and other places that parents won't let their kids do things until they are 18. That is ridiculous as you can't just say run after you haven't taught them to walk. You say you have young kids. Believe me, you will see how you eat your words as they get older.

Posted 5/6/16 9:04 PM
 

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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by BargainMama

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



You are kidding right? You used to make these snide comments all the time...and I see you making them on your new name here also. Because a family doesn't allow their kids to go away on someone else's family vacation doesn't mean they are deprived or have zero fun in their lives. How silly.



No, depriving your kids of doing things that kids do is not having fun and allowing them to grow. Yes, each child is different but the majority of them would like to have friends and do things with them. I have read enough comments on this board that show that many parents are holding their kids back now for fears of parents that are unjust.



So because someone doesn't allow sleepovers, or for their children to go on vacation solo with other families, that means they don't have fun or even have friends? Seriously, get a life. Your responses are just so ridiculous for everything on here. There are plenty of people that grow up to be independent adults that didn't have sleepovers and vacations with other families.


...and I'm not even going not going to go back and forth with you on this. I can just do a search and bring up the last thread where you beat a horse to death on the issue.

Message edited 5/6/2016 9:12:34 PM.

Posted 5/6/16 9:06 PM
 

Hofstra26
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



What a dumb statement. Chat Icon Chat Icon



How so, please explain how? I see so many statements lately on here and other places that parents won't let their kids do things until they are 18. That is ridiculous as you can't just say run after you haven't taught them to walk. You say you have young kids. Believe me, you will see how you eat your words as they get older.



Believe me, I won't.

I wasn't into sleepovers. I never vacationed with another family. I didn't even go away to college. However, I am and always have been EXTREMELY independent. The silly things you're talking about have nothing to do with anything, you can grow into a fully functioning, independent adult without (GASP) ever having vacationed with a friend. So crazy, right???!! Chat Icon

Message edited 5/6/2016 9:16:10 PM.

Posted 5/6/16 9:10 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by BargainMama

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by BargainMama

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



You are kidding right? You used to make these snide comments all the time...and I see you making them on your new name here also. Because a family doesn't allow their kids to go away on someone else's family vacation doesn't mean they are deprived or have zero fun in their lives. How silly.



No, depriving your kids of doing things that kids do is not having fun and allowing them to grow. Yes, each child is different but the majority of them would like to have friends and do things with them. I have read enough comments on this board that show that many parents are holding their kids back now for fears of parents that are unjust.



So because someone doesn't allow sleepovers, or for their children to go on vacation solo with other families, that means they don't have fun or even have friends? Seriously, get a life. Your responses are just so ridiculous for everything on here. There are plenty of people that grow up to be independent adults that didn't have sleepovers and vacations with other families.



I get that, I really do. I don't get the parents who won't allow them to do anything for their own fears. Our job is to allow our children to grow and flourish and yes sometimes that means letting go. I can't see how you can say a child can not do this or that until they are 18. Slow and steady wins the race.

Posted 5/6/16 9:10 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



What a dumb statement. Chat Icon Chat Icon



How so, please explain how? I see so many statements lately on here and other places that parents won't let their kids do things until they are 18. That is ridiculous as you can't just say run after you haven't taught them to walk. You say you have young kids. Believe me, you will see how you eat your words as they get older.



Believe me, I won't.



Our jobs are to let our kids go, as hard as that is.

Posted 5/6/16 9:12 PM
 

Hofstra26
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



What a dumb statement. Chat Icon Chat Icon



How so, please explain how? I see so many statements lately on here and other places that parents won't let their kids do things until they are 18. That is ridiculous as you can't just say run after you haven't taught them to walk. You say you have young kids. Believe me, you will see how you eat your words as they get older.



Believe me, I won't.



Our jobs are to let our kids go, as hard as that is.



Yes, we all know that. But as a parent, it's not my job to give then every life experience leading up to their 18th birthday. To each his own.

Posted 5/6/16 9:21 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



What a dumb statement. Chat Icon Chat Icon



How so, please explain how? I see so many statements lately on here and other places that parents won't let their kids do things until they are 18. That is ridiculous as you can't just say run after you haven't taught them to walk. You say you have young kids. Believe me, you will see how you eat your words as they get older.



Believe me, I won't.



