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kelkel09
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Michi
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
I think your DH needs to step in. A pregnant woman does not need this type of stress. They are being verrry selfish!!!
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| Posted 5/27/11 1:55 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
I would stop with the texting and pickup the phone to talk you your SIL so this doesn't blow up.
As for your MIL, she sounds a little crazy but let it go and try to focus on the baby, that's what this is all about
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| Posted 5/27/11 1:58 PM |
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kelkel09
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
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| Posted 5/27/11 2:01 PM |
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buttercup
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
your DH needs to step in and tell his mom and sister to STFU. It should be a shower honoring you.. and I'm so proud of you for putting SIL in her place. Don't let petty people get ruin your shower or planning it..
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| Posted 5/27/11 2:02 PM |
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kelkel09
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
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| Posted 5/27/11 2:02 PM |
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DreamComeTrue
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
I would be mad too! But I agree wit Cranky... try to keep this about the baby. And SIL is being selfish too. How old will she be this year? Showers are during the daytime. She will still have that night to go out and celebrate. She just said it's her bday weekend not her actual bday.
On the flip side, it's "nice" of your MIL to "help". My MIL did nada for the entire shower. My mom did all the planning, my dad helped set up, and my brother opened his home for the location. And almost 4 weeks later MIL is still b****ing to DH that his grandmother (MIL's exMIL) was there.
It seems that no matter the happy ocassion... weddings, showers, babies, there is always someone who won't be happy. The ONLY person they should make sure is happy is YOU. And FTR, if your MILs friends can't go one afternoon without their iced tea then they are just as nuts.
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| Posted 5/27/11 2:05 PM |
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Bearcat
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
wow.... and good for you for telling your SIL to shove it!
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| Posted 5/27/11 2:41 PM |
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AllyCat
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Posted by DreamComeTrue
And FTR, if your MILs friends can't go one afternoon without their iced tea then they are just as nuts.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with all this nonsense, but this line is hysterical! 
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| Posted 5/27/11 2:47 PM |
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RubyWoo
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Posted by letsmakeababy
Posted by Michi
I think your DH needs to step in. A pregnant woman does not need this type of stress. They are being verrry selfish!!!
DH agrees with me that they are crazy/selfish....but then he always just says to ignore them bc that's just how they are. That just gets me annoyed bc it shouldn't excuse their behavior.
But that's almost worse to ignore them b/c they are going to continue creating drama for you up through the date of your shower. Why should your shower be ruined or you have to deal w/any unnecessary stress b/c of their bs.
Oh, and not for nothing, but your SIL really can't celebrate her b-day at some other point during her "birthday weekend"?
Ugh. So sorry you're dealing w/this. I absolutely HATE family drama.
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| Posted 5/27/11 2:49 PM |
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kelkel09
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
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| Posted 5/27/11 2:56 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
What is wrong with people?? I swear weddings and showers bring out the crazy in people!!!!!!
ETA- I agree, don't text back anymore and have DH step in. You don't need to be dealing with it.
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:09 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Sorry I agree with your SIL. You had to know when her birthday was and really could have had your mom pick a different date. The reason this bothers me is that my own soon to be SIL is doing this for her bridal shower on my birthday. Except I have to schlep to DC. No my DH and kids are not welcome. I am bitter about it.
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:10 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Posted by LSP2005
Sorry I agree with your SIL. You had to know when her birthday was and really could have had your mom pick a different date. The reason this bothers me is that my own soon to be SIL is doing this for her bridal shower on my birthday. Except I have to schlep to DC. No my DH and kids are not welcome. I am bitter about it.
If it was on her actual bday i could understand her being mad...
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:11 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Posted by LSP2005
Sorry I agree with your SIL. You had to know when her birthday was and really could have had your mom pick a different date. The reason this bothers me is that my own soon to be SIL is doing this for her bridal shower on my birthday. Except I have to schlep to DC. No my DH and kids are not welcome. I am bitter about it.
Eh . . .at this age in my life, it's not like I do anything that exciting on my birthday from like noon to 4. For my soon to be niece or nephew, i would've sucked it up.
