Parents of 2+

DH and I are starting to think about baby #2, for those of you who went from 1 to 2 kids (my daughter is one now so maybe around 2 when the second baby would arrive, how was it? We are in such a rhythm with DD and its so easy (good sleeper eater etc) so wondering if a similar groove is possible with 2. TIA.

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I think it depends on the child's personality more than anything. You could end up with 2 easygoing children & you won't really feel any upheaval from having a second child.

My experience has been different. My kids are 21 months apart. My older ds has been tough to deal with since the day he was born. He fights everything, tons of crying/screaming, & there have always been some issue with eating, sleeping, just getting through every day, now the tantrums, ugh. When I was pregnant with #2, I was terrified it was going to be more of the same (and I kind of expected it since it's what I was used to). So far, though he's only a few months old, #2 has been a dream baby & goes with the flow... And #1 is still a handful!!! So going from 1 to 2 hasn't changed our lives very much.

Parents of 2+

I agree with above poster it depends on your child my oldest and second are 7 years apart so there wasn't any issues. My youngest is 22 months and when this baby arrives next month they will be 23 months apart so yes we have a routine which I don't think will affect her too much. My fear is jealousy since she gets a lot of attention a simple hug from another sibling now sends her in terror mode.

Parents of 2+

I may be in the minority but having #2 threw me over the edge. My dd was 3 when he was born and she was so good and easy from day 1. Well, her little brother is the complete opposite. He is difficult and needy and whiney. I feel bad for my daughter sometimes because her brother gets so much of the attention and we stopped doing things like going out to dinner and stuff because he is so difficult. He is 16 months old now and I just keep telling myself he will get older and things will get easier.

Parents of 2+

Sorry double post

Message edited 7/3/2015 9:01:00 AM.

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I had a harder time with my first, but I think that was because I was learning.

Logistically, it is harder with 2 to split time between, but I learned from my mistakes w first.

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Mine are 25 months apart.its going to be harder bc you have less down time with 2. When it's just one, I was able to get things done when she was napping but with 2 that was much harder, esp with an infant that would not nap. When dd2 came home dd1 was in daycare 3 times a week, but we quickly learned that we needed full time. It gets easier as they get older but in the beginning it was def not so easy.

Parents of 2+

For us, the transition from 1-2 was incredibly smooth. We were worried about having such a good routine with #1 and then having it get all upset by the unpredictability and lack of schedule of a newborn. But we actually found that having a solid routine with #1 allowed #2 to just fit himself right into it. It seemed to help him get on a good schedule from a very early age. We now have 3 and found that the transition from 0-1 was infinitely more difficult than any other.

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For us going from 0-1 was easy. Ds1 slept great from the beginning, didn't cry, and just overall easy going. 1-2 was much harder. Ds2 was colic and had a witching hours which ds1 didnt have. Ds1 was 22 months when ds2 waa born. Ds1 is still very needy and clingy. Overall it has been a rough adjustment but I would still so it over so I say if you want another...jump in you will be fine.

Parents of 2+

Baby #2 is due in Feb and my kids will be 23 months apart. My daughter is a TOUGH child. Sleeping, eating, everything so I am fearful that my second will be the same way.

Parents of 2+

My boys are 22 months apart. It was pretty easy going from 1-2 besides the crazy sleepless nights in the beginning. I have 2 easy kids though. I think (like others have said) that it really depends on their moods and temperaments!