Our jobs are to let our kids go, as hard as that is.



Yes, we all know that. But as a parent, it's not my job to give then every life experience leading up to their 18th birthday. To each his own.



Yes, to each his own. I am glad that I am able to give my kids the most life experiences I can before 18 and I am almost to 18 and have gone through the journey. It was not an easy one but one I know that has been paved well so my child will be able to make good choices and was able to do things, even as scary as a parent it was to let them do, that allowed them to grow and become more independent.

Posted 5/6/16 9:29 PM
 

ChilisWife
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

I guess I'm just an overprotective parent and I am okay with that. I just started dropping my son off at sports practices and birthday parties without staying, and he is 9. I can't image sending my child hours away by plane or in someone else's car and worrying the whole time whether they were okay or if they were swimming somewhere without a lifeguard or G-d forbid they get sick or hurt I'm nowhere near them. Nobody will ever watch your child the way that you do. Just reading the thread on the other board about the "Aunt Diane" movie makes this even clearer. Yes I agree they need to have some independence and that will come in time but probably slower than others. My parents were the same way with me - I was always the one not allowed to do anything - but once I went to college, I was fine - I've lived in other cities on my own, traveled to other countries, etc. I never felt like I was deprived any experiences.

Posted 5/6/16 9:42 PM
 

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Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

I never went away with anyone outside my own family until after I graduated HS and none of my friends ever came with us on a family vacation. I can't say I would be comfortable with it AT ALL before DC graduated HS.

ETA: My DC will not graduate HS until age 18 based on her birthday.

Message edited 5/6/2016 10:24:30 PM.

Posted 5/6/16 10:20 PM
 

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Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

5th or 6th grade as long as I knew the family well and it was only 1 or 2 nights.

Posted 5/7/16 1:37 PM
 

Adri
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

I thought I was going to be more open about that, but I'm not. DS is 10 and (although he has not being asked for), I wouldn't feel comfortable letting him go on vacation with another family. We have been taken my nephew sporadically since he was maybe 8 or 9 though, and there is not problem.

DS only has had sleepovers with my sister. He has had friends over for playdates, sleepovers, we have gone together as families for weekends in hotels or houses.... But vacation is family time for me.

Btw, I don't think he is missing on the fun at all. He just went in an overnight trip with the school - and it was the first time for most of the families there. Maybe I'm overprotective, but I feel he has lots of years to grow up and be independent.

Posted 5/7/16 3:35 PM
 

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Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

I'd think middle school/high school. I teach HS and I swear 30-40% of my students go away with their friend's families over break. We started taking my sister's friend on vacation with us in middle school. We were close family friends.

Posted 5/7/16 9:06 PM
 

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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by blessedmama

Posted by Sash

Posted by Straightarrow

Posted by nferrandi

I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



What a dumb statement. Chat Icon Chat Icon



How so, please explain how? I see so many statements lately on here and other places that parents won't let their kids do things until they are 18. That is ridiculous as you can't just say run after you haven't taught them to walk. You say you have young kids. Believe me, you will see how you eat your words as they get older.



Believe me, I won't.



Our jobs are to let our kids go, as hard as that is.



Yes, we all know that. But as a parent, it's not my job to give then every life experience leading up to their 18th birthday. To each his own.



Yes, to each his own. I am glad that I am able to give my kids the most life experiences I can before 18 and I am almost to 18 and have gone through the journey. It was not an easy one but one I know that has been paved well so my child will be able to make good choices and was able to do things, even as scary as a parent it was to let them do, that allowed them to grow and become more independent.



I think it is almost comical that you are suggesting and actually think that allowing your child to go away with classmates at 9 years old means any of this! Actually I think it can have more negative than positive effects on a young child. For me and my family (and what I see in my area) we go away often but we make these memories together as a family. This is what childhood is about IMO. Life runs in stages and the stage for them to go away alone with friends is not in the elementary years IMO nor do I feel it is appropriate. That said, sometimes we will go away with friends and/or family and we will all have an amazing time together but, my kids are blessed enough to be able to travel with their family and have these memories for a lifetime. If I could not do this for my children maybe I would consider letting them go with others.

To answer the original post at my DC's current ages I would absolutely not consider what you are suggesting. Not sure the actual age but, I am thinking HS at the earliest. I would be surprised if a friend in 5th grade asked to take my child on vacation especially involving a plane. No way. And it has nothing to do with making my child independent.

