I went through something crazy the last few weeks...

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I went through something crazy the last few weeks...

Thought I'd finally share here (as i sit with insomnia at almost 39 weeks pg!).

So here is the story....I started an accelerated anatomy/physiology II course in early June. It just literally ended 2 nights ago and was mon-thurs nights, 3 hours/night.

A woman in my class approached me on day 1 asking me questions during our break about being pregnant, when I was due etc...innocent questions but I knew from the first moment of talking w/her there was something socially off. I honestly thought maybe aspergers...she seemed nice enough but not much social awareness if that makes sense. She was also pretty unkempt (crazy hair, dirty looking shirt etc..). I'm giving these details to give you a better image of what she was like.

The second day of class, she asked to please exchange cell #'s just in case one of us missed something and needed to text the other person.
Again, I knew she was "off" but it was one of those things where I just thought she didnt know how to communicate well, and was harmless. I didn't get a horribly weird feeling, no real alerts went off in my mind.

Soon things began getting very very weird. My son fell down the stairs the second week of school-he was in the ER (landed on his face). I was telling the girls at my lab desk about it and this person overheard...she ran up to me asking a million questions...there wasn't much to tell. He was OK and nothing was broken even though his nose looked so swollen. The very next night, I am a few minutes late to class. the girl across from me whispers to me that this woman has been looking for me, asking everyone in sight if I'll be in class that night and seems upset that I may be absent. At our break, she runs over to me with a huge bag...filled with presents for my 3 year old and a hand written card about how she hopes he is ok, to feel better, to enjoy the toys and she hopes to meet him soon. She signs it, "Love your friend, ____.".

I officially feel weird. I thank her...not sure of what else to do..tell her it was unnecessary since she doesn't know him, but thanks.

I forget to mention that before this incident the phone calls have started. She has called my cell phone sometimes 4 times/day to say hi or ask a random question. We have been in one study group together and she was NOT there to study. She asked the group questions unrelated to AP and we are all annoyed to have the time wasted. I vow not to study with her in a group again.

I ignore a lot of calls...sometimes I text her back very quickly answering a questions she may have about course material but I don't get personal with anything. She has now said more weird things in class ...looking at my chest and asking me if I'll be breastfeeding. Asking me how she too can have a baby since she doesn't have a man in her life...that she REALLY wants to be a mommy but can't find a guy. I approach the professor privately and relay my concerns. Tell him I'm not feeling right about her. He tells me that he had her for AP1 and that although she has some social issues, he feels she is harmless but if I need to go to campus security to let him know.

Now we're at the second to last week of class. I arrive early to look at lab models and see her rocking back and forth on a bench outside class. There is one other girl sitting near her looking at her...we both make eye contact and wonder what the hell is happening. She is muttering stuff and seems very agitated. She says "no one gives an eff about me, i'm gonna fail this class and no one helps me out..". She then looks at me and yells "I won't even complain to you, because the professor LIKES you and you get good grades and you like him too". At this point I'm scared. She looks crazy (you guys would not believe what she looks like, seriously..shes scary to begin with but at this point its like something snapped).

I start quickly walking down the hallway and run into the professor who is coming the other way. I'm upset. He pulls me into an empty classroom to talk in private. I tell him what is happening and he is now pretty concerned...he tell me another student approached him the day before with a similar complaint. I tell him I'm scared at this point, she seriously looks like she wants to hurt someone. He tells me to go into the classroom and he's going to talk to her.

At this point, most of the class is in the lab to begin our exam and she's still outside the room. We all suddenly hear screaming. She is seriously SCREAMING in his face...we can hear him trying to calm her down. I hear things like "i guess you have to be pregnant to get attention around here" and "i lost my hearing in one ear and i have a disease in my ear and get no sympathy but SHE has a baby and doesn't even realize how good she got it". I'm shaking at this point. I realize that she is pretty much insane. The professor walks in the class and and you can see this woman walking out of the building. He told her to go home, to take the exam the following week when she is calm and rational and not to come back to the school for now.

Campus security is now alerted...i feel better knowing they are surrounding the building. I get an escort to my car once the test is over. Prior to that, the other girls and myself start talking about the whole thing and all this stuff comes out about how she's made several comments to people about how I probably get extra special treatment for being pg (I never once have, never even missed a class). How I have a blessing growing in me while she has a curse....then I hear that she has been sending love letter type emails to another girl in class. UGH. this girl had just complained a few days prior as well. ALL this stuff starts coming out....how a former classmate of hers apparently warned another girl in our class to not be around her and keep our distance.

Wish we had all known these things prior and how bad it really was. A bunch of us had to file official reports w the school. She was supposed to show up to meet with the Dean and never did. She disconnected her phones (cell and land line) and it turns out her address on file is invalid. No one has seen her since. Security was there the whole last week waiting outside the building just in case.

I know this was a long story and there are things I know I'm leaving out (such as the crazy long rambling texts I received, ugh..) but figured I would share it. I really really wish I hadn't tried to be nice to her from day one. I have a tendency to feel bad for those that may be different or have some social issues and always try to treat everyone the same. DH says I need to put on a stoic face like he does and it'll keep people away, lol.

I am still creeped out. I am due with my baby in a week, and this whole thing has caused so much stress its sickening. She is not allowed back on campus or to continue there until further mental health evals, but still. I realized my address is public, not sure if she knows my last name but she worked PT for the school doing work study and who knows what access she has to records.

It felt like something out of a lifetime movie. And what makes it worse is that I really really loved this course and the professor..he made it so enjoyable and interesting..I aced the class grade wise, but the last few weeks were not what they should have been. I am glad to be done and hoping its all a distant memory.

Thx for reading. Sorry for the length!!!!

I forgot to add..she works as an LPN for a hospice....can you imagine?? she is around people who are in their final days. She is in college to become an RN but has been failing most prerequisites. I told the dean that this is someone who should never ever ever be treating patients and pushing meds. I know that is not up to me to decide, but its a very scary thought that this person could be someones nurse!! At this point Im sure the chances of nursing school admission for her are slim, and she needs to prob retake AP at another school, but still..really makes you think Chat Icon

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Posted 7/20/13 6:41 AM