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:13 PM |
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Michi
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
unless it is a "big" birthday 25...30...40..50 and some big party was planned for her, i think ur sil needs to get a grip..
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:21 PM |
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kelkel09
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:26 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
I think she is being a little ridiculous. Is she still a teenager or turning 21? Because otherwise I don't know a whole lot of grown adults who still claim entire weekends for their birthday. It's one year, get over it. Besides, I would love to spend a few hours of my "special weekend" celebrating my new niece and nephew.
You're already agreeing to travel a long distance to accommodate them. How many concessions do they want you to make?
But I would not respond to her or anyone else anymore. You don't need this stress and as the mommy to be you shouldn't be the one getting involved in the drama. You're only job is to show up that day and be pampered.
ETA.....She's 37?!? And her birthday doesn't even fall on that actual weekend? She sounds like a winner.
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:26 PM |
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codybear
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Your SIL and MIL are being ridiculous. These things always bring out the selfish in people! 
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:34 PM |
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BlueDiamonds
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Posted by letsmakeababy
Posted by LSP2005
Sorry I agree with your SIL. You had to know when her birthday was and really could have had your mom pick a different date. The reason this bothers me is that my own soon to be SIL is doing this for her bridal shower on my birthday. Except I have to schlep to DC. No my DH and kids are not welcome. I am bitter about it.
it is not on her actual birthday it is a few days later....and my mom was aiming for a weekend in late august. She checked with MIL and she never mentioned it was problem. SIL is 37 years old...she doesnt need a whole birthday weekend. She still has Friday or Sunday to do something. And, the shower is not far from her house so she still has Saturday night. I just don't see the big deal.
from your original post, i thought your SIL was a teenager/early twenties. she's acting like a child!! are there other issues here, is she jealous? on one hand, i can't even believe she would text you with such nonsense. but then again, you have no idea what your MIL said to her.
i agree with OP, time for DH to step in. no reason for you to be dealing with this.
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:39 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Posted by letsmakeababy
Posted by LSP2005
Sorry I agree with your SIL. You had to know when her birthday was and really could have had your mom pick a different date. The reason this bothers me is that my own soon to be SIL is doing this for her bridal shower on my birthday. Except I have to schlep to DC. No my DH and kids are not welcome. I am bitter about it.
it is not on her actual birthday it is a few days later....and my mom was aiming for a weekend in late august. She checked with MIL and she never mentioned it was problem. SIL is 37 years old...she doesnt need a whole birthday weekend. She still has Friday or Sunday to do something. And, the shower is not far from her house so she still has Saturday night. I just don't see the big deal.
Oh in that case let her celebrate the weekend before. The only reason I was mad is that we were going to go away for my birthday and now cannot do that. She knew we had the plans too.
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:53 PM |
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summerbaby11
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
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Posted by LSP2005
Sorry I agree with your SIL. You had to know when her birthday was and really could have had your mom pick a different date. The reason this bothers me is that my own soon to be SIL is doing this for her bridal shower on my birthday. Except I have to schlep to DC. No my DH and kids are not welcome. I am bitter about it.
Eh . . .at this age in my life, it's not like I do anything that exciting on my birthday from like noon to 4. For my soon to be niece or nephew, i would've sucked it up.
seriously! who cares, even if it's on her birthday! I would totally suck it up happily for my future niece/nephew as well!
and I agree with the OP and your texts to your SIL. she sounds just as annoying and selfish as her mom. 
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:53 PM |
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kelkel09
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
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| Posted 5/27/11 3:54 PM |
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evrythng4areason
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
noooooooooooooooo!
i'm not here the 20th 
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| Posted 5/27/11 4:51 PM |
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KimSL
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Re: shower planning drama...I AM SO MAD!
Sorry this is happening to you. The day is about you and your baby and your MIL has seemed to loose sight of this. Since it seems she got a lot of allowances for your event, I'd keep the rest of the planning (decor, favors, etc) to your liking. MIL's can be a little crazy, which is why I didn't let mines get involved in the shower planning this time like I let her for the bridal shower. Hope everything works out
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