The first vacation I went on alone was spring break in college. IMO that is an appropriate time for my children as well for many reasons.

Posted 5/8/16 11:12 AM
 

KarenK122
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Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

My daughter will never go away with out me until she is legal adult. I would also not sent my 17 year old off to college, because they are not a legal adult. Every single child is different and I know what my child can handle and what she can not. That is MY decision for MY child. Yes I would allow another child to join us for day trips/overnights but that is their parent's decision to allow or to not allow. Maybe we just all be considerate of each other's choices and not make snide remarks If you want to set your children off into the world at 9, good for you, if you don't, then good for you too. It amazes me the nastiness of people on this board and how people think their decisions are so much better than others. Unless someone is beating their child, mind your own business and keep your comments respectful.

Posted 5/8/16 11:33 AM
 

GoldenRod
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

In Boy Scouts, I see a lot of boys going away to summer camp at age 11 for a week. We sent DS to a Scout camp at around age 9. You can definitely see the difference in boys who have never left their parent's side until then, and those that have been more independent growing up. (I'm not making any judgments, just noting that I can see a difference).

We just went to NJ a few weeks ago, and took one of DD's 10 yo friends with us. It wasn't for an overnight activity, but it was out of state...
If I knew the parents, I'd be OK with DC going away with someone around 9 or 10.

Posted 5/8/16 12:22 PM
 

blessedmama
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Re: Spinoff- at what age would you let DC go away with a friend?

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I have to be honest, I'm surprised at some of the responses.



Ha me too

I'd probably say around 10ish. But like I've said before on these posts, my DS goes to his dad's every other weekend and I have no control on what he does there, so my perspective is a little different.

I also had a summer house growing up and kids definitely starting coming out around 10



This site is not he norm.. I would take it with a grain of salt.

To answer your question: My Stepson was about 10 or 11, I think I would allow the same for my DS for friends of parents I knew well and if he stood over their house before. But since I'm horrible at the whole play date thing it wouldn't come up. My sister has taken my son for a week vacation at the shore when he was 5.




No it is not as I don't get how some people wouldn't allow their kids to go on vacation with a friend and family until 18 but their kids might be 17 when they start college. I actually feel bad for all these kids as it doesn't sound like many of them have fun childhoods anymore. No sleepovers, no being independent.



What a dumb statement. Chat Icon Chat Icon



How so, please explain how? I see so many statements lately on here and other places that parents won't let their kids do things until they are 18. That is ridiculous as you can't just say run after you haven't taught them to walk. You say you have young kids. Believe me, you will see how you eat your words as they get older.



Believe me, I won't.



Our jobs are to let our kids go, as hard as that is.



Yes, we all know that. But as a parent, it's not my job to give then every life experience leading up to their 18th birthday. To each his own.



Yes, to each his own. I am glad that I am able to give my kids the most life experiences I can before 18 and I am almost to 18 and have gone through the journey. It was not an easy one but one I know that has been paved well so my child will be able to make good choices and was able to do things, even as scary as a parent it was to let them do, that allowed them to grow and become more independent.



I think it is almost comical that you are suggesting and actually think that allowing your child to go away with classmates at 9 years old means any of this! Actually I think it can have more negative than positive effects on a young child. For me and my family (and what I see in my area) we go away often but we make these memories together as a family. This is what childhood is about IMO. Life runs in stages and the stage for them to go away alone with friends is not in the elementary years IMO nor do I feel it is appropriate. That said, sometimes we will go away with friends and/or family and we will all have an amazing time together but, my kids are blessed enough to be able to travel with their family and have these memories for a lifetime. If I could not do this for my children maybe I would consider letting them go with others.

To answer the original post at my DC's current ages I would absolutely not consider what you are suggesting. Not sure the actual age but, I am thinking HS at the earliest. I would be surprised if a friend in 5th grade asked to take my child on vacation especially involving a plane. No way. And it has nothing to do with making my child independent.

The first vacation I went on alone was spring break in college. IMO that is an appropriate time for my children as well for many reasons.




Not sure if this is to me but I never suggested 9 years old and I was 16 on a plane ride alone.

Posted 5/8/16 4:04 PM
 
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